(Closed) how many showers is OK?

posted 10 years ago in Parties
  • poll: How many showers is appropriate?
    2 : (10 votes)
    48 %
    3 : (7 votes)
    33 %
    4+ bring on the gifts!! : (3 votes)
    14 %
    4+ with clearly stated limited expectations of gifts : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1149 posts
    Bumble bee

    I have been invited to four showers for a single wedding for a very close friend.  I could only attend three anyway because of scheduling conflicts.  The bride called me and told me that she wanted me to feel included which was why I was invited to all of them, but I didn’t have to come to all and I should definitely not bring gifts to all.   I brought her a gift for the one that had to most mutual friends attending and for the others I brought "little something" kinds of gifts:  a candle, a pretty picture frame for wedding photo, just because I didn’t want to show up completely empty-handed.   I got a thank you note for every gift. 

    I thought she handled the situation perfectly.

    Hope this helps!

    Post # 4
    Member
    133 posts
    Blushing bee

    I would not invite a particular person to more than 2 showers. It’s a pretty big time committment plus buying a separate gift for each one can really add up. I would split the showers among friend-groups or else encourage one of the organizers to do a non-shower activity (getting a pedicure together, having a fancy lunch or tea, bachelorette, going bowling, barbeque)/

    Post # 5
    Member
    596 posts
    Busy bee

    I think you should try to keep the guest list overlap to a minimum between your showers.  If each shower is just for a certain set of friends or family, then it won’t seem too gift grabby.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2022 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Wow, you are popular!  It’s great that your friends are "showering" you with showers.  But, I understand your concerns.  I think the way you have it outlined above is fine, but would even combine the two female showers into one big shower.  Then have a couples party, then a baseball game. 

    If you decide to go with the four showers, I agree with Sakoro – two showers max for each guests (and I would even say 1 shower everyone other than family members or bridesmaids).  I think combining showers is completely fine, too. 

    Have fun and hope you get lots of good stuff ; )

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