Post # 1
Maybe not your final ‘this is all we can spend no matter what budget’ but you know the number you estimate when you first start looking into vendors?
We started researching just after we got engaged, comparing venues, caterers, photographers etc and we thought we would need about £15k ($20k) for the day that we wanted.
We thought we had considered everything in our calculations but now it has come to being ready to book it seems to have crept up to £20k without adding anything particularly lavish or anything extra and a small dress/flower budget that I’ll never stick to!
Did anyone’s final bill actually resemble their original guess?
How much did you go over?
Post # 2
Before we started researching we thought we could do it for 20K with our constraints of location. We estimate our total will probably be more like 40K.
We were just really far off in estimating venue costs.
Post # 3
curiouscat2017 : At least someone else is in the same boat! It just keeps spiraling!!
Post # 4
I’m with curiouscat. Original budget was $20k which we pretty quickly increased to $25k. Yeah…we totally blew that budget. In the end it totaled $38k. We did have a rather expensive venue, but aside from that I don’t feel we paid above average for our flowers, photographer, etc, but like you said, it just keeps spiraling. Every decoration, special touch, transportation need…it just adds up.
Post # 5
Our original budget was $32,000 hoping that would more than cover any extra we wanted to add but boy would I be happy if we only spent $32,000. With all being said and done we spent around $70,000! To be honest I wouldn’t really change anything because everything was perfect! (The $70,000 also includes our honeymoon at Disney World)
Post # 6
We were $1500 under budget. Our cake, dessert buffet, hair, make-up, photographer and selfie station were gifted to us. We did alot of DIY and managed to have a wedding that looked expensive for $9,500. One of the biggest things was sober second thought with regards to extras. Before we purchased anything we asked ourselves “do we really need this” and “if we get this will anyone notice”, most times the answer was no.
Post # 7
The original budget that I started with was $15K, which I thought would be a breeze to stick to. I was thinking $10K for the all inclusive venue and another $5K for everything else. Venue is going to end up being 12K-15K depending on our rsvp count.
I also think that I just had very unrealistic ideas about how much DJs and Photographers cost. I definitely am paying average for a DJ and way less than half the average cost for a photographer. I am guessing when all is said and done, we are looking between 20-25K. Given we live in a high cost of living area, that isn’t too bad for a wedding with 150-200 guests.
Post # 8
I was originally going to have a super intimate wedding for 5k max since that’s all I had, but my parents insisted on inviting everyone and their cousin. To cover all their guests my parents offered 20k toward the wedding. I’ve got contracts for all the vendors and I have a list of all the extra stuff I need to buy. I think it all adds up to about 19,500 right now. I’m hoping it goes down a bit when people RSVP no and food costs drop.
I might be an anomaly though because I couldn’t go over budget since it wasn’t my money to spend.
Post # 9
My parents paid for our wedding and my Mom and I did most of the planning. We had a very soft budget because we really had no idea what to expect, especially since we were getting married in a very affordable city. We ended up $5k over that soft budget – below budget on categories like dress and flowers, but then there were entire categories we hadn’t included in our original plans. Since we plucked our budget a bit out of thin air, it was well under what my parents could afford to spend. They ended up giving us the full amount they spent on the wedding again as a gift – my husband and I are very, very lucky!
Post # 10
zzar45 : Our budget was $32k and we didn’t go over too badly. We were at about $35k (not including honeymoon) when all the bills were paid.
Post # 11
We sat down and thought 15k. Then started getting quotes and then upped it 19k.
Our final bill came out to 31k. Ugh- so much money. We even got deals for the cake. Invitations I did myself with supplies already in house. Flowers I did myself with supplies already in house.
I think the extra expenses came from our impromptu wedding party lunch during photos. And our morning after brunch.
So much money
Post # 12
Budget was $40k for wedding & reception. I think we went about 10% over but I stopped counting the exact pennies when we crossed the $40k mark. We hired a day of coordinator about 2 months out which wasn’t in the original budget and I just forgot to budget for some smaller items like thank you cards and postage.
I had done a ton of research before we got engaged and so all the major vendors and expenses were pretty much in line with my estimates. No huge surprises.
Post # 13
Ugh, yeah. Originally I was hoping to do a 10k budget wedding when I was pulling out abstract numbers before having actually priced things – as in, that’s how much “sounded reasonable” to me to spend. Then once I started actually looking at how much things cost and making a spreadsheet that rose to more like 15k as our projected “realistic” budget. And now? My projected budget is at 20k. Not that it’ll matter once our finances are combined, but Fiance and I are splitting the cost, so it’s a little easier to swallow if I think of it as 10k each. We have the money in savings so it’s not like we’re going into debt for it but it still sounds crazy to me.
I used to think that the average wedding cost was insane and that I’d be such a frugal bride, and then I actually started pricing things out and realizing there’s a reason the average cost is average. Nothing has been extravagant so far — catering at roughly $45 a head, beer and wine/champagne bar, venue is owned by the parks dept and considered an affordable venue for the area, my dress/shoes/accessories are under 1k combined, flowers are being gifted, Save-The-Date Cards and invites from VistaPrint. Our guest list is small. But things still add up fast, and it’s easy to forget that a few hundred here and there for things like linen & china rentals really add up.
Post # 14
We wanted to do it for £10k and ended up spending about £13k. All the big things like venue, food, dress, photography etc were on budget. It was the small things like bridesmaids accessories, gifts, decor, paying for guest transport and upgrading the food packages that just pushed us over budget.
Post # 15
I must have been super anal right from the start and included every single thing I could think of in our original budget – my dress put us over by $500 because my dressmaker charged the wrong amount after she added lace to the bodice and only realised the week before our wedding. We stayed at $10.5k AUD