Post # 46
I imagine, like others have said, that most people asking just want to know out of curiosity/because they’re in the market. Or if the ring is like four carats or otherwise attention getting, maybe just sheer curiosity.
As far as judgmental people, there’s no sense in trying to gauge what answer they want to hear, because it depends on the person. (And because anyone who asks a question like that is too rude to try to please.) I would never ask someone what their ring cost, but I often wonder what they cost because I can’t wrap my head around the idea of spending several thousand dollars on a piece of jewelry—it blows my mind. Then again, I’ve learned that lots of people see an expensive ring as an investment in an important symbol of eternal love, and they probably wouldn’t understand why someone might prefer a $60 moonstone ring.
Post # 47
- Wedding: December 2017 - Courthouse
I will never understand how people think questions like this are okay. My mom wouldn’t even let me point when I was little! She said it was rude haha.
Post # 48
“The soul of three pure virgins”
Then look around shiftily and walk away.
Post # 49
I’m a librarian – I always take a chance to educate people – so usually go into ‘did you know the cost of a diamond is based on 4 things – clarity, cut, colour, and carat. For example, a 1 ct diamond can range in price from $3000 – $14,000. My diamond is just over a carat.’
Post # 50
“Our firstborn! – admire it – Totally worth it, right?”
Post # 51
MrsSparkleBee13 : idk, if the child is an adult and bought it on their own, I wouldn’t tell the parent. I can see a lot of parents then inserting their unneeded opinions about rings and finances and that ruining the engagement.
stephlynn : a ring cost in a religious marriage contract? Can you explain more? I’m not sure I’ve heard of this.
Post # 52
I take this question on a case by case basis. If it’s just someone asking in order to pry, then I say I don’t know. However if I’m actually having a conversation with someone about how much weddings cost etc, then I’m very open about the cost of my ring. This is largely due to the fact that we really had no idea what things cost when we started looking and it took us a lot of research to find our (amazing!!!) jeweller who gave us better quality, workman ship and stones for less than local jewellery stones.
Post # 53
I think they just want to know. It could be out of idle curiosity, or a guy might want to know because he’s thinking of buying a ring for his girlfriend and wants to know what he should be looking to spend, or the person asking might want to know how they measure up against the person who bought the ring or is wearing the ring.
No one has ever asked me how much it cost to my face, probably because anyone who cares enough to ask knows that they would get shut down pretty quickly. My Darling Husband is more approachable than me and people have asked him, and he usually just says it wasn’t cheap and changes the subject.
Post # 54
Some of my friends asked but that was because they were about to get engaged and didn’t know how much to spend. They wanted to know how much others spend. They were very cautious about it and I didn’t come off that rude to me. I guess it really depends on the situation and how they ask.
Post # 55
MrsAL2012 : We are Muslim. During our religious ceremony, the wife can set conditions on the marriage. (One wife (if in a country that allows more than one), where they must live, finances, education, etc.) On the same contract, the religious leader, both parties, and witness sign. That contract also includes the dowry that is given from the husband to the wife that remains the wife’s property, even in case of divorce. In Islam, a marriage is not allowed unless the man has given the woman a dowry. Sometimes the dowries are defered to be paid later or given in case of divorce (like a one-time alimony).
Since I work and my future husband is still a student, I decided that my e-ring and wedding band is more than enough for my dowry. Therefore, we have to list the actual amount that the rings cost on the contract.
Post # 56
I think most people are just curious.. especially if it’s a large stone or interesting setting or appears to be vintage. I usually just laugh and say “it’s pretty, right?” and change the subject.
Post # 57
I’ve been asked once and replied “It cost what I’m worth” and that immediately ended the topic! Xx
Post # 58
I’m assuming there are a number of reasons for asking – some just to be nosy, or to see what the girl is ‘worth’ to her Fiance, or they want to brag that their ring cost more.
Others might ask because they want to buy something similar and are interested in what it was worth. I usually ask because I’m so caught up in buying a ring right now- I’m interested to see if you got a good deal – and if you did, I want the name of the store! 😁
So don’t be too hard on someone looking at prices – especially here. All the fellow bees are likely just admiring how beautiful your ring is, and are looking at getting something similar (if they’re doing it to be bitchy, then they have to control it!)
Post # 59
stephlynn : ohh, I see. That is super neat to learn about! I didn’t know any of that. I went to our local mosque a few weeks ago to learn about Ramadan, and it was fascinating. I really liked it.
Post # 60
MrsAL2012 : It’s wonderful to hear that people are interested in learning about Islam, especially in today’s current political climate! I hope more people feel the same spirit to learn about the beliefs and cultures of others, as they may be surprised. I’m super liberal and a feminist and found my peace in Islam about three years ago when I converted.