Post # 1
i am just curious! I just read another bee’s post about serving just beer/wine at her wedding vs including liquor and I am curious how much y’all drink?
i like wine but don’t drink near as much as I did in my 20’s..mostly vodka back then! it wouldn’t phase me one bit if someone didn’t have liquor at their wedding and I was actually shocked while planning my wedding when a friend made a derogatory comment about not having liquor at weddings.. to be fair my friend in question was really young, so mainly older ladies (im 34) are ok with wine?
Do you girls like to drink!? 😉
Post # 2
I don’t drink at all anymore but don’t mind when people do. I’m 38.
Post # 3
i don’t have a rule about not drinking, but i don’t drink…if that makes sense? it upsets my stomach, i always feel like shit the next day, i have zero tolerance, and i’m a hella annoying drunk.
i personally find drunk people very obnoxious. i don’t mind being around people having drinkswith dinner or even going with people for a drink after work and just grabbing a mocktail for myself. i love mini umbrellas as much as the next girl! i just don’t go along for an evening of drinking. some people don’t like being the only sober person because they feel like they are missing out…i don’t like being the only sober person because i can’t tolerate the drunks. lol.
Post # 4
I’m 27. I don’t drink often. Occasionally I will have a glass of wine or a vodka cranberry. In the winter I’m a big of of baileys in my hot chocolate. But I typically don’t have more than about 2-3 drinks max when we go out, if I drink at all.
Post # 5
I suffer from chronic migraines and weirdly… wine seems to help. My neurologist says I should go with it (within reason) as we haven’t found anything else that works. So I probably have a glass of wine with dinner most nights. I do like to drink outside of the migraine-relief effect, so I’ll probably have 2-3 drinks on a weekend night. I would be disappointed if I went to a wedding without alcohol. It wouldn’t be a deal-breaker, I can definitely get on the dance floor without it! I just think it’s a nice compliment to food and I have definitely witnessed it’s ability to loosen a crowd a bit. I’m 29, FWIW.
Post # 6
I’m tee-total and have been virtually all my life because I don’t like the taste and hate drunk people.
Most of my friends aren’t tee-total but aren’t big drinkers anyway.
Post # 7
I’m almost 28. I don’t drink and actually never have. It’s funny though, I’m friends with a bunch of girls who were raised Mormon and they all drink, whereas I wasn’t raised in a religious household at all!
Post # 8
We have a couple of glasses of wine with dinner a couple of times a week. H has the odd beer . Also he has a Bundaberg rum and Coke occasionally in the winter . (He has to, he’s from Queensland lol)
I’m surprised how many pps mention drunkenness as if it were an inevitable comcomitant of drinking any alcohol.
Post # 9
I rarely drink because I’m not a fan of the taste but I do enjoy the occasional cocktail or glass of wine.
Post # 10
mrsknc : I can’t remember the last time I had an alcoholic drink. At least two years. It’s never appealed to me, neither the taste, nor the stereotypical lifestyle (clubbing, bar scene, bubble bath, etc). Even when I do drink, it’s usually a shot in hot chocolate b/c my throat feels like crap, or else a rum/coke that I nurse all night while shooting pool (which I haven’t done in about 8 years!).
I greatly appreciate weddings where the hosts remember that other types of drink are delicious too – lemonade, good soda instead of run-of-the-mill ones, things like that. But I also don’t see why someone would make a snide comment about you having wine… it’s typical of any big social occasion to have alcohol available. Why would she care?
Post # 11
mrsknc : I’m 27. I will tell you a story of a wedding my brother went to last month. My brother has known the groom since high school. They’re 25.
The bride and groom met at university. They are the first of their uni friends to get married. The meal was at 4 or 5pm. A table of his uni friends went to the bar during dinner (wine was provided for the meal) and ordered shots. They got drunk quickly and were singing drinking songs and generally being raucous. The speeches were after dinner and they heckled the father of the bride during his speech. My brother said it was one of the worst experiences he’s had at a wedding. (He goes to a lot. In fact he has 4 weddings the same month as me)
I would say I’m a drinker but I wouldn’t think it appropriate to have anything more than wine and beer during dinner. I would potentially have a G&T if it was available. But it wouldn’t bother me if not.
Eta I agree with the PP about soft drinks if you’re the designated driver having something more interesting than cola available makes all the difference. Much more than having liquor available or not.
Post # 12
I was a non drinker until the last couple years. Now I will very infrequently have a drink. I probably have a drink once evety other month. I’m 38.
Fiance is big into craft beer. He probably averages 5-6 beer a week. He’s 43.
Both of us would be fine if we went to a dry wedding. I’ve never understood needing a drink to have a good time.
Post # 13
mrsknc : Another non-drinker here. In fact, I reckon the big drinkers felt too guilty to click on your post 😉 (totally joking).
I think there has been beer and wine available at every wedding I’ve been too. A couple also had cider and/or other types of liquor available on request (i.e. it hasn’t been the norm for us). We offered beer, wine, Pims (a single type of cocktail) and cider for a few guests that didn’t drink wine or beer.
I think beer and wine are the norm, and will cater to the majority, if not all, of your guests. If you have that one weird Uncle who only drinks straight whisky, you can always decide to make that somehow available to him, but I don’t think you need to go out of your way for everyone’s potential preferences. Hard liquor is much more expensive to provide (maybe not if your venue is BYO) and has a higher potential for getting people sloppy… fast.
Post # 14
I’m 28. I like some wines, but not very many. I don’t like beer at all. I’m more of a mixed drink type of gal. Mai tai, martinis, coconut rum with pineapple juice, etc. I don’t drink to get drunk anymore. I’m well past that phase lol. When I drink, I usually have 1 or 2 and that’s it.
Post # 15
I’ve been to one dry wedding. It was an Indian wedding that started at 1 and ended at 4pm. There was a bar next to the venue and we went in there after and found about 50 guests from the wedding in there drinking alcohol.
We served wine and beer (and two glasses of champagne per person). English wedding so pretty normal. We also paid for any soft drinks that people ordered from the bar. We didn’t however pay for shots or mixed drinks but that’s quite normal here. We had a few guests who were quite tipsy but no one falling-over level drunk.
I drink infrequently, will often go a month without any alcohol but just as I wouldn’t have people over for a party or dinner without offering alcohol, I wouldn’t have considered not offering it at my wedding. I’m not at all offended if the couple want a dry wedding but weddings here are normally quite long (1pm to midnight) and I won’t lie, I’d quite like to be offered alcohol during that time. Cocktails/ champagne outside in the sun between the wedding and reception are one of my favourite parts of the day!