Post # 1
I’m going dress shopping weekend after next and I’m taking three people with me; my mom, one of my Maid/Matron of Honor, and another friend. A bunch of people have been telling me this is a bad idea because there will be too many opinions on top of my own. I know that these people are going to be honest with me but not brutally so, and I also don’t feel like everyone has to love my dress. I of course want my mom to like it because she’s buying it and of course I want to love it. I value my Maid/Matron of Honor and friend’s opinion, but it isn’t going to determine whether or not I buy a dress I love.
So, how many people went with you? Do you regret not taking more? Taking too many? Did it make things harder for you?
Post # 3
I just had my Future Mother-In-Law and my mom, but I also invited my Future Sister-In-Law and my best friend who werent able to attend,
I dont think its the number of people that matters, but how close to them you are. People you are close with will give you honest opinions without putting their own desires over yours (hopefully) because ultimately they want to see you happy
vs that one girl who just sits there and is like “nah that’s ugly” to every dress you come out in
ETA: forgot to answer the last question, I dont regret inviting who I did, I wish the other ladies had been able to make it. It was nice to have them there with me, and amazingly all three of us agreed on “the” dress. My mother and I NEVER agree on clothing, so it was a miracle
Post # 4
None. There was no one here to go with me. I don’t regret. I am grateful that the place I purchased it allowed me to take pictures of me in my gown before I bought it. I sent those to my mom and two good girlfriends. Everyone loved it. I bought it.
My mom is coming to town for my fitting. I’m glad she can be a part of that and will value her opinion. We will shop for my dress rehearsal dress together.
Post # 5
@SouthernGirl: My mom flew in just to go dress shopping with me in January. We went to three appointments together, and my future mother-in-law came with us to two other appointments (though one of those appointments was a second appointment to try on the dress I ended up ordering).
I’m glad I didn’t bring a lot of people, but I was anxious about wedding dress shopping. Sometimes I wish my best friend/man of honor was in the area to go to some of the appointments with us, but I don’t think I would have asked anyone else to go.
Post # 6
I went with my mom, my stepmom, and my best friend who is my Maid/Matron of Honor. It was great! My stepmom can be super critical, but everything was awesome. My mom was just happy to be there, and my Maid/Matron of Honor probably wouldn’t say anything negative about anything. I reeeeaaally had to convince her that I wanted her to be honest because it wouldn’t hurt my feelings and I really wanted to know her opinion! But overall, I knew that nobody would change my mind or keep me from buying what I liked. I really think it depends on the bride! Some people want tons of people there, some people only want one or two, and some don’t want any at all. Just do what feels right to you. :]
Post # 7
@MissTexasFire: I hope so too. I’m honestly more worried about my mom than anyone else. My mom is not always the best at expressing her thoughts without her comments being hurtful and being a plus sized bride, this makes me nervous.
@bunny8: That’s great they let you take pictures 🙂 I couldn’t do it alone. I can’t make a decision to save my life.
Post # 8
@SouthernGirl: I understand, my mom is Korean, and Korean people have NO filter whatsoever. I was also “blessed” with the same personality. She will say any and everything on her mind and it can be hurtful sometimes,
however… she is your mom and she loves you, and this is the happiest time in your life (thus far) and hopefully she will be too excited to be negative.
If you’re really worried about it, I would have a conversation with her beforehand, just letting her know that you love her, and really need her to be supportive and if she doesnt like something, its okay to say something, but in a KIND way, and give you a reason WHY, not just a negative comment.
Post # 9
Four people went with me each time and I thought it was a great number. I think it’s more abou the personality of the people you bring than how many of them there are.
Post # 10
My mom, grandma and future mother in law came with me to look at dresses. The second time (after I changed my mind) my mom and a friend came.
Post # 11
4 – just my mom, grandma, and 2 sisters.
Post # 13
I brought my mom and my Maid/Matron of Honor with me when it was time to dress shop. I figured I would go with them one day, then go to a second place (on another day) with my sister and 4 nieces…I didn’t want an entourage with me. Turns out, I found a dress on the first day and couldn’t be happier with it! My mom and Maid/Matron of Honor gave their honest opions and were helpful to me. I think I would’ve been overwhelmed if my sister and nieces were with, too. I don’t regret it at all.
My sister and nieces did feel a little sad at first, but I told them they could come to my fitting if they would like and they felt much better! Trust your gut and bring the people you are closest with. Good luck dress shopping and have FUN! 🙂
Side note- I did bring all 9 of my girls bridesmaids dress shopping with me and was happy with that decision, too! It was nice to make a day of it and I definitely don’t reget it. Planning should be fun- happy planning to you and congrats! 🙂
Post # 14
I ended up going by myself. I didn’t intend to go alone, but that’s how it ended up. All my family live out of town. Honestly, it was the best thing possible. I didn’t have anyone voicing their opinions and ended up getting a dress that I love. I know that if my family were their with me they might have tried to talk me out of my dress choice..too plain..not enough bling..etc. But I ended up with a classic dress that I know i will love forever..I won’t have to look back at my pictures 20 years later and think what on earth was I wearing. Honestly,I think 3 people max is where I would cut it off. Any more than that, you could really get confused or frustrated and end up trying to please everyone but yourself. Now after I found my dress, my mother came back to the bridal salon with me and I tried on the one I had purchased. She absolutely loved it. She asked why did i pick that dress and I told her Once I tried it on I knew. She agree’d. It’s all about how you want your dress experience to go. If those 3 people are your go to people..Then Go for it.
Post # 15
I took a lot: Mom, MOH(sister), aunt, cousin, and Future Mother-In-Law. Others warned me this was too many and while it did get overwhelming at one shop at the end of the day they are all really important women in my life and I’m glad they were all there with me. We all agreed on the same dress and that said a lot. Take whatever you feel is right!
Post # 16
I don’t think that’s too many. I brought my mom, grandma and aunt. The shop I went to actually didnt allow more than 3 guests per bride because it was small.