Post # 17
As little as possible! MY grandmother is generously paying for their dresses. They can wear whatever black shoes they want and I’m paying for their accessories and hair. Hopefully all they will have to pay for is gas and IF they want to rooms.
Post # 18
I picked “under $450” – which sounds really expensive, but when I think about it, that’s what it costs to be a bridesmaid in my area. Goodness knows I’ve shelled out more to be a bridesmaid myself (being Maid/Matron of Honor for my BFF cost about $1,500!). So I’m rolling with it but trying to keep it as low as possible.
Having been a bridesmaid so many times myself and having bought so many $300 dresses I will never wear again, I was really trying to NOT do that to my girls. But they’re having none of it. lol. I honestly think they’re feeling guilty. They keep saying “Don’t worry about the cost. You did it for us, so we’re doing it for you.” Bless them. My girls are the best!
Here’s our breakdown:
Dress ~$250 This is the biggest expense. I tried to get them to pick an under $100 dress from Sears/ModCloth/Anywhere but they want to get a “bridesmaid dress” from the bridal salon which will require alterations. Fine by me.
Shoes ~$50 They all also want to buy new red shoes.
Bridal Shower ~$30 I’m not planning this, but from my experience planning it for past brides, it’s about $30 from each Bridesmaid (I have 4) for $120. This will cover the invites, postage, some decor and door-prizes. Food will be church-lady-style sandwhiches/pot luck. Maybe a sheet cake from the grocery store. Nothing fancy.
Bachelorette ~$100 Again, this is a guestimate from past experience. Dinner out and some drinks. $75 to cover their own dinner and pitching in $25 each to cover mine.
I’m paying for their hair, makeup, flowers, and jewellery.
I don’t expect anyone in the bridal party to give us a wedding gift. The $450 they spend on being part of our day, plus all the time and support, IS their gift to us.
Post # 19
they paid ~$30 (the balance on the dress that I didn’t cover) and alterations.
whatever the shower cost, i know it was minimal. but didn’t ask.
probably $250 each for bachelorette party (with just bridal party) – it was an activity we would have done as a group anyway. this included, hotel stay, round trip bus ticket, lunch, dinner, breakfast, and activity. everyone knew we were going to do this whether it was for my bachelorette or not.
2nd (local) bachelette party – cost of dinner and drinks
they had the choice to wear their own shoes and jewelry, so if they bought new, i don’t count that as a cost.
i paid for hair and makeup.
Post # 20
You’re definitely an awesome bride!
My MOH’s dress was paid for my our Mom (since she’s in college. The dress was only $75), and my other Bridesmaid or Best Man was HUGELY pregnant and picked her own dress (I think she spent about $30?)
They wore their own shoes/jewelery and did their own hair/make-up!
Post # 21
Nothing. The. Stayed at my house, my mom paid for their plane ticket. Mom also bought their shoes and dresses. Anything else was covered by me.
Post # 22
They’re paying for flights & accomodations to Paris: $2000+ depending on where they stay and for how long, and of course food. Realistically I’d say $2500-3,000 once you factor in any touristy stuff they might want to do.
They’re paying for their dresses: $400 (I offered to pay, but they insisted since they paid for theirs at other destination weddings, AND they picked the budget not me)
I’m paying for their hair and makeup, and their shoes. I think their jewelry will be their bridesmaid gifts. I originally wanted to get them something from tiffanys, but our colours are blush and gold.. and gold jewelry at tiffanys costs thousands, haha.
I don’t want a bachelorette party so nothing for that.
Post # 23
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I paid for:
Bachelorette party hotel room
These were optional/their choice:
They paid for:
Shower food/drink (it was hosted at one girl’s parents’ place)
Shower gift (they all went in on one big gift, a 4-place setting of dishes)
Most of my drinks at the bachelorette party (and their own… I think they took turns buying rounds for everyone)
Their own travel – my wonderful Maid/Matron of Honor flew in from Arizona and stayed with her dad in town, one girl drove about 3.5 hours to get here, and the other 2 are local.
So, with the girl who bought plane tickets along with hair/makeup, versus the local girl who did her own H/MU but did not attend the bachelorette party, the prices were very varied!
Post # 24
My bridesmaids rented their dresses for $50 each, including alterations. Small town and all. They wore whatever shoes they wanted. If they bought expensive ones, it wasn’t because I asked them to. I know several wore what they already had, as I specified black or silver. You couldnt’ see the shoes anyway. They also did their own hair and makeup, none was done professionally except mine. I paid for their nails as party of the bridesmaid luncheon the day before. They didn’t give my showers, those were done by our churches and our families. I would guess they each spent $25 max on a wedding present, as they all bought from my registry; we don’t do cash gifts here. I didn’t have a bachelorette.
For accomodations, they are all either local or have family who is local, so they stayed with them.
Post # 25
I picked $250, but I really don’t know what the total will come in at.
Dresses- $150. I don’t know if they will need to be altered or not yet, as no one has tried them on.
Hair and makeup- I will pay for hair, and makeup will be DIY with help from a few of my friends who have worked selling makeup (one with Clinque, one with Avon, and possibly one with MAC depending on what her travel costs)
Travel- Driving, which depends on fule prices, and who rides with whom. Maybe $20 round trip if fule prices stay reltively the same
Hotel- I’m paying
Parties- I’m so out of the loop of these being planned, I don’t even know if they are or not. I have no idea what they are paying, but I really hope they keep it reasonable for themselves and it doesn’t end up costing them over $100 between a shower and bachelorett.
Post # 26
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
@Meant2Bee: Mine varried for each bridesmaid. The dresses I found were $18 each and that was the only thing I asked them to buy. I bought their accessories, and asked them to wear any nude colored shoes. My Maid/Matron of Honor flew to CA from MI, so I know her flight was a couple hundred dollars, but my sisters all just drove in with my parents, who paid for the gas. I took care of accomodations for all of them, but 2 of my sisters said they’d rather stay in a hotel than at my house, with me, so they paid for their own hotel. But the didn’t have to if they didn’t want to.
Post # 27
Well I can’t comment on that, but I can say I’ve paid usually 50.00 to 150.00 for every wedding i’ve been in, except one that was out of town so that cost around 500!
I’ve been a bridesmaid 4 times.
Post # 28
Their dresses ranged from $270-$309 (I gave them 4 options)
Hair and make up will be around $150
I don’t know what bachelorette will cost because they are surprising me
Shoes..I don’t know because I told them a color and am letting them wear whatever so their shoes can range from $50-$1000
Bridal Shower $0, my mom is paying for it.
Post # 29
My costs were minimal (dress under $100 and I provided shoes, accessories and jewelry as part of their gift bag.) but it still came to around $400 as they all had to travel and obtain accomodations in my beach city, in June for at least the weekend and expenses to get here as well.
Post # 30
Are you having any problems with “they can wear whatever shoes they want”? I’m doing the same thing, in part because one bridesmaid will be 7 months pregnant, one has a disability, and two have children under 2 that they will be chasing around, so I thought whatever shoes work for you was a good idea. Until one started threatening to wear hiking boots.
Post # 31
Hiking boots, LOL. I told them they need to be nude and either flats or heels. I told them if they already have nude shoes to just wear those so that’s what the most of them are doing.