Post # 1
Is it me or I find that people are going just a little too far as to ask me how much I paid for my wedding gown? Isn’t it totally innapropriate? I mean your not paying for it, you didn’t even see it! And whatever the reasons for them to think that they can ask, I mean come on!!! Is it me? I feel super offended when friends and family member ask me…. My own dad didn’t ask me how much I paid for my dress!!!
Please tell me what i should say as I bought my dress this last saturday!!!
Post # 3
your dress is beautiful! i really hate that question! i either say “i dont know, my grandma gave it to me as a gift (which is true) or i say “it was a good deal” and leave it at that…. if you refuse to answer, eventually the rude people will get the hint!
Post # 4
Very beautiful dress! Agree that people are totally rude to ask. I would go with bostongirl27’s responses.
Post # 5
@bostongirl27: You are an angel!!! Well in my culture, the Matron of Honor pays for the dress, (she is also my Godmother) the only thing is that she wasn’t there when I bought it as she went on vacation the exact same day I bought the dress! So I can definately say the Matron of Honor bought it for me, but I know how much it was as I paid for it lol ( I don’t lie!!!) BUT I like saying I got a good deal for it…. Thanks Boston girl!
Post # 6
@mimi123: Sure will Mimi!!!
Post # 7
your dress is beautiful and yes I would say I did pay for it , my fam member did and to those of your friends who are close and know that you probably would have paid for it yourself just say a price that was right for me
Post # 8
I haven’t gotten my dress yet but when I do, my response: “Daddy bought it” Everyone knows I am a daddy’s girl so they will stop there.
Post # 9
I would probably just tell them. I agree that it’s probably rude to ask… but it really just doesn’t bother me!
Post # 10
How rude, better not ask me!
Post # 11
@beeandrashid: Westmister, Maryland!!! Hoffman’s ice cream? 😀 Best chocolate malts in existence, omg. Unless you’re in Montreal and have no idea what I’m saying… in which case, nevermind. haha
I don’t really mind monetary questions. Everyone deals with money. I mean, most people talk about sex, and that’s somehow not terribly offensive anymore, but money still is. I’m not really sure why monetary questions are so amazingly universally offensive. I mean it’s private, but not nearly as private as sexual things… but that’s just my opinion. I mean, not that they need to know the cost, but I wouldn’t really care. But I’m one of the few, and I recognize that it’s considered rude, and I wouldn’t do it unless I had a reason (lilke if I was interested in purchasing it for myself at some point), and I did it with permission (“Do you mind if I ask you kind of a personal question about your dress?”) .
But if someone asked me, I’d probably appreciate their honesty and candor. I mean, if they want to know, they’ll just talk about it behind your back anyway like it’s some hush-hush cover-up thing, and that bothers me much more. I hate wondering/thinking people may be discussing/judging me behind my back. At least if they’re open enough to ask me directly, I can tell them directly and judge their reaction, and/or offer that “It was a lot more than we really wanted to spend on a dress, but it’s a really special time so I felt it was now or never.”
She really should at least have asked if she could ask a personal dress-related question, just out of cultural respect.
However, rudegirl’s responses are great if you don’t want to answer. My worry is they’d just discuss it behind my back and could assume it’s very expensive/cheap and then make more false judgements. Ugh. I’d rather just it be out, honest, and over.
I find it MUCH more offensive when people ask “Are you trying yet?” and “So when’s the baby coming?” If I ever get that, I may respond “I don’t know; how often do YOU have sex?” -_-
Post # 12
I dont take office to it. They may like the dess or assumne they will like it because they like your style and want to know if that type of dress is within the price range thay may have; or it could by plain noseyness. Just say why are you donating?