Post # 1
I have a question for all of you who are currently doing pre-marital counseling or have already done it. My fiance and I each had to do seperate quizzes to better inform our pastor about our situation, our family, what we expect in our relationship, etc. I was wondering how many sessions you had with your pastor for counseling? After he read our quizzes he said he wants to have “atleast 6 session”. This makes me nervous because I don’t know how many are normal – and I hope we didn’t do poorly on our quizzes! Thanks!
Post # 3
I’m in a similar situation only we haven’t got our results back yet. I’ve heard that the amount of sessions all just depend. My parents only had to meet 2xs for example, but a friend of mine and her now husband had to meet 10xs. It seems to depend on the issues you are facing (if you live together that’s a big no no for most churches, so they’ll want to counsel you more) and it depends on the person you are getting the counseling from (they all see situations differently). It’s nothing to be worried about. I’m paitently awaiting my call back with the amount of sessions we’re expected to have. I bet we get at least 6. We live together and we don’t attend church as regularly as we should. Oops!
Post # 4
We didnt go to religious counseling but we only went to one premarital counseling session through a therapist – our relationship was already very strong and we had already been through more than most people in a short amount of time. However after the one session it really helped us deal with the Mother-In-Law problems we were having at the time and thats all we needed!
Post # 5
We actually opted to do pre-engagment counseling because we wanted to be sure we had the right tools and were ready to actually look at marriage. It basically transitioned into pre-marital counseling once we got engaged, but we did a year in total, with one session per month. I think it breaks out to about 6 sessions before getting engaged and 6 sessions before getting married.
Post # 6
We did 3 over the course of 6 months. I really felt we needed a few more though and I wish we would’ve requested them.
Post # 7
We met 5 times after the separate tests. We really enjoyed them!
Post # 8
We never had to take a test and we are in the process of doing six sessions only for the reason we are following a Christian marriage book that has six different sections.
Post # 9
Okay – Thanks ladies. Makes me feel better about the situation!
Post # 10
Six seem fairly standard, the program we went through with our church was 6 weeks and then a more intensive program through a local family ministry organization was 6 weeks plus one weekend.