Post # 1
Hi bees! I’m getting married January 8, 2011 and lately people have been asking me what kind of showers I want/when I want them. Here are the showers people have offered to throw me so far..
Bridal Shower – thrown by my Mom & sister with the help of my BM’s
Lingerie Shower – thrown by my sister/MOH
Pampered Chef Party – thrown by my best friend
“Stock the Pantry” shower – a friend from church has offered to throw this for me.
Also, the ladies from church want to throw me one. I feel really bad having all these showers, but I hate to turn down someone that wants to throw me one. Does this make me look selfish having all of them? How many are you girls having?
Also, when should I have them? My mother has suggested having my bridal shower in late October, the Lingerie shower the last week in December, the pampered chef shower in November, and I don’t know for sure about the others. Does that timeline sound right? I’m trying to avoid having my showers too close to the holidays.
Thanks for your suggestions!
Post # 3
I’m pretty sure I’m going to have zero showers. As far as I can tell, they’re purely materialistic… I’d be happy to have a meal or two with friends or whatever, but showers are kind of a turn-off for me. That’s just how I feel, though–nothing against those who do have showers.
Post # 4
First off, congrats!
Secondly, no one really should be invited to more than one shower. So if you’re inviting the ladies of the church to any of them, then they shouldn’t really throw their own. Bridesmaids can kinda get screwed and be expected to come to them all, but emphasize that you don’t need them to get gifts to all of them.
The lingerie shower could be done during your bachelorette night.
Post # 5
I am having two. My coworkers want to throw me a lingerie shower around mid-March. My two BM’s are also in the works with my mom for another lingerie shower first week of April. The good thing is, nobody will be double invited because my coworkers don’t really know my friends and vice versa.
As long as you are not inviting people to multiple showers, I think it’s okay. Or if you are too worried about having one to many showers, you can always tell some of them, if they know each other, if they can “consolidate” their plans for one big shower 🙂
Post # 6
@Miss Sapphire – I plan on making separate invitation lists for each shower. I think I might just ask the women to church if they’ll come to the one my mother is throwing for me. I don’t think they’ll be offended. I’m definitely going to emphasize that gifts are not required for all guests, BM’s included, & I won’t be offended at all if for some reason they’re unable to attend. I really just look forward for everyone to getting together to celebrate with me before the wedding! & I plan on having a lingerie party/bachelorette party. Thanks for your input!
Post # 7
I’m having four.
One that FMIL’s friends are throwing
A couple’s shower that FI’s aunts are throwing for us
A personal shower at my bachelorette party (I think, my BM’s mentioned this)
A shower in my hometown
I truly, honestly am overwhelmed by all the showers; if it were up to me, I would have ONE shower. But it’s very nice to be the bride and have people want to throw parties for you where you get presents 🙂
Post # 8
@ Miss Root – I agree, if it were up to me I’d have a bridal shower & a lingerie shower, that’s it. But I hate to be rude and tell someone they can’t throw me one. It feels nice to know that people want to be involved in the wedding!
Post # 9
Im having a bridal shower thrown by my sister, my bachelorette party, and a spa party for the bridal party given by my soon to be sister in law. I think its a great balance since the bridal shower is a tea party (very simple)..my bachelorette party will be crazy, and the spa party is something for all the women in my wedding (manicure and massages)
My friends from work had suggested another one… but I asked them to just come to the tea party!! I just think that any more would be way too much!
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
I’m having one. To be honest, I don’t know anyone whose had more than one, so maybe it is a regional thing? Seems like it is quite common for other people to have a few, so who knows?
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2010 - Casa Real at Ruby Hill Winery
I’m having one, I hope. I have never heard of people having more than one.
Post # 13
Posssssssibly three. From the girl who was pretty sure she wasn’t getting any.
My mom’s friends threw me one in my hometown, but that was essentially their way of celebrating our wedding as they won’t be able to come all the way to Texas. Another in HIS hometown – a couple of hours from us, where his and mine extended families both live, this one I have explicitly said “no gifts” just a fun girly tea time!
And then finally, one here with my girlfriends. So.. three. Yeah. Wow…
But truly I believe most should only have one.. two at most if there is regional differences as is my case..
Post # 14
I’m soo jealous! I think I’ll be lucky if I get one shower and it def won’t be lingerie! I’d suggest for all the ladies wanting to throw you a shower from church…have them help out with the “Stock the Pantry” shower. That way you’ll get lots of stuff and won’t have a billion showers to attend.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2010 - Orange County Performing Arts Center
I’m having one that my BM’s are throwing and another at work. It’d be fun to have so many showers, but you may want to make sure guests don’t get invited to more than one shower. So, keep you work shower with coworkers, church shower with church folks, etc. Have fun!
Post # 16
Just one. I’ve never known anyone to have more than one shower unless the second shower is thrown by coworkers, or the bride lives in one place and has family in another.