Post # 1
I’m torn! After getting engaged I called and txted my closest friends, and they spread the word. My girlfriends are excited, PMing me for proposal/ring/wedding details, leaving congrats messages etc. And that’s great! I love sharing with them. Many of them also want to be kept up to date with details and photos and planning, and I want to but…
not all of them are going to be invited to the wedding (some won’t expect to be, some may do, I’m not really sure), and I feel funny about parading it in front of them and getting their feedback etc, when I can’t invite them (and they may be disappointed). I’m not wording this very well, but I feel like I’d be helping them get excited, and would be sharing as if it was something we were going to share on the day too, when I can’t.
I looked at Weddingbook, or whatever that Facebook app is called, but I’m not sure. And I thought about a blog, because then only people who are really interested would bother following. But I’m not sure. I’ve stayed mum publicly so far, and only responded to each person as they ask.
What do you do?? Any advantages/problems/issues that have arisen due to publicised details? What about people’s expectations?
Post # 3
I think a blog would probably be the best way. People are going to be drilling you for details and unless you want to repeat the same stories over and over, it is a great sanity saver. If you put it somewhere away from facebook so that people need to go there specifically and won’t be bombarded with wall updates. Some people might get upset when they aren’t invited but it isn’t like you are doing it on purpose. There will always be people unhappy about not being invited whether you have a blog or not.
Post # 4
I have the FB app weddingbook and I have my blog. I just use the weddingbook for basic stuff, wedding pary and duch, but really dont use it for any more than that…
My blog is one that I made just for the wedding. I don’t really expect people to read it, but if they do, sweet. I mainly have it just so I can put my thoughts out in written form somewhere that they wont get lost. It helps me to think about things and all that. It also keeps my mind from exploding. At first I was super excited and wanted everyone and their brother to know about EVERYTHING! But now, I am wanting to keep things a suprise so that people will be excited to see it on the wedding day. I don’t want them to feel like they have seen it all before it is here.
Post # 5
Just be careful who you write about even if you leave out names lol bridesmaids from hell can still catch on that you where talking about them even though you didnt mention any names lol
Post # 6
Good points. A blog might be the one. I’ve never blogged before though, I think I’ll feel a bit self-concious for a while!
I’m definitely sick of repeating myself though – have my proposal “story” saved to my computer and phones so when someone asks I don’t have to retype it 😛
Post # 7
I am very very secretive about my wedding day details. I won’t really share them with anyone besides my mom fiance … and they’re both sworn to secrecy!
I don’t really share every detail about the wedding here … I try to keep it a secret until the big day .. I’m just like that though. What if someone I know is on here? Lol. They would know everything!
Also, I will not show my final dress to anyone besides my mom! Nobody will see it until I walk down the aisle. =)
Post # 8
i vote for the blog as well. i try to keep things quiet on facebook because i don’t want to feel like i am bragging. most people on facebook will not be invited!! i started my blog just for my bridal party and my family, because i am planning a wedding away from my hometown. this way i can keep people updated, but i don’t need to tell everyone about it.
Post # 9
I think blogging might be a good way to keep people in the loop but kinda in an impersonal way. You’re not seeking out specific people to give the info to, if they’re interested they can look at the blog, ya know? I think its tough because if there are people who think they’ll be invited but won’t be, you gotta play it cool. I would try my hardest to avoid wedding talk, its a bummer though. I have lots of old friends or acquaintances that ask wedding questions on Facebook but its ok because there’s no way they think they’ll be getting an invite.
Post # 10
I set up a specific webpage under Go Daddy for only $5 a month. From what my old coworker told me you can create your own free webpage on The Knot. We put them in our invites so that people could track our progress towards wedding day. You could also create a blog as well, which is free. I’d be skeptical about placing your pics and info on Facebook because you may offend some of the people on your friends page that aren’t invited to the wedding.
Post # 11
I totally understand what you are saying! I’ve been feeling the same way. I have a weddingbook on FB but nothing is really on there because people are trying to know everything and they aren’t even invited! I actually just started a wedding blog and I’m happy I did, the only people who know about it are those invited or other people planning weddings. And even if it’s other people, it doesn’t matter I don’t put anything up there so secretive.
Post # 12
I think you should be careful about how much you talk wedding with those that are not invited. It’s one thing to congratulate you, etc. but another thing to get drawn into the excitement of the event. They may not realize they will not be invited and I could see how it would be disappointing after anticipating the event. If the topic of the wedding comes up, I would just give some generalizations and then change the topic onto them.
I think a wedding website might be a good compromise (if you decide not to blog) – that way, you can post all the details you want to share and leave it like that.
Post # 13
Just a thought-we have hired someone to stay here at our house during the rehearsal and wedding/reception since I’m a public school teacher and the information is out there and we don’t want any chance of anything happening at home-wedding gifts & money will be here…prime opportunity for thefts.
Post # 14
Just from what I’ve seen, the less you talk about your wedding on facebook, the better. Especially if a lot of the people on your friends list aren’t going to be invited. I changed my status when I got engaged, but I haven’t put anything else at all about it! It seems the more you talk about it and the more excited you get, other people will get that way and you’ll make them want to go to your wedding!
You could always do a blog, or set up a free wedding website such as through mywedding.com. I know you can password protect some or all of the pages on it, so that only people you give that information to can look at it. That’s what K and I are doing, and we’ll put the ceremony & reception and the RSVP pages under a password if we decide to share the link to it on Facebook or anywhere else. I know you could definitely do the same thing with a blog! 🙂
Post # 15
i feel the same way i dont want to tell anyone on fb or myspace because one time i made the mistake of saying YAY we found the venue and everyone started commenting I CANT WAIT FOR YALL WEDDING ITS GOING TO BE BEAUTIFUL ILL MESSAGE YOU MY ADDRESS FOR MY INVITATION. i was like forreal i know you because of my friends sisters baby daddys cousin you arent invited.
Post # 16
I have nothing at all about my Fiance and I on my facebook for the same reason that not everyone will be invited and I just want to avoid the million and one questions.
A blog would be ideal to share your thoughts and excitement.