Post # 1
Before Fiance and I ever even got engaged I fell in love with the idea of having my wedding at the California Center for the Arts. I have already gone to see the venue and hammered out a rough idea of cost with a coordinator and they have a temporary hold on my day. The center is slightly more than I personally wanted to spend but my mom and brother, who are paying for most of the wedding, think the price is fine. Fiance thinks we should shop around more because we might find something we like better for less money but we live in San Diego and I am really stuggling to find an affordable venue that doesn’t have an outdoor ceremony site or a decor that clashes with my retro mid-century modern theme.
Fiance has planted doubt in my head were before I was so certian. I don’t want to end up with venue regret were I sign a contract and then find something better but maybe this is the one? So how many venues did you guys go to see before you found the perfect one? Did anyone have a venue they thought they loved but then found something better?
Post # 3
@novacaineandlaughter: We saw two, but we looked online at a lot more before the visits. I loved the price of the first one, but the second one just blew it out of the water, so we splurged. From our research, we knew it was a really good deal. We waited a couple months to book because we aren’t getting married till August 2013, and the visit was in December. We would have booked earlier, but we were waiting to hear what the exact contributions were going to be from family members (“I plan on giving something” was way to vague to plan around). Since your wedding is about 21 months away, I would do some research online before booking. Especially if it sounds like the venue doesn’t typically fill up for a couple months. Scenario 1: you out nothing is cheaper and book your original venue which you love. Scenario 2: you find something better and cheaper and book that. Its a win-win.
Post # 4
Only one. I knew exactly where I wanted to get married once I saw the venue and location. Unfortuantely, we had to back out of having it there because of financial constraints. It’s a great option for a vow renewal though.
Post # 5
I had one venue in mind that would have been perfect. Then I had major customer service/bait and switch issues with their consultant so I had to start over and after looking a bit online I found another venue I liked and could afford, so I signed a contract. Personally, I think that if you find a place you like and can afford and that has good customer service, you should just go for it. Shopping around may find you something, but it may also just waste a whole bunch of your time.
The bottom line is: only you know yourself. If you are the kind of person who changes their mind easily and frequently, maybe shopping around a bit is the way to go. But if you feel set on this venue, then pull the trigger and move on to the rest of your wedding planning
Post # 6
Before going to look at venues, I first did a ton of research online and made a lot of phone calls to narrow down the places that met our requirements: fit our budget, dog-friendly, and would have space for and allow us to rent a ferris wheel and have it set up on the property. I didn’t want to fall in love with a venue, and then find out later that it wouldn’t work with what we already had in mind.
We went to venue #1, and loved it. We were in awe. The price was right, they had the perfect spot to put up a ferris wheel, and they more than welcomed our dogs. We knew that was it. We did check out a couple of other places that I had narrowed down as well just “to see,” because we didn’t want to jump on the first thing we saw. But after touring the others, we kept going back to the original. We brought our mothers there soon after to see what they thought, and they confirmed what we already knew, this was THE place! We ended up booking probably about 2 weeks after originally looking at it, which was about 14 months in advance. I’m glad we booked early, because soon after I checked their availability calendar, and they were booked every weekend from May to September.
If you love it and it feels right, just book it! Or look at other venues for a few weeks. Looking at other places might help you realize that your place is the one. Just don’t wait so long that your date books up!
Post # 7
technically- 4? But the one we booked we were in twice- once for a bridal show and I loved it so much we had to go back. I’m still in love with it- but we decided to revamp our wedding plans to be something way smaller, so we cancelled.
Post # 8
I booked the first one I fell in love with. I am still happy with my choice because I know it’s perfect. Fiance and I actually booked it a month before we got engaged (we knew we were for sure getting married) because the site books 2 years in advance. So as long as you can see yourself and FH dancing the night away and an amazing site for pictures….I think you’ve found the right choice!
Post # 9
We saw 2 before we saw ours. So 3 all together.
We saw one that was just not us at all.. very small very outdated and not so pretty. It was pre-decorated for the most part and there wasn’t a lot you could do to fix it up. I liked that you could get married outside but we couldn’t see the outside during our visit and they said there would be another wedding upstairs on our date so we couldn’t have the covered porch to get married on if it rained. =( That was a no go.
The 2nd was beautiful… amazing… perfect- just slightly out of our price range and we’d have to get married in our reception space which I wasn’t a fan of plus we had to pay for the chairs and tables they had there… we passed even though we tried to make this one work.
Third one was the charm… though it was an hour drive we loved the reception site the free tables and chairs, that we could hire our own caterer, the price was very low and we could get married downstairs on the theater stage. I signed the contract right away! lol
Post # 10
I saw 2 venues. I had 4 I wanted to visit but after I saw the second one I was done.
I knew as soon as I saw pictures online (my dad suggested the place) that that was it.
They key to not getting something only to find you like something you like better is to decide on one you like, and then *stop looking* 🙂
this has helped me so much–I’m usually really indecisive
Post # 11
I think I looked at something like 8-10? It’s been a looooong while now so I’m not sure, I just know that I looked at a bunch. There were 2 that I absolutely loved, one was way cheaper then the other, but by the time we were ready to finalize the date, the cheaper one had been sold to someone else and wasn’t accepting new reservations. So we went with the first one that I’d fallen in love with after all! 😀
I think if you are in love with it, and it’s affordable to the people paying, I’d say you found your venue. 🙂
Post # 12
We booked the first one we saw. We had a few appointments to see others and had looked at soooooo many venues online, but all the prices were more than what we wanted to pay. The first venue we saw we had found from a Bridal Fair and we were so happy! We were second guessing going with just the first one we saw as well, but we felt that no one could beat their price and their gorgeous views from the reception room. So we booked it and haven’t regretted it since! Don’t think it isn’t possible to fall in love with the first venue you see. Just like it’s not impossible to fall in love with the very first dress you try on. Does your Fiance love the location as well and just thinks you might be able to do better with the price?
Post # 13
I researched tons, but I only technically went to see one…. that I didn’t even end up going with.
I say “technically” because the venue we went with was a historic cultural center/gardens in the city we were living in at the time, so we had been there lots of times just to walk around and enjoy it.
It was always where I envisioned getting married (old Victorian mansions, immaculate gardens, stone and brick pathways, old statues…) but I always thought it would cost too much. When I priced it initially, I was thinking an outdoor wedding *and* reception there, and with all their rental costs it really would have been expensive.
But by having just the ceremony there and the reception at another (indoor) venue, it worked out wonderfully.
I guess I did look at 2 venues then, if you count seeing the reception venue separately. We were pretty well set on it before we went, though b/c we knew people who had held events there before. It was more of a “just to be sure” visit.
Post # 14
Our venue was the first one we saw. I dragged Fiance to about 4 others, but each time he pouted and complained that they were not as nice as the first.
Post # 15
Just the one. I had the venue picked before the guy, lol.
Post # 16
Ha, it was actually just one. And it’s sort of an arena place, that has neat little ballrooms. The room we’re renting, though, is on the second floor overlooking the bay, with floor-to-ceiling windows and a balcony. And for everything (dance floor, security, the most expensive catering option, china, waiters, tables, linens, chairs, etc), we’re paying $43 a person (looking at ~80-100 people), and we’re hosting a couple of kegs and a certain amount of mixed drinks. Not too shabby. 🙂
What was funny though, was we saw the place only because the arena was hosting a bridal fair, and I overheard someone say “hey you should check out [certain room] in the arena because it’s a good place for a reception”, so we stopped by and went heck yes! 🙂