How many people were late RSVP'ing for your wedding?

posted 12 months ago in Paper
Post # 2
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

ktrv927 :  I was just talking to my mom about this! Our replies are due July 20th, and we are still waiting on about 100 replies. We invited 218 guests. I’m imagining we’ll have to contact around 25% of our guests as well. I agree, it’s so frustrating! Even if you don’t want to return the card, text me or email me!

Post # 3
6000 posts
Bee Keeper

That’s a lot! So annoying. Do you have email addresses for (most) everyone and can you send out a reminder a day or two after your deadline? 

Post # 4
9648 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

We invited 72. None of my relatives RSVPd officially, but I knew they were coming because either they or my dad told me (all his side–i don’t know my mom’s side).  So that’s about 14 who didn’t RSVP.  MIL and Father-In-Law also didn’t RSVP but of course we knew. So 16.

Then of the friends category we had to track down 3 couples. So 22 out of 72 did not RSVP; 6 out of 72 had to be tracked down since I safely assumed the rest. All 6 went through a “oh shit I forgot, let me see if I can make it work” phase and then after 3-4 days when we told them ok now or never they all had to decline.

Post # 5
5965 posts
Bee Keeper

No one was late to rsvp, but several people ended up changing theirs last minute which was even more frustrating.

Post # 6
733 posts
Busy bee

Wow, that’s a lot. Luckily we didn’t have anywhere near 25%, just a handful of people. Some of who just never RSVPed and when asked they said, “Well you knew I would be there, why would I have to RSVP?!” Then why did I put a stamp on your envelope? 

We did have a lot of RSVPs that came in the last few days before the due date and RSVPs that were postmarked on our due date but didn’t come in until a few days after, so hopefully that will be the case for you!


Post # 7
39 posts
  • Wedding: August 2017

Only 60% of our guests replied by the deadline

Post # 8
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

ktrv927 :  Almost half! I was floored. I ended up having to call/e-mail quite a few people to ask if they were coming or not. Then I had 8 people no-show. 

Post # 9
4710 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Regretting having a late RSVP deadline hearing this.

Post # 10
318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

About 40% of mine are late.  Ugh.

Post # 11
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I had about 12/15 or so of 65 who were late/I had to chase up. I did make the RSVP date 3 weeks before we had to give final numbers to the venue though as I knew some would need reminding.


Post # 12
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Almost half! I was shocked. I’d heard other horror stories on here, but still somehow thought my guests wouldn’t be like that… alas, we were waiting on about 35 people out of 80 several days after our deadline, which was only a few days before we had to have final numbers and seating chart done for venue.

If I were to do it all over again, I wouldn’t put so much faith in guests to write yes or no on a card and put the pre addressed and stamped envelope in a mail box in time, and make more of a buffer between the RSVP date, and when I actually NEED them by. I mean, it all worked out in the end and everyone came, but the stress at the time was real.

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