Post # 1
So I posted the other day about venues as I’m tentatively looking at options and as we’re paying for the wedding ourselves we’re pricing things up while saving up at the moment rather than planning anything solid, but the thing is I think I already decided.
Not long after we got engaged 6 months ago we went to a wedding fayre and a local hotel near me just to give us some ideas of what we needed to organise as I was never a girl who dreamed of weddings and was at a loss of where to start. Anyway I walked into the ceremony room and just went “wow” it was just my style, grand with early 20th century arts and crafts movement wood panelling. I said to my fiancé, I think this is the one, and he gently reminded me of my list of practical needs eg numbers of guests, disabled access for some friends of mine and located near good transport links as his friends will have to travel. Well after talking to their wedding team, what do you know? It ticked every box. I mean every box. I wouldn’t have to compromise on a thing.
His mom periodically suggests we look at other venues as we’ve only seriously considered one, so I’m currently going through a phase of thinking I might be missing out on a better venue. Hence asking about quirky venues a few days ago. But every venue I look at that’s as grand as that one doesn’t tick all my practicality boxes and every venue that ticks all my practicality boxes isn’t as grand.
I think I just need to stop and accept once I know, I know. It’s odd I’m usually such a decisive person, once my minds made up it’s made up, so what can’t I stop looking?!? Dress shopping is going to be a nightmare after this!
Post # 2
Looked at countless online, considered about 5, reached out to 3 when I realized the others were out of budget, toured and booked only 1. haha I fell in love with both the venue and the price.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2019 - City, State
michelleh0686 : I requested quotes from about 15 venues, but only visited about 5 in person.
The first one I went to was an absolute no. Way to tiny and separate floors for bar and dance floor.
The second and third venues I went to were show stoppers. I loved them both and was sure both of them were the perfect venue! One of them checked all my boxes, until my Future Mother-In-Law ballooned my guest list and it was then too small.
You may think your venue is totally perfect, but I want to agree with your mom. It does not hurt to just look at another place or two. If nothing else it will solidify your choice! Who knows, maybe there is one you havent looked at that checks all your boxes but is more affordable, or is something you wouldnt normally consider, but seeing it in person just wows you~!
I feel like it’s the same advice I would give for wedding dress shopping. Be open to different options and try to hunt around at least a little! Especially since the venue is usually one of the biggest costs!
Post # 4
We looked at three. The one we went with was on a Saturday morning, we drove to the next one straight after and the third was the next day.
If the venue you have already picked ticks all your boxes I would just stop looking. People make weddings more stressful than they need to be by spending months going on an endless search for perfection.
Post # 5
I did extensive research online and made a list of 10 places to consider. Follwed that up with calls and emails, adding all the information I learnt. Simple process of elimination based on budget, asthetics, etc. led me to my top two. I only physically visited these two and picked the one I knew in my heart I really wanted, from the start! 😛
Post # 6
Two. I had researched venues online, and as a wedding photographer I’ve been to many in my area. I knew I didn’t want a hotel or a banquet hall or a bland community hall.
The first one we looked at was a newer venue in an old historic renovated church with a morracan/boho theme that I fell in love with as soon as we walked in. My fiance just kept saying it was very “me”. We brought our moms, they loved it, and again just said it was very fitting. It’s more than we were expecting to spend, however it includes a wedding coordinator, all the tables and chairs, set up and tear down, and the decor is already set up and gorgeous.
We looked at a cheaper venue that’s still quite nice, but it would havea taken a lot more work to decorate and plan, as nothing was provided but the space.
We ended up booking the first one we looked at and fell in love with!
Post # 7
We requested quotes from 5-6 venues but only toured two before making our decision. In fact, we toured our selected venue AFTER we booked it. When you know, you know.
Post # 8
We looked at two but really we made our decision after we saw the first venue. We only went to look at the second because we already had an appointment scheduled.
We absolutely loved our venue and I have zero regrets about not looking at more.
Post # 9
We mostly went to venues open days, where we could pop in and browse rather than be forced to be polite round a definitely wrong for us venue. We looked at probably 9 venues, with 2 being appointments, and one of those was perfect.
Open days are great as we also got to meet vendors and got goodie bags with treats/glasses of prosecco etc. So they were worthwhile even though the venue was wrong, we got our florist, cake and decor from them!
Post # 10
We looked at 9, ended up going with the second on we saw. One other captured our hearts, but was way too much money and didn’t have the availability we wanted. For FH, it was between the one we chose and another, but he was happy with either and I wanted this one. Signing the contract today, actually!
Post # 11
Similar to other bees. I researched a bunch of places online, reached out via email to maybe 5ish, just to check dates/times availability and an estimate. I only went to 1 in person, and that was it, did a quick video tour, showed my fiance. That was the easy part, as for the rest, sigh.. Good luck!
Post # 12
gunnabamissus : I have been looking online at other venues and been to a couple of wedding fayres at other venues, but I have been dismissing them upon entering because they just don’t tick all my practicality boxes or don’t have the same look if they do tick all the practicality boxes. We looked at one venue which would have covered everything practically and saved us a tonne of money, but I just wasn’t wowed by it. The thing I keep coming across here is most venues seem to just be big white rooms with white sheets across the ceiling and sometimes down the walls, it’s pretty but It’s bland
Post # 13
zzar45 : I think you’re right, I should stop doubting myself and stop looking. I’ve found what I want.
Post # 14
I only visited one before making my decision- like you it ticked off all my boxes and I just knew it would be perfect. I also had an old coworker who’d had her reception at the same place and talked to her a bit about it.
I guess I’m just a “when you know, you know” kind of person. I also married the first person I ever seriously dated. There’s no reason you have to keep looking at other places “just because”- you found your place first, which is great!
Post # 15
bayoubee : I don’t think being a when you know you know kind of person is a bad thing. It’s everyone else around me going “you can’t just pick the first place you looked at, not even without a google search of others” I have since googled others, but I know I’m right choosing the first one. My only other serious contender since my google search didn’t have disabled access to the first floor ceremony room so was a definite no.