Post # 1
Im asking because i was originally of the mind that i would have a rehearsal, a wedding and thats it. I wasnt sure if my schedule for school would allow me to be in town weeks, or even days before the wedding, so i originally said it was best not to do a shower or anything else…
well it turns out i got a placement in my hometown for the entire month leading up to my wedding (yay!) and so now Im having 3 (!!!) bridal showers, and after talking to a groomsman, fi now wants a stag and doe… Im pretty much deadset against it. i think they’re super tacky, but unfortunately theyre super common in our home town.
I dont want to overwhelm our friends, family or bridal party with a million events leading up to the wedding… But im also honoured that all these people want to throw these events for us.
so bee’s, how many pre wedding events (engagement parties, showers, bachelorettes, bachelor parties, rehearsals, stag and does etc..) are you having?!
Post # 2
dv3849: I am having a asking the bridal party get together , a bridal shower , rehearsal dinner then the wedding maybe when we get back from our honey moon have and have our video from the wedding we will have something over the house to show the bridal party my fam and his fam the footage.
Post # 3
Darling Husband had a stag do with two buddies. I had a bachelorette with my three best friends. We also had a rehearsal dinner. That’s it! It was enough.
Post # 4
dv3849: we’re having an engagement party (this weekend!), and as rehearsal. Additionally ill have a shower and bachelorette this fall closer to the wedding.
Post # 5
Fi is having a stago and I am having a bachelorette about 3 weeks before the wedding, that is mainly it
Post # 6
We didn’t have an engagement party and won’t be having a shower or rehearsal dinner…I don’t particularly want a bacherlorette either but my bridesmaids are nagging me to at least do something lol
Post # 7
SellyJo: +1 I am in the same boat. The only event I am planning is the wedding itself. My friends want to have a bachelorette type thing (more like a girls night out, no strippers or veils or tacky favors) so I might do that.
Post # 8
I am having a destination wedding/elopement so no pre wedding events. Maybe a bbq after!
Post # 9
We didn’t have an engagement party. I flew home to have a wedding shower and a bachelorette dinner (about 2 months before the wedding). My fiance might have a bachelor party (if his friends get their act together and throw one), and other than that it is just the rehearsal dinner. Fiance’s family have talked about perhaps hosting a congratulations party after the wedding (not a pre-wedding event), as all their family is out of state, and only some of them are able to attend our actual wedding. They aren’t exactly planners though, so I kind of doubt that will actually happen.
We did do a bridesmaid lunch before we looked for bridesmaid dresses and had drinks to celebrate finding themj afterwards.
That is really sweet that so many people want to throw a shower! My aunts really wanted to throw a rather over the top shower, and everyone else considering it backed off (and were sort of relieved).
Post # 10
dv3849: I’m having 2 hens; had one back in Feb with just my mum and bridesmaids (short break away), then having another about 2 weeks before the wedding with a slightly bigger group.
OH has had a stag do abroad (Amsterdam) and might have one in England nearer the time too as he didn’t make the best of it (he’s damaged the ligaments in his knee pretty badly and was in agony the entire time).
Then the night before a few of us inc the Maid/Matron of Honor and best man and my parents are staying at the venue; it will be very low-key though, just a simple dinner, maybe 1 or 2 drinks, and an early night.
So I guess 4-5 in total?
Rehearsal dinners aren’t a thing in the UK, we have no out of town guests to entertain (and we would probably leave them to their own devices even if we did), showers aren’t a thing, and we didn’t have an engagement party due to the length of our engagement (3.5 years) and the fact we genuinely weren’t fussed and saw it as a bit too narcissistic, plus it’s an added expense.
Post # 11
I am having/had 7 an engament party last August, a wedding dress shopping party/day in November ,my first shower in May, second shower and bachelorette in June and rehersal dinner and wedding in July! You should have as many as you want / people want to host but keep in mind your wedding party might not be able to attend everything And that is ok !
Post # 12
Actually make that 8 I’m having a bridal bruc. On the wedding day hosted by my dad’s family!But I will say I did not ask for all these events! My parents did the engament party as a suprise, weddinG dress shopping was requested , showers one thrown by bridesmaids one family (held in different states) bach held by bridesmaids, rehersal dinner held by grooms family, brunch my grandmother , wedding parents! I have so much to be thankful for !
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens
Had a shower in April, a bachelorette (to the Academy of Sciences with my friends), and we’ll have a BBQ rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding (June 21). So, my/our three were pretty spread out. I agree, I’d be concerned about people getting burned out on wedding stuff with things happening so close to the actual wedding date.
Post # 14
I hosted a brunch for my step-mom, aunt and grandmother before we went to look at wedding dresses (I didn’t really count this as a wedding event but I saw someone else list something similar and it made me think of it)
I had 2 showers, one hosted by his aunt and one hosted by one of my long time family friend, so the guests lists didn’t overlap, except for our parents.
I had a bachelorette party and he had a bachelor party (the night before the wedding, fairly cheap and laid back)
I had a Welcome Dinner
Wedding and reception
And I know you didn’t ask about after, but we had a day after breakfast
I think the key thing is to divide things up. A stag and doe isn’t common in my area, but since the guests are expected to pay, I’d lump it in the category of a shower. So as long as people are only invited to one shower/stag and doe party, then I think you’re fine. But if people are being invited to multiple events where they are expected to bring a gift/pay, then it can get a bit burdensome.