How much cash were you given by wedding guests?

posted 2 years ago in Money
  • poll: How much money, in total, did you receive from your wedding?

    Less than $5,000








    $50,000 or more

  • Post # 2
    129 posts
    Blushing bee

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    cq123 :  

    Hiya, so I’m in Ireland so not sure how helpful my figures will be. We were astounded by peoples generosity. 


    Total guests: 90 (not including ourselves)

    Received circa €9k from guests

    Average from guests was about €150-€200 per couple

    SO’s parents €1k

    My parents €5k

    So received total €15k


    We got only a handful of physical gifts, as money is usually given as a wedding gift where we live.

    Post # 3
    432 posts
    Helper bee

    No idea. Almost all of our guests gave us cash gifts, but I didnt really keep track. I was more interested in the lovely cards the money came in. 

    Post # 4
    1917 posts
    Buzzing bee

    We received about $35-40K from 170 guests. This doesn’t include what our parents gifted us. 

    Post # 5
    60 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    We had 122 people and received about $23K in cash from guests and $40K as a gift from my parents since we wanted to pay for our own wedding. We used that money for home renovations since we bought a fixer upper! Also, about 90 was family and they tend to give more

    Post # 6
    2853 posts
    Sugar bee

    $70K from 300 guests..

    Post # 7
    85 posts
    Worker bee

    Not counting parents, under $1,000. 110 guests

    Post # 8
    9227 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    $10k from 125ish guests. Doesn’t include gifts from parents.

    Post # 10
    2125 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I don’t remember our exact number but I know it was well over $25k from 180 guests (probably over 30k for sure now that I think about it). Mostly family and friends of my parents who tend to give a lot more than our friends lol. 

    For reference we usually give at least $150pp whenever we go to a wedding so somewhere along those lines. A lot of relatives gave us way more than that though. We were also the only ones in the family getting married back in 2017 so I believe that made a difference than if someone else was getting married that year. 

    Post # 11
    2067 posts
    Buzzing bee

    160 people, around $2,000.  Most couples gave physical gifts valuing around $50-$100. 

    Post # 12
    915 posts
    Busy bee

    Around $5000 from 60 or 70 guests. Lots of folks traveled for our wedding, and we asked people to make charitable donations in our name when they asked. 


    Post # 13
    715 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    Some of these amounts shock me. I live in a pretty modest part of the US though, not poor, but not rich, definitely middle-class and we didn’t even pay what some people got as gifts for our entire wedding. 

    Wedding only – About 260ish guests, about $3k in cash/checks. We got a good amount of physical gifts though at our wedding that probably added about $1k in monetary value though. 

    I got probably about $2k combined in cash/checks and gifts at my shower and another $2k from a joint shower. So, if you count showers + wedding I guess it was about $8k total? 

    Post # 14
    45 posts
    • Wedding: December 2019

    It’s doubtful I’ll even get $100. That’s not a thing here. You get one gift, and that’s usually at the shower and something from your registry.

    Post # 15
    501 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    Where I live it’s proper etiquette to give the bride and groom the amount you think would “cover your plate” as a wedding gift. Typical weddings cost $100-$150 a person (that number includes everything – food, dessert, tables, chairs, utensils etc). So guests give $100-$150 per person attending. Very close family will give more, like grandparents tend to give $500+. My husband and I had 100 guests and got $12,500.

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