Post # 1
I’ve been wondering about this. Our current guest list is 111 people, including “plus ones” of our guests. Our venue holds 110. I’m assured by future-MIL that about 20% of people won’t come. Part of me is very reassured by this. I have a handful of out-of-state friends and only one I think will actually show (despite some enthusiasm over text when I said I was engaged).
My hope is for around 100 (or less!). For married bees, how many guests did you invite…and how many actually showed up? We’re not having a destination wedding, it’s local-ish to probably 80% of our guest list.
I keep reading around but am curious to know what happened to each of you.
Post # 2
We invited 117. 60 came. Our guest list was 90% out of towners though with the closest being an 8 hour drive away. I think everyone local attended. I really wanted a small wedding so I was thrilled with our higher decline rate.
I wouldn’t be worried about inviting 1 over. It’s unlikely 100% of those invited will attend though it does happen. Oh and you are actually 3 over if you aren’t including yourself and your fiancé. Possibly 4 or 5 if you invite your officiant (and possible SO) to the reception. I think we also had to include our DJ and photographer in the final numbers.
Post # 3
Haven’t had my wedding yet but I also read in several wedding articles that on average (of course this does not account for every single wedding) that around 20% will rsvp ”no”.
Post # 4
We invited 356 and 305 showed.
Our vendor list of 18 was also included in the guest count.
Post # 5
I think we had about 85% come (about 165). Half the guests were out of towners.
Post # 6
I had a lot of out-of-state guests, so out of 121 invites, only 59 RSVPd “Yes.” Out of that, 15 people no-showed, so we only had 44 invited people attend. My husband’s grandma invited randos so people who weren’t invited at all showed up. It was annoying on principle, but with the no-shows it wasn’t a logistical issue.
Post # 7
I second the PP who said to make sure to include yourself and any vendors (DJ, photographer) in your count toward the capacity.
Our list is 186. About 100 local and 86 very far away. I’m hoping to stay under 100.
Post # 8
We’re doing a tiny destination wedding in Vgeas. Our current list is 32 people. We are expecting to actually have about 10-18 people, including us and our bridal party.
Post # 9
We invited somewhere around 90-100 people and I think we had maybe 3-5% who couldn’t make it? Most of our guests were local & family, though.
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
We invited about 200 and had 147 actually come. Maybe 10-20% invited were from out of state.
Post # 11
Oh that is good to keep in mind–TBH we hadn’t thought of that. Our photographer’s contract includes that she’ll be getting a meal, but we’re doing a buffet so that should be pretty easy to accommodate!
Wow, you had a BIG wedding!
I’m hoping for under 100 too. It’s weird to say you hope people you invite don’t come, but it kinda has to be that way!
That will be so intimate and perfect!
Also..did anyone have anyone RSVP “yes” and then not show up? Or not RSVP at all and show up? Just curious.
Post # 12
We invited 168 guests, we had 118 RSVP yes, and about 110 came the day of. We had several no shows, a family that decided at the last minute not to bring their 3 kids, and some people who left right after the ceremony.
Post # 14
We planned for 250 people. I think the head count at the reception was 202. Adding the people who went to the ceremony but did not join the reception, I think that brings the number up to 210-215. I also had people who confirmed their attendance but in the end, did not show up at all (ceremony or reception).
Post # 15
We invited 79 and 71 came. 3 of those that didn’t attend were a couple with a young child who decided last minute not to come as they live abroad, and one other was ill on the day. It worries me when I see people waay over inviting for their venue size, as we had so many ‘attending’ RSVPs!