(Closed) How much $$$ Did you make at your engagement party?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: At our engagement party we....

    Received gifts from over 1/2 our guests totaling less then $500.

    Made over $1,000

    Made from $2,000-$5,000

    Made out like bandits! $5,000+++

    Your friends and family are crazy gift grabbers! Don't listen to them! RUN!


  • Post # 32
    6263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I swear I dont go to engagement parties (how many events do people need?!?!) but I have NEVER heard of people giving money.

    Post # 33
    41 posts

    Well talking from my brothers engagement party (I still haven’t had mine), for 120ish guests he and his partner got about $7000. I guess that’s how it is when you have a lot of close family and friends.

    Oh and I should add that money went towards their honeymoon. Where we are from people generally give money over gifts because it’s much easier.

    Post # 34
    118 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Our engagement party is TONIGHT! We made no mention of gifts on the invite and when people asked us what we wanted, we insisted that there was no need to bring a gift however all of them were like “Ofcourse we’re going to bring a gift – or would you prefer cash??”

    It’s amazing how many people want to just give us cash or asked us if we had a “wishing well”

    @lifesaver08:  My parents were the same though, I think they think this is a great opportunity to get gifts or cash but that’s not what it means to us – it’s about celebrating our engagement! 

    Post # 35
    5317 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Wow! I didn’t have one because I felt it would be gift-grabby of me, seeing as there’s no need to celebrate the wedding before the wedding when we’re going to celebrate the wedding at the wedding (the reception). If I had had one and had been as gift-grabby as possible about it, there is no way it would have come close to funding the wedding.

    Post # 36
    1486 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    An engagement party is not a gifting event in my social circle. We had a couple of people bring bottles of wine, but the particular people who did so do that for every party including casual afternoon barbecues. I have never seen people bring gifts to any of the engagement parties I’ve attended. It’s just to get together and give everyone from both sides a chance to meet each other before the wedding. Ours was a lot of fun and was the first time our families had met (his lives out of state). But no gifts were involved or expected.

    Post # 37
    363 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Yeah I’ve always thought of a nice bottle of wine/champagne or some small monogrammed home good (e.g., picture frame, toasting flutes) as the appropriate/accepted engagement party gift. Never heard of giving/expecting cash in my social circles…

    Post # 38
    1096 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    At our engagement party, we got a token statue from my aunt, and a whole bunch of cards. Perhaps a bottle of wine or two. Nor were we expecting anything (like, really truly, not in a “we weren’t expecting but thought there might be” way.) Definitely not a money-making experience. Gifts are definitely NOT expected at an engagement party in my circle.




    Post # 39
    13666 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    @weddingmaven:  I should clarify #30 to say that most gave checks for the wedding itself but  I never got any checks or cash at all for an engagement gift.    People do bring nice gifts to engagement parties, a step above shower but not as expensive as a wedding gift.  Examples would be  appliances, trays, serving dishes, linens etc.  Never cash, though.  

    Post # 40
    1943 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Didn’t have an engagement party.  If I were invited to one, I’d probably bring a (nice) bottle of wine or champagne and a card.

    Post # 41
    1088 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I didn’t have an engagement party or bridal shower

    I never heard of anyone besides family gifting cash for an engagement.

    Post # 42
    2121 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    i never heard of engagement gifts. what with the wedding and bridal showers etc i think theres already a lot of pressure on guests to keep giving

    i had a small family dinner and my mum gifted us some engagement photos =)

    Post # 43
    564 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I’ve never heard of people paying for a wedding with the engagement party. I’ve actually only heard of people gifting cash at the wedding. Mostly at engagement parties I see people give bottles of wine, engraved picture frames and other gifts for the home. 

    Post # 44
    4078 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Um, we made nothing…(we did not have one)

    Engagement parties aren’t fundraisers. I have never, ever heard of them making a profit. Your parents are wrong!

    Post # 45
    1001 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I think it’s more common in Australia to give gifts or cash at an engagement party. I’ve given cash to all of the engagement parties I’ve attended and we received around $1000 from our family and friends, which we did NOT ask for or expect. Our engagement party was really just an opportunity for our families to meet.

    Post # 46
    377 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We didn’t have an engagement party, but we did take immediate family out for high tea when we made the announcement. In the weeks following, I was stunned and so grateful and overwhelmed when gifts/money/gifts cards arrived from family and friends. None of it was expected and all of it was given despite us not hosting an official engagement party.


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