(Closed) How much cash did you gift at the last wedding you attended?

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: How much money did you gift at the last wedding you attended? (per person)
    Below $50/per person : (23 votes)
    17 %
    $50-$100/per person : (73 votes)
    54 %
    $101-200/per person : (26 votes)
    19 %
    $201-300/per person : (7 votes)
    5 %
    $301-400/per person : (0 votes)
    $401-500/per person : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Over $500/per person : (0 votes)
    Gave nothing (explain please) : (4 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 46
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Last wedding I attended solo and gave $50. I’d love to have given more but I’m 4 weeks out from my own wedding and it just wasn’t feasable. Usually we give $200 as a couple. Central Canada

    Post # 47
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    515 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    The last wedding we gave $300 between Darling Husband and I. We’re in Australia.

    Post # 48
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    3867 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I usually give what I can. If it’s a close friend or family member, I will try to swing $150-$200, but the median of what I can give is $100. For my best friend’s wedding I gifted $150. Around where I am from, “cover your plate” is really unheard of (at least in my social circle) and is not something most people think of when gifting. 

    Post # 49
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

    skunktastic:  Haha thanks, that is nice of you to say. 

    Post # 50
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    193 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    $100 each so $200 as a couple. In New Zealand. And I think it was a lot considering we hadn’t seen them in years.

    Post # 51
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    200 posts
    Helper bee

    How do people gift what their plate was worth? Do people really ask the bride/family before hand? It seems so silly to me to spend a certain amount on a gift because that’s what the bride chose for her per-plate budget. What if she spent $5 per plate? Do you only get her a $5 gift? What if she spent $500 Pp? Do you always spend $500 on a gift even if you don’t know her well? If you can’t afford a gift that’s over a certain amount, do you stay home?

      I think as a bride you should budget for what you can afford, not for what you expect to gain back in gifts. I think it would be wise to expect nothing in gifts. Gifts are gifts. Something to show the bride and groom you put a bit of thought into wishing them well.. 

    Post # 52
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    347 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    $500!? That’s madness! I thought $100 would be the average but that much?? I would never expect anyone to give me that amount when attending my wedding. Perhaps it’s different in Australia?

    Post # 53
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    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee

    The last one was $200.00 (so $100.00 each for Fiance and I). It depends on the relationship though. For my cousin’s wedding in January we will be giving $500.00.

    Post # 54
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015 - City Hall!

    buzzinbee:  they absolutely did. they also told people to only wear black or white. sigh. i completely forgot to include the gift receipt too! whoops!

    Post # 55
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

     I didn’t give any cash in my card at the last wedding but I was a bridesmaid and I did make up for the entire bridal party as my gift.  Plus I drove them an hour and a half away to get all of our hair done and then back and didn’t get gas money from anybody so that got taken into consideration.  I was originally going to do my own hair but then they had someone to drive them so I just had my hair done by the (crappy) stylist as well.  Which PS all of the bobby pins fell out before I finished doing the make up so I Paid $70 to do my own hair. 

     The wedding before that so I think we gave about $80 each from my Fiance and I.  And the wedding before that was his sister so I think we gave $125 each.

     I will say this sounds kind of awful but I will give more cash at an open bar wedding. If it’s a cash bar I deduct a bit because I’m paying out of pocket for my drinks. The one where I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man was cash bar so that figured in too. 

    Post # 56
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    We are from Long Island and our standard gift is $300 from the both of us, so $150 each. However, the last 2 weddings we attended we gave $400. We’ve never given registry gifts or anything but cash at any wedding, that’s just not done here. Bridal showers are for registry gifts, weddings are cash. We had 150 people at our wedding and the average gift given was $300 per couple.

    Post # 57
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    3725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Berri:  Live in RI and wedding was in NoVA. We gave $250.

    Post # 58
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    HoorayLouLou:  I thought I was the only one who did this! I’ll write a check 99% of the time, but if you tell me to write you a check and don’t give any option then I will get you a gift. I think it is so rude to outright ask for cash. 

    Post # 59
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    wow I live in the midwest (although I live in a city, most people I know enough to go to weddings are from small town farm country) and I swear the average gift is probably $15-$50 a person (cash or gift).  for real, I bet the “per plate” actual cost of most weddings people do is usually about $15 or less a person so it’s probably right on lol   Most of those people just don’t make much money.  Half the people never even gave us a gift, so it made me think twice about how much I spend on others.  That’s not how it works I know, but after spending over $150 or whatever on a not so friends you see every once and awhile I don’t want to be the outlier when that’s just not what anyone else does (obviously would make exceptions for siblings and very close friends).  I think I got like somewhere around $1000 total in gifts at my wedding of 100 people, which is fine I didn’t have it for the gifts but just thought I’d add in some to show it’s not $150pp everywhere!   Def. got some $10 gift cards.  I can’t remember the last wedding I went to (I think it was a year ago- some friend we see a couple times a year) but I probably spent $60- which would probably be considered on the pretty nice side in that area of the country.

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