(Closed) How Many Were Invited VS. How Many Attended?

posted 11 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You might be surprised about which of your foreign invitees show up — a number of people from Australia who I invited on a ‘we’d love to see you but know it’s unlikely’ principle have already contacted us to let us know they’re coming and how much they’re looking forward to it.

I’m glad, as they’re within our budget — but surprised!

Our ‘harsh’ cut saw cousins leave the list rather than close friends — it increased the guest list by around 30, so it was easier to make a ‘no cousins’ rule.

Post # 4
246 posts
Helper bee

It just depends on WHO you are inviting.  The higher your out of town guest count, the lower your response rate but it’s tought to guess.  People I thought would travel to the wedding didn’t.  People who I never imagined would travel to the wedding did. 

We had a large number of out of town guests invited (70+) and were aiming for 100 – 120 guests.  We sent out the invites 2 months in advance and sent out to 150 people.  Although I had never planned on having a “B” list, when responses coming back and I could see how many people were having to decline, we did a second round of invites and added 20 friends we had hated to exclude from the first round of invites.  Because we had started sending out invites so early, the second round still went out a month in advance so hopefully no one caught on.  This enabled us to have just about 100 guests which was exactly what we wanted.

Post # 5
2022 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t know if that’s realistic.  Why don’t you send a first wave of invitations to family with an RSVP date 8 wks before the wedding, then at 8 weeks invite friends if your numbers work out?

We invited 235 and 175 came.  35 of the “no”s were DH’s out of state family who we knew would not be able to make it (flights, money, etc).  We were surprised that we had so many “yes’s” because our venue was 2-3 hours from where most guests lived.  It was so much fun havning everyone there : )

Post # 7
11324 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m going to agree that it really depends on who you invite. So far we have about 115 on our guest list and we’re pretty sure 100 will come. 

Post # 8
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We invited 314 (this is including a guest for every single person, the strong majority of them we anticipated coming alone), our count after RSVPs was 225 (this was with some estimation for the non-responses), and 218 attended.

Post # 9
1813 posts
Buzzing bee

I would buget for it, but I invited ~150 and 90 something showed.  I kinda wish I’d invited a handful of more people, but then I would’ve risked it being TOO crowded.

Post # 10
594 posts
Busy bee

I also think it depends if your 150 includes dates. Because some people might not be able to get a date (sad but true) and that changes the number too.

Post # 12
13561 posts
Honey Beekeeper

My wedding specialist told me you can estimate that 20% won’t come…but that, of course, is just an average.

Post # 13
619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

the standard in the industry is about 20% don’t come…

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