(Closed) How many people you invited vs. how many RSVPd/showed up?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 16
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302 posts
Helper bee

We invited 140, 107 rsvpd yes, about 10 never responded, and the rest were nos. I am going to be VERY upset if someone doesn’t show because I spent a lot of money per plate. 

Post # 18
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400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Invitations: 130

Accepted: 73

Declined: 29

The remaining unknowns will most likely decline.

Our high decline rate is due to the fact that many guests are from out of town (7 hour plane ride), the wedding is on a Wednesday and no children are invited.

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

Wedding was semi-destination. About 2.5 hours away.

 

Invited 120

RSVP-90

Showed-82

That was the PERFECT number for us. We wouldn’t have changed anything.

 

Post # 21
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400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

MissAviatorBee:  I didn’t get complaints per se but guests were very puzzled by it. I had to explain how the date was based on a Chinese feng shui expert’s recommendation for auspicous wedding dates. That and the fact that it falls on the same day (a year later) my Fiance proposed.

I don’t think Friday would be such a big problem since it’s the weekend. For guests with kids, the Wednesday piece was difficult with regards to hiring a babysitter (especially for out of town guests)

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

OMG, are you me? I had a small wedding on a Friday night in CA with DH’s relatives flying from Europe! I think less people come when it’s a weekday, so that’s one way to trim down the guest list! Make it inconvenient so only people who REALLY love you will show up.

I invited 50 people, hoping for 30 guests, and sure enough, I had exactly 32 people RSVP yes, two of those RSVPs be unable to make it, and one person who RSVPed no who changed her mind at the last minute, after I had gotten the caterer’s final count in! A buffet ended up being really helpful for us so there was no wasted food during all this, but I know that many people prefer a sit-down meal. Up to you!

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Have enough money to accommodate every single guest you invite. If people decline, then at least it’s money you save and can use as you wish. 

The 80/20 rule doesn’t always apply… I invited 105, 90 accepted, 11 formally declined and 4 are trying to come due to schedules. If I had only anticipated ~80 guests, I would have been scrambling to pay for extra guests. 

Post # 25
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Honey bee

Invited 250. All but 2 RSVPd more than 10 days before the due date (primarily online rsvps). Adults only (21+), on the Sunday night of a summer holiday weekend. Guests had received the save the dates 10 months before, with the website, which was fairly complete, with hotel room blocks, etc. Don’t know if the venue had influenced all the responses- it was an elegant, historic, 5 star hotel, known for its fabulous food.

225 said yes. All attended, except for 1 no-show (emergency flight to Asia, for dying father). Only 1 couple said they didn’t have a babysitter, despite getting 10 months to plan. The couple who didn’t respond (aunt/uncle), and never sent so much as a congratulatory e-mail, were probably boycotting because their kids weren’t invited. Oh well … didn’t miss them.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

Invited 58. As of today 44 have RSVP’d yes with 3 weeks before the RSVPs are due.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

MissAviatorBee:  Oh cool, my Mother-In-Law lives in Marin (Mill Valley) and Darling Husband grew up on a boat in Sausalito! We live in Fremont (about 30 minutes away from Livermore)!

A vinyard wedding sounds amazing! I’ve seen pictures of them in bridal magazines, but none of my friends who got married were fancy enough to do something like that. I hope you can afford it!

Darling Husband and I got married on Catalina Island at the country club there! We had a $15K budget and stayed within it comfortably. The outside looked like a Spanish Villa, and the inside had a lot of rustic charm. 

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Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

MissAviatorBee:  Half our guest list lives overseas.  We invited 208 (including all the children of all the guests we invited.)  We ended up with 99.  We made sure we could afford it if, by some miracle, everyone was able to come.  

About 50% RSVP’d online.  I think more RSVP’d to my Darling Husband but he forgot to mark them off.  Because when we went through the outstanding RSVPs he was able to tell me yes or no for most of them.  I had to follow up with a few. 

Of all the people who told us they were coming 3 didn’t show.  2 told me last minute (perfectly acceptable excuse.  I understood.)  The 3rd was my uncle.  He came to the ceremony but had to leave before the recpetion.  My aunt stayed though.  

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Invited 120, 105 came. 8 people just couldn’t make it and RSVPd no. About 7 of the people who didn’t come were because either they were a plus one and the couple broke up before the wedding or a couple people were sick or had to work at the last minute. So prepare your self for last minute cancellations! Everyone RSVPED.  

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m going through the exact same thing. We have done our guest list over and over. I’m going to invite 188 and hope that 140-160 show up. We are able to accommodate 188 if they all show up which I doubt they will be since 30% of our guest list is out of state.

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