(Closed) how many speeches are too many at the reception??

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My sister did one at her own wedding and it was…awkward. Write your thank you in a note and have it in the wedding program – maybe on the back. Anything more then that and it’s weird. Thank them in person if someone really went overboard for you or made your life special – it will mean more to them.

Edit: You can have your Fiance provide ‘speech tips’ to you Future Father-In-Law to help get the point across that you need him to be succint.

Post # 4
663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - EDD 06/12/2016

@nearlymarriedlass:  that’s going to bore guests. We are having his parents say a welcome in the beginning and only Maid/Matron of Honor and best man are doing toasts

Post # 5
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would drop the bride and groom speeches. If you want to say a very brief welcome to your guests at the start of the dinner, that’s fine, but keep it very short.  It’s a bit awkward to have you giving a speech about yourselves.

Post # 6
1966 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Thats too many. 2 is enough for me. Moh can read her poem at the ceremony.  You guys dont have to give speeches, just thank everyone together. Keep it short and sweet. Fil can give a little speech at the rehearsal dinner. I’d keep your dad, best man and a quick word from the bride and groom. Speeches can be a real mood killer if you have too many. 

Post # 7
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@nearlymarriedlass:  Yeah, six is too many. I hate listening to the speeches, and to sit through six… ugh.

If they’re kept short and fun then maybe you could get away with them, but I feel awkward enough listening to one teary or one really awkward speech.


Post # 8
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yes, that is too many. even if each person’s speech is 30 seconds, that is a LONG time for people to sit through.

To be honest, I think people have a hard time with best man and maid of honor speeches as it is! I would suggest cutting everyone else out. I agree with suburbian: you and your husband can thank everyone after the wedding via thank you cards.

Post # 9
2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That’s way too many.  We just had the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor do toasts.  My dad gave a very brief welcome, and H and I each gave a very brief (less than a minute) thank you.

Post # 10
3766 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Wow, 6 is a lot. As a guest I think I would be bored. We had the traditional Bridesmaid or Best Man, Maid/Matron of Honor, and then I said a quick (maybe 20 seconds) thank you to our guests.

Post # 11
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Personally, I think that anything over 2 is too many.  People lose interst fast.  We only had 2 at our reception.

Post # 12
9082 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think one is too many. But, I don’t like speeches.

Post # 13
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013


Post # 14
1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would suggest you and your Fiance do a speech together, or only one of you speak, since you will probably be saying the same type of thing (thank you, etc).  Plus it’s a nice way to start your married lives together, but speaking together.

If some of the people (i.e. Maid/Matron of Honor, FOG)  have shorter speeches it should be okay.  I have been to lots of weddings where 2 parents, Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor spoke as well as the bride and groom and it was fine.  Just ask people to keep them on the shorter side.

Another option is you could try asking the two fathers to collaborate on a speech..?  I attended a wedding where the two fathers did a slideshow/speech talking about both the bride and groom at the same time, and it was really sweet and kept the interest of everyone (i.e. the family/friends of both the groom and the bride).

Post # 16
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@nearlymarriedlass:  yeah i think thats better. honestly 6 is too much!

i have the opposite problem, id quite like a speech. or two. but its not a tradition in mexico (marrying mexican fi) so fi thinks the idea is bizarre and the best man doesnt understand what itd involve haha

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