Post # 1
Sorry bees lol My grandma is on my last nerve. I love her so much but damn! lol I hope this comes off the way i want it to & that I am NOT the one who cares in this case SHE CARES A LOT!!! && she points it out so much!
She told me that our registries were all bought out, meaning its empty , I told her thats cool. For one we really don’t care lol we didn’t even WANT a stupid registry but made one to get the parents off our ass. lol there are only 10 items each on the 2. thats it. Well. When we told me this i was shocked because just this month i took off half the items lol. leaving 1 or 2 on them lol. After we signed them up we started taking things off one by one because we didn’t need it lol.
NO ONE BOUGHT ANYTHING! lol My grandma was in her dalusion state! lol which started cracking me up then my aunty (matron) told her no one has bought anything because she has access to the accounts as well. & the GRAMS well SHE GOT SOOOOOO PISSED!!! lol she was like bitching about how WE NEED TO HAVE THIS & THAT on our registry (mainly all expensive shit!) lol And i just stared at her lol. I told her theres no need we have everything we need lol. && that its OKAY no one bought anything that our family is all we need. She went into her pout state! lol
but UGHHH!!! She is driving me crazy! lol everytime i see her (which is basically everyday) she brings it up in the coverstaion at least once a day!!!!!! I think i need a relax state from her and not see her until like thursday so i don’t keep cracking up & her getting even more upset. She stays in her upset phase for a few days then she comes out of them. At this point there isn’t anymore talking to her about it lol because there ISN”T ANYTHING TO TALK ABOUT! lol :))
I just wanted to rant and get it off me chest.!
Just curious anyone else had this type of situation with anyone in your family!? 😀 Share if you like!!
Post # 3
Fiance and I have lived together for 3 years; so we have everything we need. No I don’t want fancy stupid china that will get dusty and take up space. His mother has mentioned registries for linens and such. Why? i just…we don’t need or want any of it.
Post # 4
@Dashlied: Exactly!!!! we have everything we need lol so why do we need new things we already have && that are still good! lol geez people i tell ya lol
Post # 5
Not to mention my mother is a shopaholic and so is Future Mother-In-Law. Between the two of them I habe enough crap in boxes than I know what to do with. Just why on earth would I bring them with me to a store, so they can go crazy. Fiance wants nothing to do with it, and he’s a truck driver, so he’s never home anyway.
i can see it now. I will have half of bed bath and beyond in my basement and Macy’s in my attic. *shudders*
Post # 6
@Dashlied: once my wedding planning is getting closer i think ill be in the same boat. Fi and i have owned our own houses for 8/5 years so we need to get rid of stuff not aquire it! im also doing destination so i get a lil offended when people insist that we open a registry!
hold your ground! its your wedding!!
Post # 7
@Jaxxmom: finally people who get it!!! NO china that will never get used here!
Post # 8
Have you thought out of the box for things like a grill, or potters for plants or extra sheets (they wear out) nicer towels, bocce ball set for get togethers, outdoor cushions for chairs you already have, camping gear, badmitton set, artwork, etc. Or aybe smaller items such as a replacement wooden spoons, or monopoly, or an automatic cat litter box, etc
I have lived with me Darling Husband for years and I can still think of things I would like to have replaced or upgraded or just something I have not purchased. I just takes a bit of creativity
Post # 9
I don’t think she’s being materialistic as much as traditional. Many older people don’t “get” the whole not having a registry thing. Even though you tell them you have everything you need since you’ve been on your own or living with your Fiance, they still assume you should get all new things for your “future” home. At least that has been my experience.
Don’t be surprised if you get gifts you don’t like/want/need though. Not having a registry does not mean people will just give you cash. Even with a registry, people will buy things you don’t want/need/like that you didn’t register for. Some people do not like giving monetary gifts, so even though I didn’t want to register I did so that people had an option and to reduce the likelihood of getting things I didn’t want.