Post # 1
Did you have sex while TTC? I only ask because I plan on trying very soon, but I am concerned that my husband and I generally are only intimate 3-4 times a week. We have looooong sessions, and I can’t see doing that everyday, multiple times a day during ovulation. I am also interested in how long it took you to conceive? Thanks all. I really appreciate the answers as I am very nervous about TTC. Every since I’ve been around 16 or so (I am 33 now), I have had doubts about my ability to conceive. I don’t even know why, but I have always felt this way…
Post # 3
You don’t want to have sex more than once a day, most people suggest having sex every other day during your fertile window. It can impact sperm count if you have sex too much.
Post # 4
Most people will aim for an every other day/every day schedule during their fertile window. If you have “regular” cycles (meaning avg 28 days) you would *likely* ovulate on day 14. You’d want to get in some sessions ideally on the few days leading up to that and on that day/day after just to be safe.
I was referred to a fertility clinic, and they usually recommend every other day, but also said if you want to try every day, that’s great! (even multiple times a day was fine!). I think if you can do it daily with about a 24 hour rest to help his swimmers get ready for the next session that should be good.
I do highly recommend charting if you are able – it gives a lot of information on what your body is doing, when you ovulated and you can record days you do the deed and see possibly why some cycles weren’t successful and hopefully why the one that was, was!
Good luck! The “Charters of the Hive” are a fabulous group of ladies to join for help and to discuss if it’s something you’re interested in. I would have gone totally crazy not charting, but I also had very long cycles.
Good luck and remember to use sperm-friendly lube if you can!! I always propped my bum up for about 15-20 mins after the end just to help the swimmers stay “up” lol. 😉
Post # 5
Did you have sex while TTC? Well, yes you kind of have to! 😉
We aren’t officially TTC yet (just NTNP) but when we do, we plan to do try for every other day during the fertile window.
Post # 6
2 times per day (morning & night) during the 4 days right around ovulation. Conceived on the very first try for both of my babies.
Post # 7
From all I’ve read, more than once a day is actually counter-productive. Are you planning to chart or anything? If you are and you can really narrow down your fertile window/know when you’re ovulating, you can really focus your efforts to the few days you’re actually fertile (once a day/every other day) and just go with your desires the rest of the month 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 8
Thanks Bees! I am already getting new information, and clearly I need to look into “charting”. I love that the support on here doesn’t stop at the wedding, but it goes into the marriage as well 🙂
Post # 9
@Bellagiobride: Oh, and, kudos on 3-4 times a week! I don’t think you have anything to worry about that you won’t be able to do it often enough
Post # 10
3-4x a week which is about every other day during my fertile window (sometimes once a day if I think I’m actually ovulating), some people say BDing everyday can impact sperm count. I think EOD works for us so we don’t get burnt out and can still keep the romance alive.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
We are not doing the whole baby making, but more than once a day seems like a bit too much for sperm reserve reasons. I heard every other day is a good system.
Post # 12
If you haven’t already, you should definitely check out Toni Wechsler’s Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Wonderful resource for anybody TTC – or not!
Post # 13
Post # 14
@Bellagiobride: Several of the bees are correct. You should not have sex multiple Xs per day this doesnt necessarly lessen the amount of sperm it lessens the maturity of the sperm. The more mature sperm are able to swim longer and have greater chance in making to the egg. Allow 24-36 hours for fully mature sperm. Also, a female orgasm after the mans ejaculation will help you conceive as well as this will propel the sperm toward the ovary that released the egg. Hope this helps you 🙂
Post # 15
DH and I BD’ed about 3 times a week. It took us three months to get pregnant. I had just come off BCP too and I think it took my cycle a month or two to regulate.
Post # 16
I agree with @Birdee106:
Also you can have a 28 day cycle and not O on CD 14.. I don’t O until CD 18-19 and my cycle ranges from 28-30 days. I highly suggest charting!!!!
If I try to O after my husband ejaculates it all comes out!