- 3 years ago
I am planning on asking my girls to be bridesmaids when I go home for winter break. My girls are not millionares, and I am starting to get anxious about the cost that being my bridesmaid would be. I also do not have much money, so I can’t offer to pay for their dresses or anything.
My wedding itself is going to be about 150 people in our extremely large backyard. We are getting married on our property with only about 20 people invited to the ceremony. I know that sounds like I shouldn’t even bother with bridesmaids, but the small ceremony was a compromise with my FI (he really wanted to elope, and I begged to let us have a wedding with a reception), and it is very important for me to have my girls. My original goal was to try and find a sundress at target/etc in my color, but I haven’t been able to find something anywhere near what I want. I was looking at some bridesmaid dresses at DB/AA and the ones that I am looking at are the $130-$150 range.
Anyway, these are my girls:
MOH: best friend since 9th grade (almost 20 years!), I was her MOH 2 years ago. I spent a ton of money on her wedding, well over $1000. she has no idea I spent that much and I would never tell her (about $600 of it was the bachelorette party that I tried to plan, the other bridesmaids highjacked it, told me and the other MOH we were doing a horrible job and weren’t making it big enough, spent hundreds of dollars on liquor that wasn’t used, and then gave me a bill that was twice as much as theirs because I was the MOH!). She and her husband both make good money but she is pregnant and due a few months before my wedding.
BM1:Very close friend for about 12 years. She works an hourly job as a bank teller, so I cannot imagine that she is making much money. She is planning on getting married within the next 2 years and lives on her own.
BM2: Close friend since 1st grade. Married with one child, both she and her husband make ok money, but they just bought a new house in a more expensive area.
I am very close to all of my girls (obviously or else I wouldn’t ask them!) and I know that they would spare no expense for me, just like I would for them. I know that they would all stress out and cut corners to make things work and keep a financial difficulty to themselves. This makes me worried because I DO NOT want my wedding to cause them any hardship.
So I come to you bees…what would be reasonable? Is $150 too much for a dress for that kind of wedding? I am not the type to want a big “to do” for a bachelorette or bridal shower, but my MOH has already insisted that I am to have both and they will be nice.
How much do you estimate that your bridesmaids will spend for your wedding?