Post # 1
We are having problems deciding where to register. I am from a place where everyone will give gifts off the registry- cash and things like a honeymoon registry are not done. We are having a 200-250 person reception, so that is a lot of gifts.
My problem is I can’t seem to find places that cover everything. One store has kitchen items but not linens. The store that carries both linens and kitchen stuff doesn’t carry the color I want. There is an item of furniture we would love to register for, if people wanted to give us gift cards toward it, at another store.
Right now we have chosen Crate and Barrel, Williams Sonoma and a local “gift ” store for fine china. I would love to add one or two more, but that seems like too much. Our registry at each store is made up of only things we need and covers a wide variety of prices-I am not trying to be greedy, I just don’t want to register for things I don’t love.
So, how many is too many?
Post # 3
I think 4 places is pushing it, and 5 is too many.
Post # 4
The average seems to be about 3 stores.
Post # 5
I don’t know if there’s an official “correct” number. If you’re not able to find stuff that you love, then I guess go for as many places as you want. However, you might want to consider where you think your guests might be able/likely to go to purchase their gifts. When we registered, I tried to picture “Okay, these are the guests who would likely be shopping here”. If I couldn’t picture anyone shopping there, I didn’t register there. We registered at 3 places (BBB, Macy’s and Target) for similar reasons. I didn’t find sheets I wanted at Macy’s or towels we wanted at BBB, etc. I also wanted to make sure we registered for enough stuff at each place, so that people would have options, not just one or two things if they went there.
The other thing to think about if your registries are pretty spread out amongst a few places is that you might end up with a couple of things from each store, rather than complete sets of stuff (like all your towels or china).
Post # 6
If you’re starting to feel like you have too many registries, you might consider doing myregistry.com, or the Universal Registry on amazon.com. Both of those allow you to add items from any online store, but its all consolidated into one place.
I registered at BB&B for my kitchen stuff, Pottery Barn for some home decor, linens, and casual dinnerware, then Amazon.com for a bunch of random things – camping gear, electronics, and kitchen/bedroom stuff that I didn’t find at my other two stores. For me, this was the best of both worlds – we have two actual stores for people who prefer to shop in person instead of online (ie most of my older guests), and an online option that I can use to register for anything, anywhere, and that my younger friends will most likely gravitate towards.
Post # 7
I would raise my eyebrows a bit if I saw someone was registered at more than 3 places. The idea someone raised above of a universal registry seems like it would work for you if you have very scattered tastes.
Post # 8
We did three. I was told by several that 4 would be too many.
It wasn’t until much later that I knew that you could register at amazon.com. Seems like that would have been a good one to combine things that aren’t all sold at the same store & get brands that might not be carried by the stores that have registries!
Post # 9
I agree with @farmersdaughter! I have seen those consolidated registries and they don’t make it look like you registered at a million places. It’ll also allow you to get what you really want and not be limited to what 1 or 2 stores have… I feel it is more creative and will give your guests more options.
Post # 10
I will have to look into the consolidated registry thing. But really, how is that any better than registering at 4 stores over 3? Are 4 registries rude because it is complicated for the guests to look at all of them, or because it appears greedy?
My family and parent’s friends will probably only buy at a brick and mortar. They like to go to the store, look at my china pattern and kitchenware. I think it is a Southern thing, but it is a big part of getting married. I am trying to register at local, individually owned shops while still having enough options for out of towners.
Post # 11
I would say 3 is a good number of registeries. Keeping track of more than that seems like a headache!
Post # 12
I think it’s because it’s a hassle to go look at all of them seperately… nothing having to do with being greedy… a couple things from here and there stores may be less than someone who registers for the entire store on just one site!
Post # 13
Personally, I think three should be the max unless one is an online registry. Just my two cents!
Post # 14
We started out having 3 registries but then I figured out that I could put all the same items on one registry at Amazon. And if there is by chance something that isn’t on Amazon you can still add it to the registry, instead of clicking on a buy button, there is a button that just takes you to another site. So everything still stays on one list. It’s worked for us!