(Closed) How many times to follow up with no RSVPs?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4485 posts
Honey bee

Keep trying until you get ahold of them. If you can’t get any response within one week, count them as a no.

Post # 4
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

No rsvps are so annoying. My due date was yesterday and I still have a couple cards to come on. My mom called one on my side this morning and I’ll let Fiance chase down his deadbeats. I don’t get how some assume no RSVP means no!

My dad is over it that his brother didn’t rsvp on time and said forget about it, just count them as a no but I can’t do that.

I think texting is fine cause they are friends. I’d give it a week past the date if you can then count as no and if they try to go at the last minute tell them no.

Post # 5
4824 posts
Honey bee

I would give them all a call and leave a message if they don’t answer that you will have to assume they are a “no” if you dont hear from them within 48 hours because you need to give your final numbers.

I know they are friends and technology is so easy, but it so easy to be ignored. A call is much harder and more appropriate in a situation like this

Post # 6
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

OMG i was just about to ask the same question!  I’m following up FB with those that I can.  I will be calling those on my side as well.  But I’m wondering how many attempts should I make? One call and or an email, or just keep calling?  I didnt want to chase people down anyway but seems i have to.

How many attempts before checking them as a no.


Post # 7
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I would call, once. You did already attempt a facebook/e-mail, but it’s not a reliable or formal means of communication. I know we live in such a technological age, but I’ve missed many a message or announcement because people assume I “read it on facebook”. They definitely should have responded to your RSVP, but a phone call would be my last attempt.

Post # 8
3267 posts
Sugar bee

I think you need to call, not email or facebook.  If they dont’ answer you can leave them a voicemail saying if you don’t hear from them by X date that you won’t be able to accomodate them at the reception.

Post # 9
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Texting is not a bad idea. Most people check their phones daily.

I would be wary of using FB or email….sometimes I am on FB daily but occasionally I just ignore it for a week or two. Callling would be best.

Post # 10
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I definitely think you need to call. You can’t rely on FB/email. 

Post # 11
18 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

If they don’t respond by a day or two after the due date, I would first email them if they are email people. 

If you don’t hear back from them in a day or so then call them.  Leave a message that you need final counts by ____________, and if  you don’t hear back from them in a day or so then you will not include them in the dinner. 


Post # 12
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Call them don’t facebook or email if you need a response.

Post # 13
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I plan on emailing first, and then if I don’t hear a response in a couple days I will call and make sure to say that if I don’t hear from them I will assume they aren’t coming and there will not be a chair for them or something like that. No more times than that.

Post # 14
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think a call is much more personal and a better way to really let people know that you mean business.

If it is important for them to be there give them a call.

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