Post # 1
My first question is how much is appropriate to spend on bridesmaids gifts? I don’t want to get them something and have them feel under appreciated, but I’m not sure how much I should be spending. Their dresses ended up being more than I had wanted them to spend so I paid for half to keep what their costs more in the original range I was aiming for. I want to get them something else and so my second questions after the how much, is what falls in that price range? Thanks in advance for all your thoughts and suggestions!
Post # 3
It really just depends on what you want to do. For my girls I’m spending about $50-60 per girl. I’m not paying for their dresses or anything, so I figure that is a good amount. I’m making a tote bag for each girl and filling it with some emergency supplies (hairspray, extra bobbypins, gum, etc.) then also buying a necklace for each girl off of dogeared.com that best fits their personality. It’s really up to you, your budget, and what you think would best suit your girls.
Post # 4
I think what they spend on you should be taken into consideration. If you ask them to drop $250 on dresses, I think you are more *obligated* to buy a nicer gift. If you pick out affordable, reusable dresses, you can just get something nice in the $50 range. Look at what fits into your budget and as long as you are taking theirs into consideration (ie making them buy an expensive dress and then gifting them $20 necklaces), I think you’re good to go! That being said, paying for half their dresses is really generous so I think a smaller gift (like along the lines of what FutureMrsTal said) is totally appropriate. The offset is cost means more to them than any trinkety things you can buy. My mom made my girls’ dresses, and Future Sister-In-Law is a hairstylist (i’m still compensating her and her hairstylist friend though), so that was all taken care of for them. I also got them monogrammed tote bags, jewelry (bracelet+earrings), snacks for the day of and water, and I made DIY monogram wine glasses for fun. None of it was very expensive–maybe $80 per girl–but I DIY’d a few things so use your crafty abilities if you can!
Post # 5
I was just in a wedding this weekend for one of my best friends and she gave all the girls (eight of us) wine, a wine stopper, a bookmark, and pearls (inexpensive kind!) to wear with our dresses. We each picked out our own black dress of our choice to wear. I thought it was perfect.
Post # 6
I got my girls jewelry + paid for half of their make up. It came to about $80 per girl. If you are paying for half of their dresses I think something small and personal (Like $25-$50) would be fine. maybe lockets with a pic of you two together with their initials or something…
Post # 7
Depending on your budget, I would also think of it from the perspective of what they would like to get. I didn’t want to get my bridesmaids a bunch of trinkets and things they would never use, so got them wine, chocolate, cookies, and am paying for them to get the hair and nails done the day before. I thought of jewelry too but couldn’t decide on anything.
Post # 8
You can never go wrong with totes; my cousin gave us totes with essentials and snacks! You never know whe you’re going to need food that may not be accessible during all the hub-bub of a wedding. Also check out http://www.modernluxuri.com for cute keepsake jewelry made especially for bridesmaids, flower girls, etc. It’s a cute idea to include something like this to make it more personal. Especially since you helped with the cost of the dresses, don’t feel like you have to go overboard! People understand how much it costs to plan a wedding and won’t expect anything over the top!
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2020 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
I gave my ‘maids their dresses, jewelry (neckalces and pearl earrings), a Twigs and Honey hair flower and tote bags. And their hair, makup, and manicure the day of the wedding. I thought the best thing I could do was pay for as many of the wedding expenses as I could, especially since I had a destination wedding. In order to make this fit my budget, I only had three bridesmaids and one junior bridesmaid. I’ve been a bridesmaid eight times, and I was always greatful for those kind of gifts. Bridesmaids spend a lot to be at the wedding so if you can ease any of the associated expenses, that’s always appreciated.
Post # 10
As others have been saying, it really depends on each individual.
Honestly, I based it off what I could afford. As much as I would have loved to get each bridesmaid a $150 gift card to a fancy spa or something, we just couldn’t afford that. So I tried to make it really meaningful instead. I got each Bridesmaid or Best Man a necklace designed by a local jewelry designer (not to wear on the wedding day, but just for everyday, which I thought was better, as they’d get more use out of it). Then my fiance and I got each wedding party member a bottle of wine in addition to their first gift, which we bottled ourselves at a local winery and had custom labels printed that said, "Thank you! This wine was bottled with love just for you." Which, it really was 🙂 Total per attendant, about $65. We also had personalized cards printed, custom-made on shutterfly for each attendant. Each card had a picture of us with them, and inside, we wrote a really thoughtful note to each individual person to let them know how much we appreciated their love and support.
That’s my very long way of saying that if you can’t break the bank on a super nice gift, anything with lots of meaning will be the best. For example, the necklaces I got my girls, they were metal tress with beading in them, and I included a cute little poem in each box about how families that laugh together GROW together, so it signified us staying close and growing closer over time.
Post # 11
none of my bridesmaids live in my wedding city, so I also wanted to chip in a bit more. I started just buying jewelry sets (necklace and earrings on etsy – ~$40/each) and planning to pay for everyone’s hair, since the stylists are coming to our house. too much browsing of this site and etsy though and I ended up buying cute makeup bags/mirrors on etsy to put the jewelry in, along with tinted mentha lip gloss and gel shoe inserts (we have long dresses so I’m trying to keep people’s shoes on!).