Post # 47
I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man 4 times. All but 1 was a positive experience.
The negative experience was the first wedding I was ever in, and it was still in school – so I didn’t know what to expect and/or realize how expensive everything was going to be. I ended up pissing off the bride because I complained too much about not having any money to afford certain things (like going out for her bachelorette party or getting her a gift) and we ended up not being friends any more. Oh well :-/
Post # 48
I’ve been a bridesmaid 3 times. The first time I think we were totally spoiled. The bride was fantastic. We picked our own dresses, she asked for minimal help. Her cousin did our makeup for free, on the condition we’d let her use our made up faces in her portfolio (she was a just starting a career as a make up artist and was amazing!) and hair was up to us if we wanted it done professionally or not.
The second time I was a bridesmaid was in May. It was a destination wedding. The bride was great. The only thing I hated about it was the dress that we had to wear. In the end it was a suck it up and wear it because she loves it. We planned the whole shower and bachelorette party which started to get a little expensive considering we had those plus the cost of attending the wedding.
The third was last month. The bride was pretty great. She bought our dresses as her gift to us which was so nice. We planned her shower and her Maid/Matron of Honor planned the bachelorette, which the bride hated. It just wasn’t her and we tried to tell the Maid/Matron of Honor that but she wanted it done the way she wanted it done. I hated the dress for this wedding too, but again just wore it because she loved it and paid for it so why should I have any say whatsoever. The only time I got a little frustrated with her was when she decided 3 weeks before the wedding that she wanted us all in a specific shoe. By that time most of us (myself included) had already bought our shoes because she said she didn’t care and we just didn’t have enough money to throw around like that. She ended up being great about it though, saying as long as the shoes were silver and had a heel she didn’t care. Everyone’s shoes were silver so no one had an issue. While she was great, her now husband’s family was awful to work with! They wanted everything done their way and didn’t want to contribute to anything. It was frustrating but there were enough of us from her side that we managed to make everything work.
All in all, I can’t complain about any of my experiences. There’s ups and downs to everything and the “negative” things that I experienced were really nothing and easy to work through.
Post # 49
I’ve never been a bridesmaid but my best girlfriend from high school just asked me! I’m so excited, especially because I’m not having bridesmaids at my wedding so Ill get to share those experiences with her.
I had no idea some people were asked to be bridesmaids just because. I’m sorry that some of you didnt have great experiences, and spent so much money in the process!
Post # 50
Never!!! I feel like if I had I would know a little more about weddings planning mine! Me and another friend are the first to get married in our group, and she isn’t having a bridal party.
Post # 50
I have been a bridesmaid 6 times…3 times Maid/Matron of Honor including this year where I will be a bridesmaid twice, Maid/Matron of Honor twice and a bride! yikes!
Post # 51
As an adult, nope. As a teenager, I was a bridesmaid for my mom when she got married.
I don’t have any close female friends that would ask me to be a bridesmaid so I don’t know when I’ll be a bridesmaid for anyone.