(Closed) How much anxiety is normal?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
484 posts
Helper bee

Consider the anxiety medications again. And just try them before your wedding so you know the right dosage that lessens the anxiety but doesn’t affect your lucidity. I have a low dosage I use to fly. I don’t feel any different at all when I take one except for feeling less anxious. Some other things I do to help my anxiety are concentrating on controlling my breathing and focusing on specific things. So when you are up there really focus on listening and processing every word the officient says. The effort taken to really concentrate will help to distract you from all the people watching. Try and just keep your eyes on your fiance only. I held my husbands hands throughout our entire ceremony and we kind of whispered to each other and made little jokes from time to time which was calming as well. How big is your guest list? Are you able to have a small amount of people at the ceremony?

Post # 4
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Anxiety is different for lots of people. I hate standing up in front of people but I know that I’m able to do it, for example. So that doesn’t cause me a lot of anxiety but it sounds like it’d be very difficult for you. I think the first thing you need to do is figure out just how nervous you are being about it. And don’t be too hard on yourself. If you say the wrong thing on the actual day is it really going to ruin the whole day? If you really think that you’re going to faint or throw up because you’re so nervous maybe consider going to your doctor and explaining your anxiety and seeing if they have any recommendations. I’m hesitant to say go ahead and take some medication without seeking professional opinion first because you might just be blowing the whole thing out of proportion in your mind and on the day you could actually be just fine without needing any meds.

Post # 5
1260 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Do you have problems with anxiety in other areas of your life, or is it just associated with the wedding (i.e. this is the first time this level of anxiety had happened for you)? 

There is a lot of pressure to have that “perfect wedding”. Are you having a large ceremony with a lots of guests, or something more intimate? Would it be possible to pare the guest list down if that would help decrease some of your anxiety? Medications are also quite effective, as stated by a previous poster – especially if this is an issue that plagues other parts of your life as well. I would speak to your physician. He/She may also refer you to a counsellor if it is merited, which could be a big help as well.

Good luck!

Post # 8
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I took Paxil for a few years when I had anxiety issues that I couldn’t overcome.  I knew that what got me anxious was not that big of a deal, but it was beyond the point of rationale, and I needed something to kick my chemical balance back into place.  Paxil is a pretty low impact medication, and it takes about 4-6 weeks to be effective in your system.  You have some time before the wedding, I would suggest talking to a doctor and trying something out, and seeing how you feel.  Kind of like a trial run to see what works now, because if it makes you less anxious BEFORE the wedding, it probably will help DURING the wedding.

And if it makes you feel any better, I HATE being the center of attention and having people stare at me, too.  We’re having about 300-350 guests, and that is my biggest concern right now!

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