Post # 107
I’m so freaked out about making my girls pay too much.
Dress: $180 – light purple spring dress with straps, they all love it and can wear it again
Alteractions: don’t know yet
shoes: just asked they wear nude heels of their choosing. They love it. I’m trying to see about buying them flats for later in the evening.
Hair: I asked if they could just wear it down and they all have curly hair so I can’t wait because they will look great. I am buying them hair pins.
Make up: Not required.
I’m getting my hair and make up down and they are welcome to get theirs too but they are better at that stuff than me so I want mine professional so it looks nice.
Lodging: they are welcomed to stay at our place the night before and the night of but two are married so they will probably get a hotel (probably $80-90 a might in our area). Another is my cousin so she’ll probably stay with her family in the hotel and the last has family in the area anyway.
Travel: all are traveling long distances so I may give them gas cards to help with travel
Jewelry: I bought them their necklaces.
Nails: Not asked for but I will buy them nail polish in the wedding colors in case they want it and its just nice
Bach party: no idea what they are doing but travel is involved.
i have 4 maids total so I’m hoping to get them each special gifts as thank yous for all they are putting into the wedding
Post # 108
I only have two and I was already each of their MOHs. They just agreed one $190 dresses but I let them pick out their own. They didn’t even have to match. Hair and makeup are optional. I feel bad because they are insisting I have a shower when I didn’t throw any for my friend. I did for my sister but she’s broke (her own fault but I still feel uncomfortable).
I would like them to attend, but not throw, a bachelorette party.
Post # 109
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
@Liss13: I just got engaged, but I was in what I thought to be quite an expensive wedding last summer. Here’s what I spent on being a bridesmaid:
Engagement party: $40
She had three wedding showers:
Shower 1 gift: $50
Shower 2 gift: $30
Shower 3 gift: $30
I threw the bachelorette party because her sister that was the Maid/Matron of Honor couldn’t deliver
Party favors: $100
Bachelorette party gifts: $120
Food: $50 (I had people bring dishes)
Finally when it came to the wedding I didn’t even get her a gift… I told her that I loved her and that all of my shower gifts as well as the bachelorette party had me drained. She was more than gracious and was totally ok with no wedding gift.
Bridesmaids gifts that she gave us: Jewelry for the wedding (necklace/earrings) and a bottle of Barefoot Moscato.
Grand total: $800
But…. being at her side for one of the biggest days in her life was absolutely PRICELESS!!
Post # 110
Mine Maid/Matron of Honor is paying:
Hair and Nails: I’m covering
Makeup: Will be doing her own
Not sure about the bachelorette party: Hopefully it will be less than $50 each.
Plane ticket: 1200 ish :$ eek, but she and her husband are turning the whole trip into a vacation so phew!
Post # 111
They picked their own dresses, but I did say what designer length fabric and color (after the Maid/Matron of Honor picked hers so we went by that), so it did make the range of what their dress could cost in the higher range (but my girls were hating all of the cheaper dresses they tried on, $200 for a dress is not crazy in our circle)…they each (I had 3 girls) spent about $180-220 on their dresses and whatever they needed in alterations (one girl needed considerable alterations, but had a family friend do it for very little, another only needed hemming, another needed no alterations). I told them to wear whatever silver shoes they already owned, but they all chose to buy new shoes from DSW for only like $30, but that was their choice so I don’t really count it in the “made” them spend category. I guess $200-250 depending on alterations and the specific dress chosen.
The wedding was also destination, but only 300 miles away, so we all drove down (well my MOH/sister flew in from school but my parents paid for that) and we all shared a hotel room that was out of my wedding budget so none of them paid for the hotel either. Also important to note that my MOH/sister is still in college, so my parents paid for her dress etc, my cousin/BM is still in law school living at home and my aunt/uncle paid for her dress etc, and my friend/BM is still living at home and her parents paid for her dress, etc, so even though I tried to keep costs down (and gave them a nice gift that was about the same price as their dresses), none of them actually paid out of their own pockets anyway…
Post # 112
So far all they have bought is the dress – which was $99
I’m covering hotel/transportation for the bachelorette party, so past that it’s up to them!
Not sure how we will end up doing hair & makeup..but I’m definitely not going to make them spend a ton!
Post # 113
@JackiBean: Thanks – I feel better now about the price of ours! The biggest problem for me is that the dress is worn for such a short time and honestly will probably not ever be worn again. (The style my daughter chose screams “bridesmaid!” even though it’s a really pretty dress.)
Post # 114
I had a HI destination wedding, so there were a lot of extra costs technically associated with my wedding. However, one of my bridesmaid’s dad paid for her entire trip since they came together. My other Bridesmaid or Best Man (sister) JUMPED at the chance because her and her husband love to travel and have the means. They were there for 10 days.
Dress: One Bridesmaid or Best Man paid $0 (wore a dress she already had) and other Bridesmaid or Best Man paid about $100 (her pick)
Alterations: $0. Neither needed them
Shoes: $0 (already had)
Hair/makeup: $0 (I paid)
Nails: Were completely optional, but I believe each girl paid about $50
I don’t even want to know what they spent on my bridal shower. It was really, really special. Bachelorette party hotel was at least paid for with BM’s dad’s hotel points.
Post # 115
Dress $100-135 (Since they picked their own styles of the same colored dress)
Shoes $35.00 wedges from payless
Hair $50-60/each (I am paying)
Makeup $0 (They wanted to do their own)
Maid/Matron of Honor offered to cover entire bachelorette, one Bridesmaid or Best Man offered to cover entire bridal shower.
Post # 116
The girls will only be paying for the dress and my bachelorette party (which will be dinner, laser tag, and booze in our hometown). I’m planning on getting a couple of suites so we can have a slumber party afterward. The dresses are $98 each, and I’ve already discussed it with them. I’ll pay for any alterations the girls need, they can wear their own shoes, do their own hair and makeup, and do whatever with their nails.
Post # 117
Dresses: $60 each (yay for sales!)
Alterations: Not sure on this. But there were only minor alterations like having the straps raised a bit so maybe around $10-$15?
Shoes: I told them to wear whatever black heels they owned/liked
Makeup: I told them they could choose whether or not they wanted professional makeup. Two girls opted to get theirs done ($50 each) and two did their own for free
Hair: Again, I told them they could choose whether or not they wanted to get their hair done. All the girls opted to get professional updos done, which I believe were around $80 each.
Nails: They could choose whether or not to get them done. My Maid/Matron of Honor did ($35 for mani/pedi) but the other girls opted to do their own.
They split the cost of the bachelorette party but I’m not sure how much it was.
My mom hosted my bridal shower so they did not need to contribute to that financially.
Post # 118
I don’t know how much they’ll be spending, becuase I’m just telling them to wear whatever formal black dress & shoes, so hopefully they can get something affordable or wear what they already have. I’d feel too bad to make my friends spend a lot of money on something they might never use again, so I thought this was best.
Post # 119
I am paying for dresses, hair, makeup and jelwery. I did plan for them to pay their own shoes but today we went to buy them and they only cost $104 for the two pairs (they were on sale) so i decided i would pay that as well.
All they need to pay for is any undergarments they may need and if they would like their nails done.
Post # 120
I’ve been a bridesmaid or Maid/Matron of Honor 8 times (yes, 8!). So I feel your pain. Different brides managed the costs differently. Some were over over the top where I’ve paid for everything involved on the day of AND the hotel rooms and the limo for 10 people for the bachelerotte ($700!) so I’ve dropped ~$1500. Other’s I’ve just paid for my dress/shoes or hair/makeup.
Now it’s my turn to be the bride and though I almost feel entitled since I’ve surely paid my dues, I can’t do it to my bridesmaids what some brides requested of me. I’m having a low key shower and bachelorette so I’m not too sure of the costs involved there. They paid for their dress (~$80-$150, they have different styles/colors by the same designer) and that’s it. I’m covering their shoes, hair&makeup and giving them gifts that are around ~$100/each. I just want them up there with me, look and feel beautiful, and to enjoy the day.
Post # 121
@Liss13: I’m making mine spend zero.
I’ve bought their dresses and am paying for alterations; they’re wearing their own shoes and accessories and doing their own hair and make-up. If I’d wanted a uniform look in terms of shoes/hair/make-up, I’d have paid for these too.
They are paying to stay at the venue both the night before and night of the wedding, which is costing them £140-160 each ($210-240) for both nights inc breakfast. There was no pressure to stay; they wanted to (and TBF the hotel is an absolutely stunning 5* boutique hotel)
ETA: my official bachelorette will cost people about £50-60 each, for dinner locally, followed by cocktails, followed by a club. We spend this on a regular night out so it’s no big deal, and everyone lives local, so, no travel costs.
We are also going abroad, however, I don’t class it as my hen/bachelorette: one of our best friends will be moving to Australia shortly after the wedding, so, without wishing to sound dramatic, it will likely be our last girl’s holiday for some time; possibly ever. It’s really important to us that we go away as a group ‘one last time’. But I don’t want it to turn into being about me, and have stressed that to the girls. I just want it to be the 5 of us having a blast.