(Closed) HOW MAY REALLY SHOW UP? LADIES GETTING MARRIED OR JUST GOT MARRIED.. HELP

posted 3 years ago in Guests
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre

We invited 600 guests mostly family I expect everyone to show up

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee

I think around 20% decline is typical but be careful, if everyone is local it could be higher attendance.  I invited 200 (max capacity) expected/planned for around 160 and had about 150 but my wedding was on a Friday.  My brother got married six months prior with a similar guest list and had only about 12% decline.  

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We also had a goal of 150 people and invited around 170 (knowing some of the people we were inviting wouldn’t come because of distance or whatever) but then ended up with around 140..There were definitely some people we thought would come who couldn’t make it for a number of reasons or people who did not bring their kids even though we counted them when making the list. I was super nervous about going over too, but it all worked out. It is a difficult part about wedding planning. Good luck!

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

Out of our invite list, 2 people didnt come.
Inviting past your max is never a good idea, had we dont that we would have retracted a lot of invitations

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

It depends on how many people have to travel. Some people will travel across the world for a wedding while others will only go across town. Know your crowd!  

We had about a 50% acceptance rate, but a 75% realistic acceptance rate; that number includes about 20 “courtesy invites” that we knew would not attend. I was surprised at how many married people are coming by themselves and not bringing their spouse. 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We’ve invited 75 and I expect to have between 55 and 65 (have loads from overseas and also made room for +1s and some people might come alone etc. 

I’d say be conservative

Post # 22
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t invite more than your venue can hold or you can afford.  There’s no magic formula to decide who will come and who won’t.  My wedding invovled significant travel for almost all of our guests, and almost 80 or 90% actually came and made the trip — including several that my parents and my inlaws both said, “Oh just invite them, they’d never come.”

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Star35 :  Where is your wedding? Are you inviting guests who live in town, or will people have to travel? That makes a huge difference. We invited around 300 people and only 210 (70%) showed up HOWEVER I am originally from New York and got married in St Louis. If people have to travel for your wedding, the acceptance rate drops significantly. 

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

If every single person brought a plus one, we would have had 160- total count was 130. We had only 6 people RSVP no, most singles just didn’t bring a date.

Post # 25
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

What I would advise doing is having an A-list for your must have guests and a B-list for those you’d love to invite but cannot unless others decline. Invite at the same time all guests within specific friend and family circles who know each other so that your guests will have no idea they’re on a B-list.

Send your A-list invitations about 12-13 weeks out, and, the minute you start receiving declines, begin sending ypur already addressed invitations to the next group. I did this. Our venue had a max capacity of 170. I was able to invite 212 in total and ended up with 150 “Yes” responses. At no point did I have more than 170 “live” invitations out there.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We invited 120 people and had 80 RSVP yes. Of those 80, 70 showed up. Of those 70, only one was a no-show, the other 9 alerted us ahead of time that they would need to change their RSVP. 

Post # 27
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

Star35 :  We invited 249, 40 of which were “obligation invites” that we knew wouldn’t come. So let’s say 209 invited. We had 165 guests. So that’s about 80%. We included even little kids, so if it was adults only those numbers might have been different. 

I wouldn’t invite more than a handful over what the venue can hold. There are so many factors. If most people are local, more are likely to come. Different families feel more strongly about coming than others. The time of year, the location, the weather…. all could have a factor. For us, even though it was a 2 hour drive for most of the guests and many others had to fly in, because it was in a popular city with lots to do, I think we got more people because they just decided to make a weekend of it. 

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

We had a very small wedding of family and close friends. 32 were invited, and 32 showed up…but 100% attendance isn’t typical I hear!

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