Post # 1
Just out of curousity, i’m interested to see what Bee’s bridesmaids are paying to be in your wedding.
This includes: their dress, shoes, hair/make up, nails, travel/accomodations, bridal shower, bachlorette party, wedding gift…anything I’m forgetting?
It sure can be expensive. I think we ALL try really hard to keep the cost down, but at times it does seem difficult.
Post # 3
Hmm, it’s difficult to answer that because for most things it will be their choice what to pay! The same as they would for any other wedding, I suppose.
Dress – £0 (in the UK, the bride pays)
alterations – as required but hopefully not much
shoes, hair, makeup, nails etc all up to them – I haven’t made any requests
accommodation – all free, as we are putting up the only BM who can’t stay with their families at my parents’ house
travel – cost of trains tickets / petrol – maybe £30?
hen party – their choice as they are planning it! It’s a surprise for me so I have no idea what we’re doing.
wedding gift – again, up to them
sorry, I know that’s not really helpful! Would be interesting to see what other people say.
Post # 4
Roughly $50 each, including the gas to drive to the wedding (it’s an hour drive for both). They got to pick their own dresses, so neither will be paying more than $30 for them. They’re wearing their own shoes. I’m paying for them to have their hair/makeup done.
I’m not having a bridal shower or bachelorette party and I’m not sure how much they will be spending on gifts, if they do gifts.
Post # 5
Wow, I am totally interested in seeing what people put. Right now, my BMs have to buy their dress and accessories ($60+), travel/hotel (hotel = $99 a night). I am paying for hair/makeup, food for the weekend, and bouquets. 3 of them are out of state and with kids, the other two are 16 and 18 so I doubt there will be any showers or bachlorette parties thrown (co-workers maybe…) I am estimating an average of $450 but it is very scattered.
This is a great way to keep their costs in perspective while you are chosing BM gifts 🙂
Post # 6
@Meant2Bee: I voted $650 or less because we are doing a destination bachelorette party. BUT I am sharing a total of $400 in airline vouchers and then we will split all the costs evenly (meaning I’m maying my own way — NOT having them cover it like I think some do!) The rest is kind of up to them. They are choosing their own dress and shoes and jewelry so it could be as cheap or as expensive as they want. The only other expense is the hotel for the night, I believe. I’m paying for their hair and makeup.
Post # 7
@Meant2Bee: I’m a younger bride (23) and my bridesmaids are all my age. I am keeping the dress under $200. They are all local, so there is no need to pay for travel or to go elsewhere. I will probably let them choose their own shoes because their dresses will be long and no one will see their feet anyway. Plus I wouldn’t want someone to dictate to me that I had to wear uncomfortable shoes that I didn’t choose for 8 hours. I don’t know what the plan will be for hair and make up at this time- I really need to see how my budget is going after I work some things out pertaining to the wedding in the near future. I certainly plan to get them nice gifts, though. But yeah, I only expect them to pay for their dress/alterations and perhaps their hair/make up if I can’t afford to swing it.
Post # 8
It varies as some are coming in from out of town (paying for flights) and others aren’t. I am paying for dress/ hair/ makeup.
Post # 9
A lot. Around $130 for a dress (they are NWT JCrew styles, so the price varied), one is buying new shoes, and all three live out of state (me, too) – chicavo, VA beach, and NYC, and the wedding is in our hometown of St. Louis. Two are flying in to stl for my shower in april, all are traveling to me (in the Philly area) for my bachelorette…
But I gave them all a big warning (we’re having a two year engagement), and am asking thme for no gifts. And I’m giving them pretty kickass gifts as a thank you, plus covering their hair/makeup and hotel for the wedding.
Post # 10
@Meant2Bee: I’m not counting travel and accomodations because they aren’t costs associated with being a BM – these girls would be coming to the wedding regardless of being BMs and I’m not asking them to do anything they wouldn’t already being doing in that regard.
They will probably spend about $300-350 on dress, shoes and hair. Hotel is $79 a night and the airfare varies as they’re coming from all over.
Post # 11
Hm, didn’t vote because I can’t say yet. At most, I figure $100 for dresses, my max budget. Shoes and jewelry I will ask for silvertone (as opposed to gold jewelry) and probably silver shoes, but not require anything specific. If I want them to get hair/nails/makeup done, I will pay. If I don’t ask them to but they want to, they’ll pay.
I do not expect a shower, and the bachlorette can be a coffee date or lunch or whatever.
Post # 12
Dress was $200 and shoes were their choice. Three are flying in, but we are covering a night at the hotel. The girls are staying at my house the night before the wedding. I don’t know how much they are spending on my shower, but less than $100 each i am sure. Bachelorette will just be a night out, so just their drinks…maybe $30?
i estimate about $400 before the flight for the girls traveling.
Post # 13
I chose a super reasonably priced BM dress, so that will only cost them $70. I’m asking them to wear nude colored heels which most already have and I bought their jewelry for the day. They will have the option of getting their hair and makeup professionally done with me (I know some will) but it’s entirely optional.
The expensive part is that 5 of my 7 bridesmaids live out of state, so they will have to travel in for the wedding. Additionally, since everyone is so spread out we decided to do a destination bachelorette weekend (since basically anywhere would have meant travel for at least 3/4 of the bridesmaids), so that will be pricey depending on what flights people can get. I am paying my own way for the bachelorette weekend.
I’m not sure what the total cost per bridesmaid will be but it will vary based on travel costs and choices the bridesmaids make.
Post # 14
I put $250 or less. Their dresses were a little over $200, I let them wear whatever shoes they already had, I paid for their hair/makeup, we didn’t stay at a hotel the night before, I bought the champagne/OJ for getting ready, my mom bought us lunch while getting ready, the bachelorette was a total of $13, they all chipped in for the bridal shower and I doubt that was more than $50 each (if that!).
I like to think I was a fair bride as far as what I asked of them financially.
Post # 15
I’m paying for as much as I can for them, so dress/hotel/hair/nails/makeup/jewelry/shoes/flights (for some as of the moment, probably all when it gets time to actually book them but it depends). It is a lot but I don’t want them to feel like my wedding is a burden.
Post # 16
It’s interesting to see.
I’d like to think that I’m being a good Bride?
Their dresses were $99 including alterations.
They can wear whatever shoe they want
I’m paying for their hair/make up
I think they are spending about $50 each on the bridal shower
They paid for my destination bachlorette in addition to attending, I’m guessing they spend about $300 each doing this
3 are traveling from out of state, their accomondations are payed for but they have to purchase a plane ticket on average $250