(Closed) How much are your parents contributing?

posted 10 years ago in Money
Post # 152
876 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We are paying for our wedding ourselves out of choice.  They have offered to help, but we feel that our parents have contributed so much throughout our lives (paying for university, buying my first car when I was a student, contributing money for our first home, etc) that we would like to pay for this on our own.

Post # 153
947 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Nothing, but I totally understand they can’t contribute.  I alone make 3X as much as my parents combined, so I didn’t even discuss wedding finances with them. 

Post # 154
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Our wedding was $29000 and we split it three ways. We each paid just under $10k each, we were so thankful to have mom’s and dad’s from each side of the family help out 🙂

Post # 155
11 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

Mine are giving us 10k. We will probably go a bit a bit over that, so the rest will be coming from us. I am so grateful for every cent given to us from them!

Post # 156
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not exactly sure because my parents are playing to their strengths. My dad is paying for our limo and pianist because he is friends with people who do both. My mom was orginially going to pay for my dress but when I got it for 20% of what she was planning to pay for it, she decided she’d pitch in more so she’s paying for the minister and the small details like candles, flower petals, garter, etc.

Post # 157
1058 posts
Bumble bee

My dad contributed $5,000 and my mom contributed $5,000 my fiancée’s family contributing $5,000 our wedding totals about $30,000 so we are paying $15,000 ourselves. Weddings are too expensive!

Post # 158
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We never figured out how much we spent total. I didn’t want to know. We splurged on a few things – rings and the honeymoon especially, but saved money on a lot of other things. My parents paid for the food and my dress, which was very generous. My husband’s dad called us the week of the wedding and offered to pay for the rehearsal which was a nice surprise. Other than that, we paid for it ourselves. 


Post # 159
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MadameLady: My parents will be helping with the dress and decor for the venue. Also, for those who say that parents shouldnt pay.. youre right, however in many cultures, such as my mediterranean culture, the groom and his parents are supposed to pay for everything! Now that old school, but thats how it was.

Post # 160
1267 posts
Bumble bee

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Yeah, it’s funny because the whole ‘who pays for what’ tradition doesn’t really stand in the US as the majority anymore, which is good in my opinion.  It was built upon a pretty gross concept of ownership and women being useless in participating in their lives.

But my friend is getting married to a girl from another country and told me that they were talking about the wedding and he was giving her the ‘yeah, ok, whatever you want’ line until he found out that she and her family expected his parents to pay for the whole thing, lol!  Talk about a guy getting super involved in the planning all of a sudden! Lol

Post # 161
486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My mom gave $1200 because that’s all she can afford to give with having to buy flight tickets and dresses for all my sisters.

And my dad can afford to give at least 3k and is giving me $0 because he wants me to kiss is a** for it and that’s not my style so we are well, mostly my Fiance is paying for the wedding $15k.

Sucks but O’well. Fiance parents are deceased.

Post # 162
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

We were so lucky. My parents paid for absolutely everything, other than the rings. They are pretty well off, so it didn’t have any effect on their savings or anything. If it had been a hardship for them, I would have had no problem just getting married in a courthouse. I wouldn’t have spent my own money, though, because it WOULD have been a hardship for us and I don’t think it’s worth it.

Post # 163
3620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My parents are giving us $5,000.00 soooo generous. I actually was shocked when my mom told me. 

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