How many years dating before marriage?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How many years/months have you dated your FI before marriage?
    Less than 6 months : (6 votes)
    3 %
    About a year : (33 votes)
    18 %
    More than 3 years : (144 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 3
    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    3 years until we got engaged, 2 years of engagement. So 5. And we are still in that “cupcake” stage.

    Post # 4
    582 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @cassandra102012:  Well by the time my fiance and I get married August 4, 2013 we will have been dating for almost 12 years! We got engaged last July 2011 and celebrated our 10 year anniversary in December. We fall more in love with each other every day πŸ™‚ We met when I was 14 and he was 16 and have been together through many ups and downs ever since. We are lucky and blessed to have grown and matured together and not apart πŸ™‚ 

    Post # 5
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We were together for 6.5 years before we got married (actually, this Tuesday will be 7 years of tolerating eachother :)). I’d say the cutesie stage lasted maybe the first 6 months or so. It’s been nothing but reality ever since but I love him more today than I ever did. 

    ETA: I should clarify since my PP makes it sound like we don’t even like each other, lol. We definitely still cuddle and are lovey but I consider the cutesie stage to be that part of the relationship where things are still kind of new and you haven’t really dealt with all that much as a couple. You’re just “soooo in love” and obsessed with each other that you don’t really see any of your partners negatives (which everyone has). 

    Post # 6
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    9 years.

    Cupcakes for four of them, I’d say. But, cutsey, giggly spells come and go.

    Post # 7
    959 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We would already be married before our 3rd year anniversary of being together.

    Post # 8
    827 posts
    Busy bee

    4.5 years before getting engaged, and it should be a little over 6 years when we get married.  We’re still cupcake-y lol.  

    Post # 9
    158 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I got married a year after we met.  8 months after we met we were engaged and 4 months after we were in engaged we were married.


    Post # 10
    879 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I don’t really think my Fiance and I ever “dated” per say.

    We knew each other so well when we got involved.  Out time line is

    Meet 9 years ago
    Friends with benefits 5 years ago
    First Child 4.5 years ago
    Became a Committed Couple and Moved in together 4 years ago
    Engaged 2 years ago
    Second Child 18 Months ago
    Married in 4 months

    ………….I dont think our timeline is very wedding invitation appropriate…..

    Post # 11
    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Dating almost exactly 9 years before engaged. We will be together a total of 10 when we get married. I still feel like we’re in the “cupcake stage.” He still makes my stomach flip flop, we still call and text all the time when we’re not together, lots of affection.

    My parents were together for 11 years before they got married so it’s a family joke that we had to at least beat them πŸ™‚

    Post # 12
    5199 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 2010

    One year until we got engaged. We married about 2.5 months after that, so a little under 1.25 years!

    I would say we have a very strong, authentic and emotionally intimate relationship, where we also have a lot of fun together and just enjoy being together. We laugh and play a lot, and continue to be very romantic with each other, expressive of our feelings, in communication with each other even when apart, and so on but I don’t call us “cutesy” either if that is what you mean by cupcakey. We are just real with each other, and ourselves with each other, whatever that means at any one time.

    Post # 14
    11392 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    My husband & I had been together 4 years when we got married. This December will make 6 years in total. We are still madly in love today more so than yesterday! We are still very, very cuddly/lovey after almost 6 years. πŸ™‚

    Post # 15
    198 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    We got engaged on our 10 year dating anniversary and were married later that year (9 month engagement). I would say the real cupcake stage lasted maybe a year, but still have moments of giggly infatuation, 12.5 years later.

    Post # 16
    11356 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Because Darling Husband and I were both in our mid 40s when we met (he had been married before; I had not) and were looking to find the person God had chosen for each of us to marry, we actually moved pretty quickly once we believed that this was “it.”

    We met online and communicated electronically/by phone for two months, and we were engaged five months after our first in-person date. We were married 11 months after we became engaged.

    In hindsight, I can see that that our true “infatuation” stage actually ended before the wedding, but I was so busy with my (somewhat destination) wedding planning, fulfilling the obligations of my demanding career, trying to be in an LDR with my Fiance (who lived in another state  several hours from me and whom I only ever saw a couple of times each month) and dealing with all of the logistics involved in my eventual relocation to his area etc, that I really don’t think I noticed the true moment when that stage ended and all of the logistics of trying to merge our two, very different lives together became so all encompassing.

    Thankfully, now that we live in the same state full time and I’m not yet working here, we have had some opportunities to reconnect on that fun, silly level at times. Plus, my Darling Husband has a phenomenal sense of humor, so he is always making me laugh. However, because of the difficult transition of merging our lives together (I had to spend most of our first year of marriage commuting every week between my state and his until after my house sold and I could wrap up my job in my former city), and because of the “always on-call” nature of DH’s job as a senior pastor, and because of the fact that DH’s two younger children live with us half of the time, DH and I really did not ever get to have that “it’s all about us and our happiness” kind of newlywed experience.

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