Post # 77
I think like with anything, pregnancy is about calculated risks. Is a glass of wine any better or worse than taking an extremely hot shower or going for a 3 mile jog in 95 degree weather? There’s no way to know 100% as it varies so much from person to person. I believe if a person has any kind of history of substance abuse or binge drinking then they should do everything in their power to abstain from alcohol while pregnant. I also believe a doctor or midwife should ALWAYS be aware of the level of alcohol consumption in their patients whether it be a glass of wine once you hit full term, or multiple drinks a week.
Ultimately drinking while pregnant IS a risk. It doesn’t mean that you’re going to do permanent harm to your baby, but it’s a risk just like anything else pregnant women are advised against, and that should never be something that is treated lightly or done without consultation from a medical professional. Just my 2 cents.
Post # 78
For me, when I do have children, the pregnancy is automatically gonna be a high risk pregnancy casue I will be over 35 by the time I’m trying to have a baby. So why increase that risk? Over something that is completely optional and let’s face it, done purely for selfish reasons by the mother(you don’t NEED to drink). Even if my doctor tells me the occasional glass of wine is ok what happens if the baby is born with complications? Can you imagine the guilt you would feel? The going over and over in your head “did my drinking cause this?!”. Imo it is just NOT worth having that glass of wine. I don’t NEED that glass of wine. I can easily do without it. I realize there are many things while pregnant that could be risky. And I know that unless I liven in a bubble, I can’t 100% avoid them. But this is one thing I CAN avoid.
As a peds nurse I take care of numerous babies and children born addicted to various drugs and those with FAS. Seeing that and caring for that….I just can’t willingly do something that I know could possibly cause that outcome.
Post # 79
Just not worth it.
I just personally could not imagine putting my wants and needs over my unborn child’s.
Post # 80
“I just personally could not imagine putting my wants and needs over my unborn child’s.”
We all do it to some extent.
For example, I typically eat a very healthy diet. But there have been times during pregnancy when I’ve eaten like crap for a few days because I haven’t felt like cooking so ate fast food 3-4 days in a row.
Yes, that’s considered a lesser offence by many (some may say 3-4 days of fast food is worse than 1/2 glass of wine), but the root cause is still the same: I put my wants (easy, lazy meal; which happened to be full of preservatives, dyes, and chemicals) over the needs of my unborn child (health, nutritious, real food).
I don’t think there’s a single pregnant woman on Earth who hasn’t put her wants ahead of the needs of her unborn baby in some way, shape, or form. It’s up to each individual woman to decide where she draws the line.
Post # 81
I dont agree with most of what you said, but I will agree that it’s up to each individual woman.
Post # 82
@abbyful: I don’t think there’s a single pregnant woman on Earth who hasn’t put her wants ahead of the needs of her unborn baby in some way, shape, or form. It’s up to each individual woman to decide where she draws the line.
Exactly what I was trying to say, but you said it much more eloquently 🙂
Post # 83
Once I found out I was pregnant, I haven’t touched any alcohol. It’s simply not worth the risk. There are too many conflicting studies out there to know anything for sure, so I’d rather abstain and be 100% safe from alcohol related problems than drink and not be safe.
Post # 85
@Mrs McCain 2012 I admit the only part i find disturbing are the 5 people who voted that they drink every day or almost every day. Other than that, I actually thought it would be more of a 50-50 split between the complete abstainers and the occasional glass-ers. Even the bunch that said they have a few sips, i would say they are closer to abstaining than actually drinking if they are literally having one sip.
Post # 86
@ PurpleUnicorn yeah the 5 that said they drink everyday is a little scary but at least they were honest…thats the first step. However, it does make me a little sad for the little one.
Post # 87
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@abbyful…I never during my pregnancy put my WANTS above my childs NEEDS! and to say that all mothers at some point do is ridiculous! there was plenty of times i wanted a drink, a puff on a cig, I wanted to go iceskating, or go on amusement park rides or wanted to eat tons of sugar packed stuff or sushi! but i didnt because i knew for the sake of my child the want wasnt worth the risk it could cost.
Post # 88
@penguinof3 – You’re saying you NEVER NOT EVEN ONCE skipped exercising, ate fast food, ate a sweet treat, had a caffinated beverage, took medicine (Tylenol, Tums, etc.), etc? I find that incredibly hard to beleive.
Post # 90
I actually know a mother who gave up all of that stuff and more, and exercised exactly as she was told to, so I think it’s unfair to say that every mother is exactly the same. We all have different standards, so if someone else decides to bend over backwards, even if it is impractical, I don’t think it’s fair for you to say you don’t believe they did.
Post # 91
Be realistic…. seriously.
awesome point ma’am!
at the end of the day you are the parent to you LO… you choose whats right for you and baby. I had a glass of red wine while i was KU with DS… and he came out amazing!
Don’t judge other for what they chose to do with THIER bodies!