(Closed) How much did you LOVE/HATE dress shopping???

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: How much did you love or hate shopping for your dream wedding gown?
    I absolutely LOVED it! wish i could do it all again!! : (25 votes)
    34 %
    I had fun! was great catching up with all the girls! : (8 votes)
    11 %
    it was okay, im glad its a task ticked off on my to do list! : (18 votes)
    25 %
    now that i look back, it wasn't so bad.. : (4 votes)
    5 %
    didnt really like it, i found it a bit stressful as im not good at making decisions : (9 votes)
    12 %
    i simply hated it! : (6 votes)
    8 %
    other : (3 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 2
    8483 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I loved it!! I seriously want to go again. Lmao.

    Post # 3
    1411 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I also went to 5 shops, and tried on about 20 dresses until I started to stress out about time. I decided to go with a custom dress, and my dressmaker can make a dress in less than 3 months. So are you absolutely sure you can’t go custom? It has a couple of drawbacks in terms of visualisation, but you seem to know pretty much you want, and personally, just the first,  muslin mock-up version of my dress fit me better and made me way happier than any real dress I tried on. I think you *could* be the same way. You can tell your dressmaker how much chest coverage you want, and he or she will take your measurements. If you change your mind, that’s easy to change in the first few fittings. 

    Also, I think you could find bling that feels vintage, particularly if it has gold and/or pearls in it. Whatever you decide, good luck!

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 6 months ago by  ladyamalthea.
    Post # 4
    363 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I didn’t like how I felt in most dresses and sometimes I felt too much pressure from the sales people to buy when I didn’t love a dress. I even went by myself a couple times because I didn’t want anyone I knew seeing me (I have body issues too) and to see how I would feel trying stuff on out of my comfort zone. I wish I had better experiences and I wish more people were able to go with me, but it just didn’t work out that way. I was glad it was over, but I wish I could do it again so more family could be there.

    Best advice I can give from experience AND from being a bridal consultant in the past – don’t compromise on the style you want, but be flexible if a stylist shows you something a little different; you may love it. And bring people whose opinion actually matters to you…if they hate it but you would buy it anyway, leave them at home and show them pics later. A lot of places DO have bigger sizes, but you’d probably fit into sizes smaller than you and you’ll just have to be clipped. And finally, dresses are built very solidly – I have a big bust too, but don’t worry, once they are fitted to you, you will be snug and secure! Ultimately, you have final say and you need to pick something that you love and makes you happy.

    Post # 5
    2587 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

    kayjay612:  I really enjoyed it, it was a lot of fun trying on dresses for the fun of it. I never really went with too many people at a time, so opinions weren’t really conflicting, and it was fun seeing all the different styles. I was quite lucky too in that I was able to find salons that mostly stocked samples in my size, so it was a bit of a ego-boost too!

    Post # 6
    182 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I liked it! It wasn’t this ~amazing~ experience that some girls have where everyone “ooh’s and ahh’s” over them, but I enjoyed spending the day with my mom and sister, trying on lots of pretty dresses. I happened to find my dress my first day looking, so I do wish that maybe I had a few more days of trying on dresses, but I think my sister/mom would have grown very tired of it and I can’t imagine me liking anything better than my dress.

    Post # 7
    1283 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA

    i had an incredible experience! Tried on 11 dresses, found THE ONE on the first night at the first shop. And all of my girls & close female family members were all there to help me make the most important fashion decision of my life!!! That being said- by the end of the night, i was tired of trying on heavy ass dresses hahah I’m really glad I found it in 1 night!

    Post # 8
    211 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I am in the same boat as you, so don’t feel so bad! I thought I would love dress shopping and after going to 6 bridal shops and trying on 30+ gowns I just decided to give up and take a break. Every dress shop I would go to I would start out feeling so good and confident that I would find “the one” and then when I didn’t it just…its just such a depressing feeling. I am in the process now of ordering a dress off Etsy that is pretty close to what I think I will love, but if that dress doesn’t work out it will be back to the bridal shops for me 🙁 Good luck to you!

    Post # 9
    1938 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    When I first went dress shopping I brought ALL my girls (including my mom). It was intense and there were so many conflicting opinions. I literally HATED it.

    When I went later on with JUST my mom it was so much better. It was drama free and we totally had the “This is the one” moment together.

    Post # 10
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Jacksonville Inn

    I dreaded dress shopping, I was engaged for 8 months before I went! Now that it’s over, it wasn’t so bad. I had a frustrating experiance at David’s bridal as a plus sized bride. They had 6 dresses out of hundreds that I could try on, so I found that very frustrating. The next bridal store we went to was great, I found my dress! I brought 1 friend along to all my shopping which was perfect. I trusted her opinion and she kept my spirits up. Turns out the dress I ordered was discontinued, I found out 5 weeks later when they sent a dress 6 sizes too small. I ended up getting a refund from that store and moving on to a third store. The 4th dress I tried on in that store turned out to be my dream dress! That dress has made all my shopping frustrations go away, because I am so in love with my dress!

    Post # 11
    1619 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

    I can relate to the frustrations of dress shopping. I dreaded it before hand being a US size 12/14. My first stop was to David’s Bridal where the selections for larger sizes were limited. Only a few were available and the consultant was terribly busy and just didn’t understand my style at all. I had asked for lace dresses and she pulled everything but. My second stop was a tiny little boutique where I had a great experience. personal attention and all the sample dresses were available in a smaller size and a larger size to fit most everyone. For me having samples that were in larger sizes made all the difference. I hated feeling like a stuffed sausage. Oh and I love my consultant at this boutique. She held aside a brand new dress for me to see as soon as it was released, and that’s the dress I ended up buying. Good luck on your dress hunt. Try not to feel pressured and try on every style before dismissing it. I never thought I’d like a mermaid my own self. 

    Post # 12
    269 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I didn’t hate it.  It wasn’t like “OMG! I get to go dress shopping!” though either.  I went to only 1 bridal shop, knowing that that’s all we could fit in on my mom’s trip to visit me.  I tried on 15 dresses in an hour.  I wanted to choose “the dress” with my mom there and she was only going to be there that day, so I knew I had to get it that day at that bridal store.  After trying on 15 dresses, the consultant had me try on one I had vetoed from even trying on earlier….and it ended up being the one.  There were no tears, no OMG MOM! this is it!! moment.  We just were both smiling and my mom goes “I think that’s it”. And it was.  Not emotional, not stressful, just me and my mom very calmly and rationally making a decision 🙂

    Post # 13
    3076 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

    Though I ordered a dress online for my court wedding, it wasn’t the plan at first. & thus I got the experience to try a few dresses on.

    The first place I went to I think I tried on a few dresses before I even went outside to look I. The big mirror :p.  I felt so self conscious, I hated it! Then I tried on a few other dresses that were more flattering & I began to feel better 🙂 though the dresses were plain a-line lace dresses, nothing too special. 

    I fell in love with a few dresses at a high end shop, almost all of them were stunning ! They had lazaros, rivini, etc… Dresses in the $4,000+ range but I just had to try them on. 

    Then the third & last place before I gave up, was pretty boring. Nothing stood out, though a few looked okay…

    overall not that great experience for me…


    Post # 14
    1491 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I really wanted to be excited about dress shopping but to be honest it became such a PIA.  Trying to find “The One” was like trying to find a needle in a haystack made up of ivory and white.   I ended up trying on over 100 dresses across 3 states and countless dress stores.  My mom didn’t make matters any better for me, she was apathetic about dress shopping and hated about 95% of the dresses on me.  It was a bit tough to be honest.  There is a lot of pressure on girls to find “The One”….

    Post # 15
    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014


    kayjay612:  Ugh – I hated it. I went to one shop, tried on about 10 dresses, hated all of them, and that was the end of THAT. I ended up looking and buying online. I even photoshopped a picture of my face over the models faces to get the best idea of what style I liked. I ultimately purchased a replica for super cheap. At first I wasn’t thrilled with it – it was OK, but my seamstress is awesome, and I now I love it. I almost even had *that* moment at my last fitting.. <br /><br />That being said, I don’t enjoy shopping much in general, and the whole process of getting dressed and undressed is just exhausting to me.

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