- Wedding: April 2016 - NYC
We’re registered on BB&B and Macy’s and both say that you should have 2x the number of gifts as guests. I would say in your case, definitely follow that rule, especially if you are having any showers.
For me, Fiance and I have both lived on our own before and we’ve been living together for 18 months already (we will have been living together for 2-1/2 years when we get married), so we’re doing a small registry and hoping people give us money instead which would be more useful in our situation. We want to be able to put a down payment on a house in the next 5-10 years (which in NYC is a massive financial investment!).
However, there are things we are asking for on our registry that we would like to replace. We want new flatware, for example, because ours is a mis-matched collection of about 4-5 different sets from college, our own apartments, other people, etc. We’re also asking for new Calaphon cookware and bakeware since what we currently have is both cheapy, old (and in bad shape) and mis-matched. There’s also some things that we just want, like a KitchenAid mixer – I’m a big baker, and it’s always been a dream to have a standing mixer! My grandma had planned to buy that for us, probably since I first mentioned it (it was the big item I kept referring to before we got engaged that I wanted on a registry), and she is getting it for us now so we can start using it.
Our big gift to ourselves after the wedding is a new bed (we currently have a full sized bed, and since Fiance is 6’4 it’s a bit tight), so we have queen sized sheets on the registry since we don’t have any. But we’re not putting the bed on the registry. We are planning to use some of the money we get from the wedding to buy the bed.
Our stratgy for our registry has been to put things that we wouldn’t otherwise buy ourselves. Such as a really nice high end knife set, high quality pots and pans (for example, the Calaphon set we have on our registry is a 12-piece set that at Macy’s is currently on sale for $350 and has a full lifetime warranty), egyptian cotton sheets, Lenox flatware, etc. We’re fairly frugal so most of our stuff is from like Target and IKEA. Which is fine, but the quality is reflective of the cost. So I’m very excited to get really good quality stuff that will last.
And don’t forget the cheaper random items too. For example, we put a meat thermometer on our registry, since it’s something we really need and constantly talk about but we haven’t bought one. I know many people like to buy several smaller items and put them together as a set/basket for wedding gifts, and especially for showers. So be sure to have plenty of items in the $10-30 range that can be put together in a theme.