Post # 62
I have been in 3 weddings as a bridesmaid in the last few years. Between the bridal showers, bachelorette parties , and hotels (each around $200), and then bridal shower and wedding gifts ($200-300) , dress ($200-$250), shoes ($50), hair/makeup ($150), and whatever else, I had figured I spent around $800-$1000 on each.
Post # 63
I’ve definitely been in weddings where my total cost was more than $1k… flying to bachelorette weekend & staying in a hotel in vegas alone was around $400. Flying to the wedding because it was out of town for me was $300 for me, $300 for my fiance. Dress was reasonable at $110, shoes were $50. I chose not to fly up for the bridal shower, but if I had that would have been even more. Makeup and hair was $100. So I guess without my fiance’s plane ticket, I was around $960 give or take? That doesn’t count the mani/pedi I got or the bachelorette favors.
I’d say what you paid is pretty reasonable.
ETA: Forgot about the wedding gift which we would usually spend $150 if we are also traveling/flying to the wedding… so yah, over $1k.
Post # 64
I only asked mine to buy their dresses, and they picked their own dresses from some criteria – one Bridesmaid or Best Man was able to spend as little as $50 on the dress. For the others, we did offer privately to help pay or cover the cost of the dress, but none accepted. I asked that they wear silver/gray shoes, and encouraged them to wear whatever they already owned. I also asked them to wear whatever jewelry they wanted, as long as it was metallic, preferably silver. I paid to have their hair and make-up done, and I didn’t require anything with their nails. My bridal shower was very low-key, as was the bachelorette party – both local (as were all the girls) and nothing too expensive at all. I gave them gifts for THEM, rather than for the wedding, so I hope they appreciated all that I did for them.
Post # 65
I’m trying to keep the dress price at $50 or under. I’m not requiring anything from them except for maybe the same fabric and to just match the color palette. I’m letting them choose the style because I hate the idea of forcing them to wear one of the same style they won’t all be comfortable in. If they want hair and makeup done professionally that’s totally up to them 🙂 Don’t think I’ll make them wear any specific shoe or anything. I just like the thought of free reign, if I were a Bridesmaid or Best Man I’d hate to be forced into things I didn’t want to do, especially wearing a style of dress I’m not comfortable wearing.
Post # 66
@Liss13: i spent close to $1000. That includes the dress, shoes, makeup, travel and hotel. First and last time!
Post # 67
Hair & makeup-$130
optional spa day of pampering-$95 which everyone wants to attend
3 girls are flying in because they’ve moved
And shower/wedding gifts of their choice! one bridesmaid got fi and me a week long vacation at a ski lodge!
Post # 68
Well my wedding is a destination wedding so there is that. I don’t know how much they spent on that.
But, because its a destination wedding everythign else was really afordable.
I got them the accesories.
They are doing their own hair and makeup.
Post # 69
After driving over 300 miles this week searching for bridesmaid dresses for my daughter’s wedding party, we finally settled for a Dessy dress that cost $275; a group discount of 10% basically covered the tax. I am dying to know where everyone is getting dresses for $50 to $150! My daughter’s choice of forest green as the color definitely limited the brands we could choose from, but our original budget of $150 was very unrealistic. Only one of the five girls had an issue with the cost and we will help her cover it. We have purchased matching necklaces and two pair of earrings for each girl, and hope to get them furs similar to those used in Mrs. Gray Wolf’s wedding. Shoes are their choice, as is hair and makeup. We will have a stylist and MUA at the hotel if they want to use them (makeup $25 to $40, hair $50 to $65.) Manis and pedis are optional and available at the hotel spa as a bonding activity, but there will be no pressure to get one. They will share hotel rooms and pay their own travel costs, but we were able to get a rate of $109 per night in a nice downtown hotel that usually goes for around $200. Some have family in our area and won’t need a room. I am still having sticker shock over these dresses, and now wonder if we made a mistake.
Post # 70
@Liss13: I was a bridesmaid recently and the dress new was like $350, I got it on ebay for $120 and then sold it when I was done for $150
Post # 71
I said previously that I had spent about $1000 in my friends’ weddings. My wedding is next week, and this is what my bridesmaids have paid.
Alterations About $30
Bridal Shower $10 (They just each made a food dish and my mom hosted mainly)
Bachelorette $70- We went on a dinner cruise ($40) and they each bought me a drink and had 1-2 themselves.
Hotel $20 (I had some free hotel rooms and had to reserve one more at $160 so the people staying split it)
Hair/Makeup $120 (but I did not require it)
So around $500 max and I think I did pretty good! My mom was a huge help for the bridal shower and I asked for a pretty low key bachelorette party. I know some of my bridesmaids are having financial difficulties, so I tried to help where I could.
Post # 72
I’m not making my bridesmaids pay for anything. I lost a friendship over her ridiculous expenses she wanted me to spend, and I know what it feels like to be broke, so I’m letting them chose whatever they have in their closet now.
Post # 73
@Liss13: all of us discussed the budget and what they were comfortable spending before any decisions were made.
Shoes: cowboy boots of their choosing and cost
makeup: DIY (mine will be professionally done, but I gave them the option to do their own)
hair: $50 (all of them decided to have it professionally done, but I would have been fine with DIY)
bachelorette: $200 approx. for dinner, limo service, hotel, and bar hopping
Post # 74
Wow…I don’t think $500 is all that bad. Probably average for around here and I’m in the midwest.
I’m having a hard time remembering what I spent last time I was Bridesmaid or Best Man…maybe $500. I didn’t think it was anything too extravagant. We just bought our dress, shoes, and I got a bachelorette gift and rooms/drinks/food/decor for hotel room for the bachelorette party. And I was unemployed.
Shower: ? Maid/Matron of Honor (I have 2) are hosting I’m sure they’re spending $75-100 ea. Not sure about the others or if they’re splitting it. I’m not really involved.
Shoes: wear whatever they want
Hair/makeup: I’m paying
Bachelorette: $550 for flights/rooms in Vegas. Plus spending money for 4 days. However this was not my idea, this was their idea/plan.
Hotel: Probably $50 max.
I would be perfectly happy to spend the same on each of their weddings in time.
Post # 75
Mine had to pay for their dress, which they picked out so they got to figure out a price range. The most expensive was $150. They can wear whatever shoes they want, do their hair how they want and make up. Most are going with shoes they already owned and doing their own hair and make up so really they just had to buy the dress. If they want a mani/pedi it is up to them, but it is not required. Same with jewelry. But I am a pretty laid back bride and don’t really mind that they don’t matchy matchy, they all go together though.
Post # 76
- Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor
My bridesmaids have paid so far:
I am not requiring any hair/makeup, as long as they feel pretty I’m happy. I’d like to treat them all to mani/pedis before the wedding as a bonding thing, but otherwise up to them. So total cost is $77.
The wedding I am in I have to buy $60 shoes but her parents are paying for the dresses, her sister is making them.