Post # 1
I’m just curious.
Sometimes I read posts that make me feel like people aren’t so much invested in the relationship as in a timeline/life plan, and it’s not about Mr. Right, it’s about Mr. Ring. Sometimes I feel, especially when the person posting is young and not even done with college, like saying, “Oh honey, men with rings are not an endangered species.”
Since I’ve been able to legally marry, there were:
four that were pretty serious relationships and they were really, really serious about it, asking multiple times, where it got really weird and uncomfortable because it almost felt like they thought they were owed a yes.
one accidental engagement–good friend, never dated or anything, asked me in the mall with a bead ring from one of those clay jewelry booths, thought he was just kidding around so I said yes, joking back. Laughed about it for a couple days, showed people my “engagement ring” and then it became painfully obvious he had been serious, and that he really thought we were engaged. It was very awkward.
a handful of others that, while I know they meant it, didn’t really expect a yes, and it was all cool afterwards when I said no.
and then there was one where I didn’t love him and he didn’t love me, but we liked each other pretty well and had fun and reached the point where we were exhausted with dating and both thought that we’d probably grow old and die alone otherwise, and he asked and I said yes, and of course nothing ever came of it, though for a while we did actually pretty seriously plan a wedding.
Post # 3
I was in a relationship where my boyfriend would tell me repeatedly that he wanted to marry me. I knew deep down that he wasn’t “the one” but we had a lot of chemistry and cared for one another a lot.
Before breaking up he officially asked me and I said no.
Post # 4
There where a few guys in my past that thought that if they proposed that it would keep around. Of course I was a lot younger and the last thing that I wanted was to get married. I am from a small town and there are many girls that want to be married just to be married; sometimes I wonder if they even care who it is…
Post # 5
There where a few guys in my past that thought that if they proposed that it would keep around.
Oh yeah, that was definitely the case in one of my “serious” relationships. “She’s so unhappy that she’s going to leave! Clearly what I should do in this circumstance is ask her to MARRY ME!” How does that even follow, logically? I’ve never understood. But I find it kind of insulting.
Post # 6
I have talked about marriage with other guys.. But nothing ever came of it. It just wasnt a perfect fit. This is the first serious time the question has been asked, and I said yes! Not out of obligation, or anything besides love.. Thank god it seems like some of you ladies have had some pretty akward moments reguarding this!
Post # 7
I never planned on getting married and having a wedding. Strike me down, you traditionalists, but living together was just fine for me. After several years together, people start to expect you to get married. So, while I was driving (of all times) he squishes himself into the floorbaord and looks at me all serious, with no ring, and says “Marry me?” I thought he was joking, like, kaking fun of everyone demanding a wedding from us. So I laughed and kept driving, and then it was like, “Were you serious? You weren’t serious!” We went to McDonald’s, got some fries, and came to our senses. He’s still a great friend, but we ended the relationship a few years later and I am now married to the man who changed my mind about marriage!
Post # 8
My ex and I had talked about it, but nothing ever came of it, and I’m so happy I made it out of that relationship.
I said yes my first time!
Post # 9
I said yes both times I was proposed to (by different guys). I honestly don’t know how you can say no when someone is on one knee!
Post # 10
I said yes the first time, but that is because I narrowly dodged a proposal from my high school boyfriend that I was with throughout college. I broke up with him a month before he was planning to ask – he had already picked out the ring and everything! I thank god I dodged that awkward moment: “No, and we actually need to break up…” *shudder*
Post # 11
I said yes the first time, but I was in college and would be the first of my friends getting married, and it would have been a huge church wedding and tons of people and a great party. I was all about the party and dress. He was a good guy but he’s happily married now with two children.
The second time I said yes, he was being shipped to afghanistan and it was more both of us were scared he wouldn’t make it back. He actually was in Germany for 3weeks before he left, and apparently spread himself around before he left and as soon as he came back. so that ended soon after he got back.
This time I said yes, is for the right reasons. He’s a great man, good looking, funny, laid back and we’ve been friends for ten years. Thank god he waited around for me to get my head out of my butt!
Post # 12
Did you actually go through with the two previous ones, or did you change your mind before the wedding actually happened?
Post # 13
I turned down a few proposals before I met my husband. All of the guys were much older than me and ready to settle down, but I really wanted to have the college experience before I got married. So I broke up with my current boyfriend (NOT one of the few who proposed to me), went to college, and started dating my husband within a month of starting school. 🙂
Post # 14
One proposal, one “yes,” one husband. 🙂
Post # 15
I’ve been with the same person since I was 14 yrd old, 7.5 years now.
One time my aunt’s friend asked me if I really loved him or was holding on to him just because he’s safe and familiar. At first I was annoyed but then I realized it’s a legit question, a lost of people I know actually get married with someone they fell familiar and confortable with, but aren’t really inlove with, just cause it’s safe.
Post # 16
I had to let someone down once. He told me I was beautiful and would be a great wife. I told him I was flattered, and he would make a very good husband for someone one day, but I was a little old for him. Oh, the adventures of teaching preschool to adorable three-year-olds…