(Closed) How much did you buy your wedding dress?

posted 6 years ago in African-American
Post # 3
1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

your dress is beautiful! i really hate that question! i either say “i dont know, my grandma gave it to me as a gift (which is true) or i say “it was a good deal” and leave it at that…. if you refuse to answer, eventually the rude people will get the hint!

Post # 4
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Very beautiful dress! Agree that people are totally rude to ask. I would go with bostongirl27’s responses.

Post # 7
650 posts
Busy bee

your dress is beautiful and yes I would say I did pay for it , my fam member did and to those of your friends who are close and know that you probably would have paid for it yourself just say a price that was right for me 

Post # 8
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I haven’t gotten my dress yet but when I do, my response:  “Daddy bought it”  Everyone knows I am a daddy’s girl so they will stop there.

Post # 9
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would probably just tell them. I agree that it’s probably rude to ask… but it really just doesn’t bother me!

Post # 10
3 posts
  • Wedding: March 2013

How rude, better not ask me!

Post # 11
966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@beeandrashid: Westmister, Maryland!!! Hoffman’s ice cream? 😀 Best chocolate malts in existence, omg. Unless you’re in Montreal and have no idea what I’m saying… in which case, nevermind. haha

I don’t really mind monetary questions. Everyone deals with money. I mean, most people talk about sex, and that’s somehow not terribly offensive anymore, but money still is. I’m not really sure why monetary questions are so amazingly universally offensive. I mean it’s private, but not nearly as private as sexual things… but that’s just my opinion. I mean, not that they need to know the cost, but I wouldn’t really care. But I’m one of the few, and I recognize that it’s considered rude, and I wouldn’t do it unless I had a reason (lilke if I was interested in purchasing it for myself at some point), and I did it with permission (“Do you mind if I ask you kind of a personal question about your dress?”) .

But if someone asked me, I’d probably appreciate their honesty and candor. I mean, if they want to know, they’ll just talk about it behind your back anyway like it’s some hush-hush cover-up thing, and that bothers me much more. I hate wondering/thinking people may be discussing/judging me behind my back. At least if they’re open enough to ask me directly, I can tell them directly and judge their reaction, and/or offer that “It was a lot more than we really wanted to spend on a dress, but it’s a really special time so I felt it was now or never.”  

She really should at least have asked if she could ask a personal dress-related question, just out of cultural respect.

However, rudegirl’s responses are great if you don’t want to answer. My worry is they’d just discuss it behind my back and could assume it’s very expensive/cheap and then make more false judgements. Ugh. I’d rather just it be out, honest, and over. 

I find it MUCH more offensive when people ask “Are you trying yet?” and “So when’s the baby coming?” If I ever get that, I may respond “I don’t know; how often do YOU have sex?” -_- 


Post # 12
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I dont take office to it. They may like the dess or assumne they will like it because they like your style and want to know if that type of dress is within the price range thay may have; or it could by plain noseyness. Just say why are you donating?

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