(Closed) how much did you drink alcohol during your pregnancy?

posted 8 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: how much did you drink while pregnant (or what would your limits be)?
    Absolutely none : (168 votes)
    58 %
    A few sips throughout the whole pregnancy : (55 votes)
    19 %
    a few glasses (one glass at a time max) throughout the whole pregnancy : (45 votes)
    15 %
    one glass a week (on average) : (12 votes)
    4 %
    a few occasions where i had 2 or more glasses at a time : (5 votes)
    2 %
    Daily or almost daily : (7 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 152
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @DeadlyNightshade:  Um…thank you for insulting my reading comprehension and openmindedness, I guess…?

    You can’t just say judgmental things, and then say “I mean no harm, I’m really openminded, I preach tolerance!”…that doesn’t make things better. 

    Anyway, I hope if you ever chose to have children you don’t receive the kind of judgment many women face on a daily basis, and I hope then you understand how much it sucks to be judged by other women when you’re doing the best you can.

    Post # 153
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    1115 posts
    Bumble bee

    @les105:  Which is why I never judged. I’m sorry but there is nothing you can say that will change the fact that my personal choices and viewpoints do not automatically negate yours. 

    You obviously really wish to take personal something that originally had nothing to do with anyone but me, and that is your choice. I will respect that. Best of luck to you. 

    Post # 154
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @DeadlyNightshade:  I really don’t know how to make it any clearer how what you said might come across as offensive, when even some childless women on the thread can see it, but so be it. 

    Post # 155
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    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @les105:  Why is it so bad when another woman thinks that drinking alcohol equals putting her own needs over the child? That is a particularly valid way to feel. You just translate it into “omg she’s judging me and saying I don’t care about my baby as much as she cares about hers!”

    I would personally feel selfish for drinking any amt of alcohol while pregnant cuz to me, I consider alcohol to be risky period. I have the will power to say no to a few sips even and I’m proud of it. My life, my views, my opinions. This can apply to caffeine, seafood, and everything else deemed “risky.” someone else could easily say, “to me, I’d NEVER sip caffeine cuz I dont want to risk it for my baby, just to satisfy my own craving/needs.” if I couldn’t do that myself/craved to drink a can a coke every week, am I going to jump all over her and call her judgmental? No!

    You seriously need to chill out and stop taking things personally. If you’re going to drink at all while pregnant, don’t be so insecure about it. 

    Post # 157
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    5920 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We are not expecting at the moment, but I don’t think I will consume any alcohol while pregnant.  I wouldn’t be opposed to a sip here and there, and it doesn’t come from any “higher than thou” morals.  I am not a big drinker now, so cutting out alcohol won’t be a biggie for me.  I have maybe 2 drinks a month, if that.

    Now caffeine on the other hand…but that’s for another thread, I am sure!

    Post # 158
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @dynamic_duo:  I definitely agree with your analysis of how I feel about drinking a glass of wine when pregnant. I was simply annoyed that a person wouldn’t even acknowledge how it could easily be interpreted personally. I think a large part of this is based on context. If someone asks you how you would feel about drinking during your own pregnancy, and you give that response, it will likely be interpreted as your opinion. If you come to a thread that asks “How much did you drink during your [own] pregnancy?”, and someone who’s never been pregnant comes and makes that comment with no background information, it’s hard not to read it as someone trying to stir people up or to be offensive. Frankly, I don’t really care what people think about me “drinking” during pregnancy, because I am extremely well informed (I’ve read dozens of American and French studies, and talked to my OB), and I have a very healthy 3 yo, but it’s kind of grating when someone comes and makes a seemingly ignorant, inappropriate comment, and then insists that they’re preaching tolerance and love while continuing to insult my intelligence. Maybe it’s just a result of me being a literature major, my basic educational training is to learn how to read bias between the lines, so to speak lol

    Post # 159
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    7899 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    @Linz1231:  Why no caffeine? Up to 200mg per day is safe.

    Post # 160
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    5920 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @mrsSonthebeach:  Oh no, I know that! I am going to struggle to keep my intake under that.  I drink way too much coffee.  🙁

    Post # 161
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    1733 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @les105:  If you and your doctor are confident about your choices why are you allowing someone on the internet forum bother you?

    Post # 162
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @Katnisseverdeen:  Honestly, don’t know!! I guess I just need to have the last word. Definitely a fault on my part (*blush*). I just don’t like to be insulted, it’s really hard not to stick up for yourself when that’s happening (and, like I said, being a literature major, I was trained to read the intrinsic bias of word selection, etc, so it’s hard not to feel insulted even if it’s not really evident to others). I love that comic, By The Way 🙂

    I should just let it go when someone on the internet says one thing and then claims another, I know! Now, acting on that is a bit harder lol

    Post # 163
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    1352 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    We’re not pregnant yet but I don’t think I would drink at all while pregnant. I’m quite the little drinker… Actually drinking wine at the moment… but I would just feel guilty bc I have no idea what effects it could have. We’re currently NTNT and I still find myself subconsciously not drinking during the TWW just as a “what if”. 

    Post # 164
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    275 posts
    Helper bee

    I always yell at my husband, “I can’t talk right now, SOMEONE Is wrong on the internet!” HAHA! I love that little cartoon.

     

    @les105:  Don’t worry, I fell the same way as you. I think tone is really important and since I can’t hear it over the internet I’m going to fill it in as I read. Some people are just real literal while others are very emotional (me). Either way, the tone didn’t read nice to me. Potatoes potatohs!

    Post # 165
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @tcanne:  I love that cartoon, too! So true! It’s hard not to want to have the last say on the internet even when it’s totally silly and you don’t even know the person (and they dont’ know you!!) Tongue Out

    Post # 166
    Member
    1115 posts
    Bumble bee

    @les105:  Honestly Hun, I feel really bad that you’re so stressed out about this. If it makes you feel any better, the only reason I responded to the post was because of the “what would your limits be” part of the poll. When I saw the title I only planned on reading, but after seeing that I figured I was allowed to participate. I wouldn’t have voiced my opinion if I knew that people were going to think that I was talking about them instead of myself. But, like a few PP said, feel confident in your decision! 🙂

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