Post # 17
Put your foot down! If you’re going to have a ton of people watching the first look, it kinda spoils the point of it. It would be like, if you were doing photos between ceremony and reception, having them all come along while you get photos taken. There is no need for them to be there, and they will most likely get in the way and distract you from what you’re doing.
We had the photographer and bridal party and that was all we planned for. We’re not big on public displays of affection, so it took a while just to get my partner hugging me with everyone around! My Mother-In-Law turned up to take photos as well, which we weren’t impressed about, but my partner just told her to stay out of the way.
Post # 18
I could be wrong, but I really thought the first look was totally private and only the groom got to see you before you walk the aisle. Isn’t everyone else supposed to be surprised?
Can you guys have your private first look and then walk to a different location where these other people are for the pics or whatever?
Post # 19
@Westwood: That’s a great idea! If it comes from someone other than me, maybe she’ll rethink it.
I guess I have to grow some guts. I don’t mind the bridal party & our parents watching (at a little bit of a distance). I just want to avoid a whole army of people ‘awwing’ at us while we awkardly kiss & pose.
Post # 20
Notify the photographer. Make him/her the “bad guy” to tell your mom and the rest of people that he/she prefers to shoot with ONLY the bride and groom present. If you’re shooting the first look in a part of the venue property separate from where you’re doing group photos, designate someone to round up the crew to that location while you and Fiance are doing your private photos.
Post # 21
@philodendron: I love that idea! I think it’s ridiculous that the OP isn’t allowed to do her first look the way she wants (mums can be irritating! my parents are paying for my wedding too and it’s such a thin line to walk sometimes) and I think making the photographer the bad guy is a perfect solution 🙂
Post # 22
if we end up doing it, it’ll be just me, Fiance & our photographer (who happens to be a close friend)
but, I think you are entitled to the right of having just you and Fiance @ the first look!
Post # 23
Them paying for the wedding, I’m going to assume, is to make you happy and give you a magical day.
The first look should be a private thing if it’s not taking place at the ceremony (unless you wish otherwise). This is one thing I would put my foot down about.
My dad is paying for our wedding (granted, we are on a serious budget) and I feel really greatful that he has next to no demands what-so-ever.