Oh, you do not want to know how much I paid for my friend’s wedding:
Shoes: (she let us pick, but we had to get silver) $45
Wedding gift: $500
Bridal shower gift: $145
Lingerie shower gift: $75
Bachelorette Party/Lingerie Shower planning and parties: $200
Flight to NY for Bridal Shower and Bach Party: $280
Car to NY for wedding: $300
Gas to NY and back: $200
Hotel: $125 per night for 2 nights – $250
Hair: $80 +tip
Makeup: I did it myself, but I bought some – $100 (but at least I get to keep it)
Mani/Pedi: $15 +tip
If I wasn’t the MOH/in the bridal party, I probably would have given less of a wedding gift ($300) and less at the shower ($75-100) and lingerie shower ($50), so that’s sort of why I included that in there.
I feel like there’s more than I’m missing, but that was well over $2k. But the experience of being her Maid/Matron of Honor, getting to help her plan everything, planning the showers and bach party, and being there with her on that day was well worth it! I really feel like we bonded and I had a great time doing it.
ETA: In the last wedding I was in, in 2010, I was NOT the Maid/Matron of Honor, but in the bridal party. I spent $1400. Dress was $200, alterations $80 (lesson leraned – don’t do it in the salon), bridal shower gift was $200, bachelorette party was 1 night in AC, but she wanted us all to go to the spa (but did not pay) so $400, wedding gift was $300 (guess that doesn’t count, I would have given her the same, I suppose), shoes were whatever we already owned, hair was $70+tip, makeup was $85 (again, I did my own, but still went out and bought some), nails like $20. I’m forgetting something here, but it was marginally cheaper than the other one only bc I still lived in NY. Guess it’s not the bride’s fault that I moved out of NY though.