(Closed) How much did you make your bridesmaids spend?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 137
854 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My Maid/Matron of Honor is picking out her own dress and doing her hair, nails and makeup.  I’m not picky and know she will look beautiful. 

She will be traveling from out of state and missing a day of work (she’s a school principal) so that’s enough!

Post # 138
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Dresses are being rented from http://www.littleborroweddress.com for $50.

Shoes: don’t care

Hair: don’t care

Makeup: don’t care

Everyone will be traveling except for one, so their presence is the bomb!!

Post # 139
1030 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013


Mine are probably paying about $1400. Most of that is travel costs as it is a destination wedding. 

Their costs:

1) Plane ticket $900

2) Possibly shoes and rainboots. But the only paremeters for shoes were white/ivory. So some of them already had shoes and most owned a pair of rainboots (no paremeters)

3) 4 nights of accomodation approx 250

4) Dinner and Drinks for bachelorette party (im guessing) 100

5) Dress Alterations $50

6) Shower/ wedding gift (not necessary but im just guessing approx) 100

Total = 1400. Wedding total: $250


I paid for their dresses $200 each (200 x 4 = $800) 

I paid for their jewelry ($100)

I’m providing/paying for their accomodations the night before and night of the wedding ($400)

I’m providing their their hair and make up ($800)

I’m parents are paying for 3 nights accomodation during the week, including night of the bachelorette party. My parents are also paying for the limo for the bachelorette party. ($700)

Mine and my parents total: $2,800

I still feel bad that my bridesmaids are paying so much. But I made paying for as much as possible of the wedding related stuff part of our wedding budget. I’d rather sacrifice flowers than have had my girls pay a cent more than they had to. Basically,  they are only paying for their vacation cost – all wedding costs I have provided. It’s still pretty incredible that they are forking out that much for me though. 

Post # 140
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013


I am in the US, but totally agree with you.  We do seem to have it backwards here…As a matron of honor, I do feel a slightly frustrated to be shelling out so much cash for the “honor.”  I have stopped tracking the expenses because I don’t want to know. 

Post # 141
114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

The wedding is a ways a way but this is the plan:

The girls are buying their dresses – about $150, I don’t think they will need alterations

I am not requiring the, to have hair and make-up done so nothing there.

We will probably go get mani-pedis the day before the wedding, but that is not a requirement.

They can where whatever shoes they want as loncolor they are nude colored.

I am paying for their hotels for the bachelorette party, the night before the wedding, awedding night of the wedding.

Four of my bridesmaids are from out of town so they will have to pay to fly in.

And the jewelry I am going to give them as a gift.

Post # 142
855 posts
Busy bee


they are paying travel and accommodation, but just like any other guest.

i bought their dresses (£140 each), shoes (£30 each) bras (£20) hair band (£15) and gifts (£35)

all in all, I spent about £750 on my 3 BMs.

Post # 143
2067 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My girls paid for…

Dresses – $130-140 (can’t remember for sure – MOH’s was $10 more for extra length)

Alterations – $0 (free at the boutique)

Shoes – $10-15 (Can’t remember for sure. I think they were from Payless and we got them BOGO 1/2 off)

Make up – $0 (did it themselves)

Hair – $0 (BMs did it themselves, I think I paid for my MOH’s)

Nails – $0 (did it themselves)

Jewelry – $0 (gift)

Bachelorette party – I don’t know 🙂 But it was just a group of us hanging out at a friend’s house. Everyone brought a snack; there wasn’t any alcohol. So, they paid for the snack they brought and the gift they brought. Maybe there was some cost to games etc – but, if so, very minimal

Travel – 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man lives 5 minutes away from the wedding.  1 Bridesmaid or Best Man lived 1 hour away, so she had some gas expenses for coming out for the shower, bachelorette party, and then wedding.  My Maid/Matron of Honor lived in Italy at the time (her husband was stationed there w/the Air Force).  So she had the highest travel expenses 🙂 She would’ve come for the wedding either way… She came out for the month before to help w/details etc

Post # 144
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My sister was my Maid/Matron of Honor and she paid for her dress- which was on sale for about $80 plus like $30 in alterations. She also threw me a shower, which was probably about $500 for her. I am not sure, but it was VERY nice. She also paid for her hair and makeup which was around $175, but it was optional and I told her how much it would be upfront. She also gave us a really generous gift.

Post # 145
933 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Dress $99+tax&shipping

Alterations $0-$40

Makeup we are doing on our own & they’ll wear their own jewellery too. Mani/pedis are being generously donated by a wedding guest

Hair $70

Shoes I said wear their own shoes but two BMs bought  new shoes anyway

Hotel $70 (one bridesmaid is staying in a hotel room with me the night before the wedding, and she is also staying there the night of, the other two are [email protected] family’s house. I only counted the cost of her staying with me, not the cost of her hotel on the wedding night, since she would have paid that add a guest. It’s not a bridesmaid related expense)

The grooms side paid for the wedding shower, and I don’t know what the bachelorette party will cost, but I am guessing maybe $100+ each.

Post # 146
615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

The Bridesmaid or Best Man dress is $120. I asked them to wear silver dress shoes – either flats or heels doesn’t matter as long as they’re silver and dressy.

That’s all I’m asking. I’m not paying for their participation in the bachelorette party (xtreme bowling, dinner, and then movies and drinks at MOH’s house) since my Maid/Matron of Honor is hosting it and idk if she plans to pay or they’re all paying for themselves, so that might be a bit more. But I’m not asking them to do hair, makeup, nails, or anything else.


Post # 147
9198 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were $169, i gave them $100 each towards their dress.

i am also paying for hair and makeup of whoever wants their done.

they can wear their own shoes and jewelry. 

i am not sure what they are spending on shower but i believe my mom is helping, possibly FI’s aunt with food as well.

and the bachelorette party shouldn’t be too expensive.  it’s an activity we would have done together anyway at some point.



Post # 148
15 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

The only thing I’m asking my bridesmaids to pay for are their dress and that cost roughly around $150 w/ shipping cost. I requested for them to wear nude shoes and they can do whatever they want when makeup, hair and nails. 

Post # 149
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m paying a lot more than that for the wedding I’m in later this month.  There’s the dress, alterations, hair, contribution to the shower and flights to attend the shower and the wedding.

For my wedding, I’m letting them choose their dresses and shoes.  I don’t care what they get as long as they’re the same color and length.  I’m not requiring them to get hair or makeup done either.  I plan to treat us all to mani/pedis the night before the wedding if my budget still allows for it. Two of my 4 BMs are coming from out of town so they’ll have travel costs too.

Post # 150
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Dress: $140+any alterations (it was a corset back so that reduced need for alterations to just length)

Bachelorette: Dinner+drinks

Bridal Shower: Not sure how much my sister spent but went quite out making a tea.  Other two didn’t come.

Shoes: I asked them to agree on color and they could wear what they wanted.  I think they all bought new silver strappy ones though.

Hair: They could do their own but opted for professional.  I paid $50 for them, so it was about $10+the tip.

Makeup: Did their own

Nails: Also optional, but two of them went out with me and got mani and pedi I think.  About $50 for french?

Accomodations: I asked family – sister, cousin, SIL, who would have attended regardless of wedding party status.  But if you still want to count it, 1-3 hotel nights at $100-$200 (my sister got a large room for her, her husband and son).  My cousin and sister came in early and stayed 1 extra night in Boston for the bachelorette.  My SIL didn’t attend the bachelorette and neither she nor my cousin flew in for the bridal shower (neither sent anything).  My SIL also stayed the rehearsal night at my parents house 35 minutes from the venue to save on hotel cost.

Flights: Again, cousin and SIL would have come regardless, but $150-250 pp

Post # 151
1257 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

$160 for the dress…which they all agreed was within their budget prior to me choosing it.

I am unsure about the bachelorette party because we havent done it yet but I don’t expect a blow out expensive shindig.

I gave them the option to get their hair and make up done. All chose to decline, which I am perfectly fine with. Plus one of my bridemaids is a stylist so if anyone needs assistance I am sure she will help.

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