Post # 1
hello again bees,
i have an actual, honest to god question that i need answered. back story, our wedding is 100 people. we are having buffet style meal with multiple options. I have 3 people coming that are vegan so they are getting a special meal because none of our options cater to veganism. future mother in law calls to tell me that “uncle Joe has an allergy to peppers” so i said “no problem, nothing has peppers” she says “no you need to have him have a special meal just in case”. so i say “they are offering to make seperate vegan meals, he can have one of those if hes concerned” she say “well honey, hes not going to eat a VEGAN meal! he wants to EAT”. insert eye roll. so my question is, do i just leave it alone and he can pick and choose what he wants to eat (again, hes allergic to peppers, like chili peppers, none of which are in any of our offerings) or do i ask them to make yet another totally different “special meal”? im not even sure they will because we ar going with a buffet option! i genuinly wanna know what to do. help!
Post # 2
Have you talked to Uncle about it? Not just through your mom?
There is zero reason for him to have a special meal if there aren’t peppers anywhere…
Post # 3
Are they worried that something will be contaminated by peppers? I’m confused… Why does he need a special meal if he’s not allergic to anything on the menu?
Post # 4
No, sorry mama, but that’s real dumb. Why would he need a different meal if the one you’re already offering poses no issue?
Post # 5
so long as there is no cross contamination with your other dishes (if they contain the allergen) I think youre fine to give him the regular dish.
Post # 6
He doesn’t need a special plate. Perhaps you can speak with the caterer and inform them that one of your guests has this particular allergy, that way they can take care to avoid any cross contamination. Then you can assure your mother that the caterer is aware of the allergy and will ensure that the plate your uncle is served is safe for him to eat.
Post # 7
I don’t see why he needs a special meal if the food he is allergic or sensitive to is not on the menu?
Probably worth letting your caterer know as a heads up so they can be extra cautious to avoid cross contamination.
Post # 8
That’s weird. Double check with the place that there are no peppers (check sauces, mixed salads, meatballs or patties since things can be mixed in). Once you verify that there are no peppers he can have the regular meal OR the vegan meal (assuming there are no peppers there either). I have food allergies myself so if the food is safe I say literally ZERO about if I like it or not.
Now if one item has peppers there could be an issue of people using the wrong spoon tongs etc and mixing up items which is why people with food allergies rarely eat at a buffet.
That said maybe you can have the back plate up some of the buffet food ahead for him if it’s truly safe. So he can have first serving.
He could have major anxiety about buffets due to close calls before etc. And thats kind of what I suspect from what you wrote. Especially with a less known allergen like peppers. Your aunt called instead of him. Sometimes my husband will call restaurants ahead for events bc it gets exhausting asking so many questions. I’d rather eat at home but special events happen and sometimes you want to participate in life.
For example, I will not eat meatballs I haven’t made because I ended up in the ER after eating one with nuts mixed in (was not labeled). I get that its irrational to avoid them forever…. but I got really sick and the anaphylaxis wouldn’t reverse for the longest time and I was afraid of dying. It really does a number on your psyche and you develop ways to deal. This avoidance is one of them.
Post # 9
if he’s truly allergic to peppers he’s allergic to these items as well:
- bell peppers
- chili pepper
- cayenne pepper
changes are he’s not actually allergic just has an extreme aversion or intolerance. It’s called nightshade allergy.
Post # 10
We had more special dietary accommodations than I thought possible! And, we actually had two people who were allergic to peppers! Our catering staff were great about addressing the allergies. In most instances, what we were having was not a concern, but the caterer appreciated knowing so as to make sure there was no cross contamination. I’d call your uncle to verify the allergy and then call the caterer to ask. We did accommodate allergies, being vegetarian, celiac, food sensitivities, etc. We even accommodated some preferences. We wanted everyone to enjoy their meal and have a good- and safe- time.
Post # 11
Just confirm with your venue that none of your offerings contain peppers and ask them to make sure they aren’t used. Also, be specific (i.e. no bell or chili peppers, but peppercorns like black papper is ok) and don’t assume. I use crushed Aleppo pepper in my lentil soup and no one would guess because it doesn’t seem spicy. I also will put a little sliced chili in a marinade but it doesn’t appear in the final product and it just provides a little depth of flavor. So just because you didn’t pick pepper steak or pasta with roasted red pepper sauce doesn’t guarantee you are safe.
(As for how many special plates is too many, the correct number of plates is whatever number makes sure people with special dietary needs get a full meal like every other guest – whether that can be accomplished in one special meal or 10 is dependent on their needs and how adept your caterer is.)
Post # 12
So, I called her to verify exactly what allergy it is because I know it’s a new development for him. She said that he ate some sriracha and it literally burned a hole in his throat?! Wtf? So now he avoids peppers (rightfully so) But in that case it not something I should have to worry about is it? I’m all for making people comfortable but at what limit is appropriate?
Post # 13
like a literal hole that required surgery and going to a doctor and stuff? That’s intense if that’s the case.
Post # 14
Ugh, this is not any sort of “allergy”, and people throwing around the word doesn’t help people who actually DO have food allergies. So he doesn’t like heat. Great. Don’t eat anything spicy hot. But as a PP said, a true nightshade allergy would include far more than one errant sriracha.
Post # 15
sirarchia can’t even burn a hole in your throat, I googled it.
He would literally have had a feeding tube if it burned a hole in his throat which I’m sure you would’ve heard about if he had?