Post # 1
I always considered the rehearsal dinner to be just for the bridal party, immediate family, and the officiant. But reading some people’s posts, people are invitinf 30 to 100 people. I have 7 in my bridal party, my officiant can’t go, my 2 parents, his parents, his brother and sister’s fiance. Altogether that is 15 people including us. I told them that they can bring a guest if they would like, but because I am on a budget we will only be able to pay for those invited. We are going to a local restaurant which has food for about $6 to $13 a person. In total I am expecting to only spend a out tops $300. I was wondering if anyone else is only inviting their bridal party and immediate family, and how much you plan to spend?
Edit: when I say the officiant can’t go, I mean he declined because he has to baby sit his grandkids that night lol
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Post # 2
We invited both sets of grandparents, both sets of parents, all siblings and their spouses/SO’s, all members of the wedding party and their spouses/SO’s, the officiant and his spouse (who also declined).
I think if you told the wedding party ( I assume that’s what you meant when you said bridal party), that they can bring a guest, you did the right thing, but should take it a step further and also pay for their meal.
Post # 3
We are inviting wedding party, which is only two people, both sets of parents (4), and out of town guests (6), for a total of 14 people. We are leaving out sibilings not in the wedding party because that would be an additional 12 people including their families. We are going out to a restaurant and planning on spending around $300.
Post # 4
we are inviting the wedding party, their dates, our parents (obviously) and Out of Town guests. All in all, we are expecting about 25 people including ourselves and the cost is about $600
Post # 5
I suspect this could be a regional difference. We just had immediate family, wedding party, and the officiant/his wife. Only one bridesmaid brought a guest because she and her boyfriend traveled across the state to be there and he would have just been sitting in the hotel room alone otherwise.
My Mother-In-Law picked up the tab and planed the whole dinner, so sorry I can’t be more help with the actual cost!
Post # 6
We had bridal party plus their SOs, both sets of parents, officiant and his gf, out of town guests. All in all it was just shy of 30? ILs paid for it at a restaurant of their choosing. It was about $25/person at the steakhouse we were at. We had to pay for any alcoholic drinks we ordered (MIL didn’t want to pay for those because she doesn’t drink).
Post # 7
We’re planning for about 32, but that’s basically just immediate family and bridal party! Our parents are both divorced and remarried, so that’s 8 people right there. We have 3 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen. Including their dates, that’s 9. We have 3 siblings who are readers, and they all have kids, so that’s 9 more people. And we are probably inviting grandparents too. It just adds up quickly! We wanted a really small and informal rehearsal dinner, but we can’t really get any smaller than this.
Post # 8
We had about 60 people because my Mother-In-Law wanted to have it at a place that had a minimum guest count. She included the bridal party/dates, aunts and uncles, grandparents, parents, and out of town guests I think…but I really had nothing to do with the planning so I could be wrong.
Post # 9
We’re having 20 at ours. That number includes parents, the only set of living grandparents, bridal party, and their spouses.
Post # 10
$300 for 15 people seems low. Keep in mind appetizers, drinks, and tip. Even if average item is about $10, that adds up fast. Unless you are doing a pre-set menu that guests have to choose from it would be super awkward to tell them no drinks or aps, or whatever it is they might want to purchase.
I am going to be having about 30 invited (bridal party, dates, immediate family) and will likely spend about $200. We are just grilling out at my home and making it low key because we can’t use the venue anyway due to popularity of Friday weddings, and we just bought our first home a month ago and this will be a nice way for all the family to see it. Costs staying low is just an added bonus!
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2017 - The Olmsted
We are havingoing up to 60 people. 3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen, our parents, and all out of town guests are invites. We rented a venue at a local seminary for 3 hours. Catering will be 12.50 per person for a pasta bar. We can provide our own beer and wine as long as we pay $120 for liquor liability insurance and have a bartender. In total about $2200. My fi has many close friends who live all over the place (military). They use weddings as mini reunions. We really want to be able to see his friends and family as much as possible.
Post # 12
We invited our parents, grand parents, wedding party, and parents of kids in wedding party, If my husband and I paid for it, we would have invted oot guest but my husband mom and stepdad paid for it and thats all they were willing to pay for. I am not sure of the exact amount spent but It was around $700-800, and around 30 people.
Post # 13
We had about 30 people–both sets of parents, 7 people in the bridal party and their dates, our officiant, 2 musicians, and a reader and her date. We catered (mostly self-serve, they just delivered) from a local restaurant to where our ceremony space was–I think it was about $300 for everything.
Post # 14
Oh my. People may cringe at my numbers. We have 55-60 people and total cost is around 3400. My Mother-In-Law is planning and paying.
Post # 15
Ours is around $300 for 25 people. Us, immediate family and their families, bridal party and their families, officiant and his partner.