(Closed) How many SERIOUS relationships have you been in?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: # of serious relationships
    zero : (2 votes)
    1 %
    1 : (73 votes)
    29 %
    2 : (81 votes)
    32 %
    3 : (64 votes)
    25 %
    4 : (23 votes)
    9 %
    5 : (4 votes)
    2 %
    >5 : (4 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 31
    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    3 for me. First guy was my college boyfriend. We were together for almost 4 years. He was cocky as all hell and abusive. Why I stayed with him so long I have no idea. I was young and stupid. 

    Second guy I got engaged to after a little over 2 years together. I was just as young and stupid the second time around and agreed to marriage thinking it would fix our problems. VERY BIG MISTAKE. Marriage is never a solution to relationship problems. Ever. I filed for divorce a year later.

    Third was with my now husband. Had a few flings in between but wouldn’t consider them serious. 

    Post # 32
    5109 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I’ve had 6 total relationships (i.e. 6 people that I once called my boyfriend), but I would only consider 2 of them to have been serious. I dated a few guys in high school for about a year each, which I don’t count. Then I dated a guy for 6 years in college/grad school which was very serious. I dated another guy for a few months after that break up, but it wasn’t very serious. And then I met my husband. 

    Post # 33
    2123 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Oh man this makes me think!


    One horrific monstrosity when I was a teenager. He wanted to get married but he was a lot older and had a lot of issues, but he was actually very controlling and manipulative. The second was immediately after and from the age of 19. It lasted six years, but it was ridiculous. We were actually quite simply just best friends and I pretended for a long time that it was something it wasn’t. I had a couple of casual relationships from 25-28. One of them was actually with a childhood sweetheart. He turned out to be a control freak. Another was with someone I had really strong feelings for. I’d fancied him from when I was about 15 but he was too old for me at the time. We finally decided to see where it went, until he freaked out and behaved like a massive ass. I’ve since forgiven him because it turns out he was very depressed. He’s now happily married and I still occasionally hear from him. He has been inappropriate in the past though, but I believe we’re past that. Number three was horrific. It was from 28 up until just before my 30th. He was verbally abusive and quite controlling, but I didn’t see it. I look back at it now and can’t believe how blind I was. He hurt me so much. He broke up with me the night before his friend’s wedding where he was best man. We were supposed to be there together, so I felt humiliated. He had just taken me home to meet his family and had only told me about two weeks prior to breaking up with me that he was in love with me. He had real anger problems and spoke to me like crap sometimes.

    A couple of weeks later, I met my current beau. I’ve been with so many aresholes (bar my second ex-boyfriend) and finally I found myself in a relationship which is a breath of fresh air. I love him to bits. It’s been two years, so smooth and easy. He’s my best friend. We’re planning on getting engaged this year and married next. Phew! 🙂

    Post # 34
    3092 posts
    Sugar bee

    I have had many non serious. Serious? Two including my ex husband.

    Post # 35
    1512 posts
    Bumble bee

    1 – I thought we were perfect together; then we got engaged.  Then he raped me and took my virginity.  I called it off.

    2 – My first husband.  I’m a widow.

    3 – SO and sooner or later Fiance (he’s just being slow about the actual proposal while we’re planning)

    Post # 36
    1341 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2019

    I put 2 in the poll, but you could say it was more like 2.5?

    My ex-FI of six years was my first.

    I’m not sure if I count the next one; we only dated for four months, but he was seven years older than me and wanted to lock it down quick when I was trying to get out of the relationship. I found searches for engagement rings on his phone on accident–NOPE.

    My current SO is my third and hopefully my last (we haven’t been together that long, so I don’t think it’s fair to say yet).

    Post # 37
    550 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016 - Theater

    I met my wife when I was 15, and here we are, 12 years later.

    Post # 38
    4252 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Total of 3, including my husband.  One guy I dated from 21-24 and thought he was “the one”.  One guy I dated pretty soon after the breakup with the first guy and it got serious fast, but also fizzled out fast.  The last serious relationship is my husband, but I kissed waaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too many guys between guy 2 and my husband haha.

    Post # 39
    356 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    2, including current Fiance. I want to include my teenage boyfriend but we werent ever a serious item, more just really good friends that wanted to be together but things never worked out. 

    Post # 40
    954 posts
    Busy bee

    My first serious boyfriend was a terrible person.

    My second serious boyfriend was a nice enough guy, but we were a bad fit.

    My third serious boyfriend becaem my husband. 

    There was a lot of “dating” that was not serious inbetween. 

    Post # 41
    206 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    2. My ex boyfriend I dated for 5 years and my now husband.

    Post # 42
    9579 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    My first serious boyfriend was not a good person.  I finally figured it out after a year and a half or so.

    My second was, but after 2 years or so we were done.

    My third was, but again after 2 years or so I realized we were incompatible.

    My fourth I agreed to marry after 4 years. 🙂

    In between them there was a lot of dating, and even a few boyfriends.. but none that I seriously felt I loved and pictured marrying at any point in the relationship.

    Post # 43
    2332 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Married my first serious one after 6 years together

    Post # 44
    640 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    2 serious, including Darling Husband. I would’ve probably just settled for the first guy if he hadn’t left me for another woman (who didn’t want him- that was pretty good karma lol). 

    5 total relationships.

    Post # 45
    1054 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would say three! Me and hubs starting dating when we were nineteen, so some might not consider previous relationships serious. But I’m counting everyone who I was genuinely in love with. I had two high school boyfriends who were long term (about two years each) and serious. And then my husband! We’ve been together for seven years 🙂 I had one other long-ish term boyfriend who I thought I loved at the time, but I’m not counting him because looking back it wasn’t as serious as it felt then!

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