(Closed) How much cash did you gift at the last wedding you attended?

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: How much money did you gift at the last wedding you attended? (per person)
    Below $50/per person : (23 votes)
    17 %
    $50-$100/per person : (73 votes)
    54 %
    $101-200/per person : (26 votes)
    19 %
    $201-300/per person : (7 votes)
    5 %
    $301-400/per person : (0 votes)
    $401-500/per person : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Over $500/per person : (0 votes)
    Gave nothing (explain please) : (4 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 31
    2053 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Washington, $50/person and this is my first time giving cash – because I keep reading on here how everyone expects cash… But when I was discussing wedding gifts with two good friends who also attended (w/partners) they had each purchased gifts off the registry valued at around $100.  I think gifting cash is picking up somewhat around here but most people gift off the registry.

    Post # 32
    464 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I usually give $100 for any wedding but after being a bride and knowing how I cherish the actual gifts people gave – I will no longer give cash. Even my registry gifts that I knew were coming… When I use our new pots and pans I think of a couple they gave us that. I appreciated all the cash we received that we used on our honeymoon but I don’t look back at pictures and think of the people who gave money ya know? 

    Post # 33
    1450 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

    I would like to get something off my chest.

    The last wedding I went to was a year ago. I went as my best friend’s plus one. It was her brother’s wedding. She told me I didn’t need to bring a gift as I am not close to her brother and am supes poor. I brought a $10 gift card.

    Now I am planning my own wedding, and I COULD NOT BE MORE SORRY about that. What a stingy jerk I was. Those lovely people paid $80 a plate to feed me and there I was with a crappy Target gift card. I completely understand that a wedding is a celebration of those you love and couples shouldn’t “expect” tons of money or anything, but next time I go to a wedding I will be sure to gift at least $100 for me and my plus one, total.

    Post # 34
    1724 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We live in OK.  We gave $150 from the two of us.  I’d also given a very generous shower gift (a bigger ticket registry item) and co-hosted the shower.  It was the wedding of my youngest cousin, who is very young and they have nothing, so I gave a little more than I might have given someone else.  

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 2 months ago by  lindsayE.
    Post # 35
    399 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m in Virginia and we gave 50 pp (this was 4 yrs ago after just graduating college). Cash gifts are not very common down here, and many marry young so gifts are usually small or off the registry.

    I give cash because my family is from NY/Italian. If invited to a wedding now, Id give 100 pp for a friend and 200 pp for a close family member. 

    Post # 36
    9595 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Last wedding I went to I gifted a registry item: a slow cooker and 4 bowls. I shipped it to them in the weeks before the wedding. Paid about 250$ I think. Im midwesty, we do gifts.

    Post # 37
    366 posts
    Helper bee

    Last wedding I went to, I gave two gifts from the registry, and had a coupon, so the total came to about 60$. This was from me and my fiance. I’m feeling very cheap, after reading all these responses lol. However I usually base my gifts off of how close I am to the couple and how much i can afford at the time.  This friend was an acquaintance, my best friend is getting married next July and I’m making her a quilt that will probably cost about 250 to 300 by the time I’m done. It helps that I can spread the payments on that out a bit too though.

    oops. forgot to put that I live in Washington state




    • This reply was modified 4 years, 2 months ago by  xxmegbugxx.
    Post # 38
    812 posts
    Busy bee

    The last wedding I went to was my sister’s. We are not close, I honestly don’t even know why I was invited. I know that the plates alone were $65 a person. I gave her $70 in cash in addition to a giant gift basket full of kitchen stuff. I probably only spent $60 on the gift basket. It’s expected in our family to be VERY generous and I was told to give her $150. I told my mom I was giving her $70 in cash, and then the gift basket. I didn’t tell her what I spent on the gift basket. She looked it over and agreed it was “enough”. For a close friend I’d give $50-100 per person.

    Post # 39
    2922 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    New England, $50 per person attending the wedding. It was people we are only somewhat acquainted with (this was our first time meeting the bride, but the groom had done us a favor in the past and is a really nice guy, but we are not close at all.) We never received any acknowledgment of the gift (which annoys me and makes me feel less bad that we did not gift them more $$ LOL.)

    Post # 40
    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I gave $100 for my cousin’s wedding back in December. I gave $200 for my SO’s sister’s wedding. I’m from Los Angeles (:

    Post # 41
    228 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    For me, it amount depends on the type of wedding (i.e. roughly how much are they shelling out perperson, then add a little extra. I know this might not fly with everyone, but that is how I do it. Extravagant ballroom weddings are going to get a more pricey gift – casual at home weddings probably not as much. . . that being said, Fiance are by no means stingy – the last weddign we went to was a casual backyard wedding and we gave the couple $200 for their honeymoon; for a recent big ballroom wedding we gave the couple a few gifts off of their registry that probably totaled roughly $400.

    I am in Sacramento, CA (northern CA).

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 2 months ago by  moonchild.
    Post # 42
    6626 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    marriedtopizza:  I think it’s a crying shame that you feel that way.  It serves to meet the point that paying to cover a plate, one-upping whatever they gave at one’s own wedding, etc only leads to bad feelings in the long run.  You shouldn’t feel guilty about gifting someone you barely know what you were capable of at the time.  You weren’t stingy, you were money-conscious during bad times.  I was bowled over by the generosity when given $100 bucks for our wedding and so many people are gifting even more than that.  Some are gifting more than my rent used to be!  No wonder you felt bad, but don’t any longer!

    Post # 43
    1344 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I’m in Vancouver, Canada and the last wedding I went to, my friends were of Asian descent. They typically receive red envelopes, so they asked for cash. They are pretty close friends, so my Fiance and I gave them $200. I didn’t want to give cash, but we did.

    Post # 44
    2691 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    This was a couple of years ago … me and my SO gave 200.00 all together which I thought at the time was kind of cheap. After the reception I wished we had given 50.00. It was the worst wedding I’ve ever attended!

    Post # 45
    5188 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I’m in NJ. Registry gifts are given at the shower and $200 cash at the wedding.

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