(Closed) How many weeks were you when you told your employer?

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
11050 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Traded_up: Good question. I’d be interested to know what other bees did, should I be in this situation 😉

Post # 4
43 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am a teacher and just started in a new school district this year. The day before I started was the day I found out I’m pregnant! I told my principals (I’m a music teacher and work in 2 schools) and department head at about 17 weeks. I wanted to wait until I was safely out of the first trimester and I was just beginning to show. They were very happy for me and super supportive. At the guidance of my department head, now that I’m almost 28 weeks I’m dealing with all the paperwork with HR and such so they can find a sub for my maternity leave.

Post # 5
509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Good question! Loads of people wonder about “the big reveal” to fam & friends but your pregnancy may impact co-workers and employers even more!

I would have waited until well into my 2nd tri to ensure my own privacy while still allowing time to hire my replacement but I had really bad pregnancy sickness (nausea & vomiting accompanied by bladder leakage every time I got sick) so I had to say something to explain.  I was occasionally late for work, called in sick or worked from home. Although initially nervous about telling so early, I’m so glad I did because my boss was so understanding. 

If I hadnt suffered such obvious symptoms that affected my ability to work as usual, I would have waited as long as possible.  I know I’m in the minority but I actually really enjoyed having the pregnancy be our little secret. I was very excited to share THE NEWS but I love keeping secrets.  Im known for it in my group of family and friends,  anyone can tell me anything and I can always be trusted.  Its a cool feeling, knowing something no one else does,  lol 😉

Post # 6
3003 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Traded_up:  I told at 13 weeks. I was tempted to tell earlier, since my job isn’t super “pregnancy friendly” (I coach alpine ski racing and also instruct skiing) but it worked out totally fine. I was exhausted and nauseous but not too bad. Three of my close friends had miscarriages and I was pretty motivated to not tell until the second trimester….

Post # 7
11735 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I told my boss at 17 or 18 weeks and the rest of my coworkers around 20 or 21.

Post # 8
9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

6 weeks but I had really bad morning sickness and since Swine Flu was all over the news everyone wanted me to go home and take sick days.  I met privately with my manager, swore her to secrecy from the rest of the staff, and told her the reason I was so sick was that I was pregnant.  She helped me out by telling everyone I had tested negative for Swine Flu so I didn’t have to go home (but I’m pretty sure everyone else figured out that I was pregnant.)

Post # 9
3823 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Traded_up:  12 weeks. everyone was super excited for me.

Post # 10
446 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I wanted to wait longer but I decided to tell my boss and two close coworkers who cover for me when I’m not there at 10 weeks.  I was having some spotting and had to leave uregently because my doctor told me to come in right away.  My boss’ reaction? “Looks like we’ll be having babies around the same time.”  She’s pregnant too!  

I am going to wait until after 12 weeks to tell other coworkers.

Post # 11
1663 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

between 5-6 weeks since I’m a teacher and there was a case of slap cheek going around my school so I had to take over a week off not knowing if I was immune or not. My principal was really great at keeping my secret although I still blurted pretty early at 13 weeks or so to the rest of my staff. 

Post # 12
2446 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

8 weeks but only because I’m on bedrest for hyperemesis until the end of my 1st trimester.

Post # 13
854 posts
Busy bee

I waited until they said “so are you pregnant or getting fat”.

Post # 14
3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I told at 12 weeks. We heard the HB at 10 weeks and felt confident in sharing the news.

Post # 15
1138 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I was 19w, basically starting to show pretty obviously so decided to go for it

Post # 16
6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I told at 5 weeks, only because I work in a human cadaver lab and they need to know to ensure I can take appropriate percautions.

Everyone was super supportive.

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