(Closed) How many you invited vs. how many actually came?

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
9436 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We invited 117. 60 came. Our guest list was 90% out of towners though with the closest being an 8 hour drive away. I think everyone local attended. I really wanted a small wedding so I was thrilled with our higher decline rate.

I wouldn’t be worried about inviting 1 over. It’s unlikely 100% of those invited will attend though it does happen. Oh and you are actually 3 over if you aren’t including yourself and your fiancé. Possibly 4 or 5 if you invite your officiant (and possible SO) to the reception. I think we also had to include our DJ and photographer in the final numbers.

Post # 3
5040 posts
Bee Keeper

Haven’t had my wedding yet but I also read in several wedding articles that on average (of course this does not account for every single wedding) that around 20% will rsvp ”no”.

Post # 4
2989 posts
Sugar bee

We invited 356 and 305 showed.

Our vendor list of 18 was also included in the guest count.

Post # 5
3935 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I think we had about 85% come (about 165). Half the guests were out of towners.

Post # 6
859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I had a lot of out-of-state guests, so out of 121 invites, only 59 RSVPd “Yes.” Out of that, 15 people no-showed, so we only had 44 invited people attend. My husband’s grandma invited randos so people who weren’t invited at all showed up. It was annoying on principle, but with the no-shows it wasn’t a logistical issue. 

Post # 7
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I second the PP who said to make sure to include yourself and any vendors (DJ, photographer) in your count toward the capacity.

Our list is 186. About 100 local and 86 very far away. I’m hoping to stay under 100.

Post # 8
1695 posts
Bumble bee

We’re doing a tiny destination wedding in Vgeas. Our current list is 32 people. We are expecting to actually have about 10-18 people, including us and our bridal party.

Post # 9
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Backyard

We invited somewhere around 90-100 people and I think we had maybe 3-5% who couldn’t make it? Most of our guests were local & family, though.

Post # 10
2163 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club

We invited about 200 and had 147 actually come. Maybe 10-20% invited were from out of state.

Post # 12
1736 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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msmeow85 :  We invited 168 guests, we had 118 RSVP yes, and about 110 came the day of. We had several no shows, a family that decided at the last minute not to bring their 3 kids, and some people who left right after the ceremony. 

Post # 13
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

140 / 120

Post # 14
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We planned for 250 people. I think the head count at the reception was 202. Adding the people who went to the ceremony but did not join the reception, I think that brings the number up to 210-215. I also had people who confirmed their attendance but in the end, did not show up at all (ceremony or reception).

Post # 15
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We invited 79 and 71 came. 3 of those that didn’t attend were a couple with a young child who decided last minute not to come as they live abroad, and one other was ill on the day. It worries me when I see people waay over inviting for their venue size, as we had so many ‘attending’ RSVPs!

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