(Closed) How materialistic can my family bee?! mainly my grandmother!!! …. Rant.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Fiance and I have lived together for 3 years; so we have everything we need. No I don’t want fancy stupid china that will get dusty and take up space. His mother has mentioned registries for linens and such. Why? i just…we don’t need or want any of it. 

Post # 5
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102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Not to mention my mother is a shopaholic and so is Future Mother-In-Law. Between the two of them I habe enough crap in boxes than I know what to do with. Just why on earth would I bring them with me to a store, so they can go crazy. Fiance wants nothing to do with it, and he’s a truck driver, so he’s never home anyway. 

 

i can see it now. I will have half of bed bath and beyond in my basement and Macy’s in my attic.  *shudders* 

Post # 6
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173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Dashlied:  once my wedding planning is getting closer i think ill be in the same boat. Fi and i have owned our own houses for 8/5 years so we need to get rid of stuff not aquire it! im also doing destination so i get a lil offended when people insist that we open a registry!

hold your ground! its your wedding!!

Post # 7
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102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Jaxxmom:  finally people who get it!!!  NO china that will never get used here! 

Post # 8
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2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Have you thought out of the box for things like a grill, or potters for plants or extra sheets (they wear out) nicer towels, bocce ball set for get togethers, outdoor cushions for chairs you already have, camping gear, badmitton set, artwork, etc.  Or aybe smaller items such as a replacement wooden spoons, or monopoly, or an automatic cat litter box, etc

I have lived with me Darling Husband for years and I can still think of things I would like to have replaced or upgraded or just something I have not purchased. I just takes a bit of creativity

Post # 9
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think she’s being materialistic as much as traditional. Many older people don’t “get” the whole not having a registry thing. Even though you tell them you have everything you need since you’ve been on your own or living with your Fiance, they still assume you should get all new things for your “future” home. At least that has been my experience.

Don’t be surprised if you get gifts you don’t like/want/need though.  Not having a registry does not mean people will just give you cash.  Even with a registry, people will buy things you don’t want/need/like that you didn’t register for.  Some people do not like giving monetary gifts, so even though I didn’t want to register I did so that people had an option and to reduce the likelihood of getting things I didn’t want.

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