Post # 1
need some help here bees, at this stage we are having 6 speeches at the reception. is this too many???? it will be: my father, my father in law, best man, maid of honour, my husband and myself.
i really dont want my father in law to make a speech because he is terrible at them (at my SILs engagement party he went on and on about how he grew up in the country and the neighbours would cut the heads of chickens and the chickens would run around without any heads) im NOT kidding – it had no relevance to my SIL or her fiancee or their relationship, it was terrible.
but we tried getting him to say a reading at the ceremony, so at least we could give him what to say but nope he didnt want that, so were stuck with him!!!!
the best man is making one cos its tradition and my fiancee has already asked him, and my Maid/Matron of Honor has already written a poem too,
my fiancee wants to make one and i do too, to thank everyone.
is this too many ????? im so worried its gonna drag and people are gonna lose interest .
be honest what would you do???
Post # 3
My sister did one at her own wedding and it was…awkward. Write your thank you in a note and have it in the wedding program – maybe on the back. Anything more then that and it’s weird. Thank them in person if someone really went overboard for you or made your life special – it will mean more to them.
Edit: You can have your Fiance provide ‘speech tips’ to you Future Father-In-Law to help get the point across that you need him to be succint.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - EDD 06/12/2016
@nearlymarriedlass: that’s going to bore guests. We are having his parents say a welcome in the beginning and only Maid/Matron of Honor and best man are doing toasts
Post # 5
I would drop the bride and groom speeches. If you want to say a very brief welcome to your guests at the start of the dinner, that’s fine, but keep it very short. It’s a bit awkward to have you giving a speech about yourselves.
Post # 6
Thats too many. 2 is enough for me. Moh can read her poem at the ceremony. You guys dont have to give speeches, just thank everyone together. Keep it short and sweet. Fil can give a little speech at the rehearsal dinner. I’d keep your dad, best man and a quick word from the bride and groom. Speeches can be a real mood killer if you have too many.
Post # 7
@nearlymarriedlass: Yeah, six is too many. I hate listening to the speeches, and to sit through six… ugh.
If they’re kept short and fun then maybe you could get away with them, but I feel awkward enough listening to one teary or one really awkward speech.
Post # 8
Yes, that is too many. even if each person’s speech is 30 seconds, that is a LONG time for people to sit through.
To be honest, I think people have a hard time with best man and maid of honor speeches as it is! I would suggest cutting everyone else out. I agree with suburbian: you and your husband can thank everyone after the wedding via thank you cards.
Post # 9
That’s way too many. We just had the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor do toasts. My dad gave a very brief welcome, and H and I each gave a very brief (less than a minute) thank you.
Post # 10
Wow, 6 is a lot. As a guest I think I would be bored. We had the traditional Bridesmaid or Best Man, Maid/Matron of Honor, and then I said a quick (maybe 20 seconds) thank you to our guests.
Post # 11
Personally, I think that anything over 2 is too many. People lose interst fast. We only had 2 at our reception.
Post # 12
I think one is too many. But, I don’t like speeches.
Post # 14
I would suggest you and your Fiance do a speech together, or only one of you speak, since you will probably be saying the same type of thing (thank you, etc). Plus it’s a nice way to start your married lives together, but speaking together.
If some of the people (i.e. Maid/Matron of Honor, FOG) have shorter speeches it should be okay. I have been to lots of weddings where 2 parents, Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor spoke as well as the bride and groom and it was fine. Just ask people to keep them on the shorter side.
Another option is you could try asking the two fathers to collaborate on a speech..? I attended a wedding where the two fathers did a slideshow/speech talking about both the bride and groom at the same time, and it was really sweet and kept the interest of everyone (i.e. the family/friends of both the groom and the bride).
Post # 15
GAAA i knew it was gonna be too much, 🙁 i cant cut my hubbys dads speech cos we already tried that and he got sorta offended and was like no im doing one. GRRR. my dad wants to make one, so maybe we will just have 3 – them and the best man?
and keep them SHORT!
were not from america so dont have a rehersal dinner – so no one can do speeches then either 🙁
Post # 16
@nearlymarriedlass: yeah i think thats better. honestly 6 is too much!
i have the opposite problem, id quite like a speech. or two. but its not a tradition in mexico (marrying mexican fi) so fi thinks the idea is bizarre and the best man doesnt understand what itd involve haha