Post # 47
We are paying $350 for a personalized ceremony. Seems a standard rate for my area. There is no longer an option to have someone licensed for the day, so you have to pick from a list of commissioners or use a recognized religious officiant.
Post # 48
I got lucky–my local Justice of the Peace offered to do it for free. He was actually insisting that we not try to pay him in any way, though my fiance and I are planning on at least covering his travel expenses, since he will need to drive ~45 minutes to get to our venue.
Post # 49
I think we are making a $500 donation to the synagogue.
Post # 50
We are having an interfaith cantor officiate our Christian/Jewish wedding ceremony. She charges $800 for a 30-45 ceremony. We’re also paying her an extra $65 for a personalized Ketubah. Her fee includes our unity candle, her sound equipment, wine & the “wine glass”/light bulb for the end of the ceremony, and use of her chuppah – which we are choosing not to use because we’re making our own.
We met with her prior to making our deposit for approx 3 hours, so that she could interview us to gather information for a personalized speech she makes at the end of all of her ceremonies. Supposedly she creates these unbelievable ceremonies that guest just rave about – and the ceremony is a pretty important part of getting married – so we’re willing to pay her crazy fee and not sweat it too much. It will probably be the only 30-45 of the entire day where Fiance and I will be together really taking in those moments – so if we have amazing memories of that, well, I feel like that’s priceless.
I’ve definitely heard of some clergy charging CRAZY $$$ for ceremonies though, especially if they’re basically acting as guns for hire to break a religious restriction regarding the logistics of the event. It might not be right, but you gotta do what you gotta do.
Post # 51
Ours was $300. We got $50 off if we booked her within so many days of meeting her.
Post # 52
- Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars
My dad is marrying us. He got the certificate online for $25.
Post # 53
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Yup, add us to the list of those with a friend who got ordained for free. It was awesome because not only was it cheap (we gave him a gift worth ~$75), but it was SO great to have a close friend officiate one of the most important moments of our lives.
Post # 54
$225. Our venue recommended her to us.
Post # 55
I am the winner! We paid $1500 for our ceremony/officiant. We hired a family therapist who does weddings. She includes five sessions to get to know us as a couple and to discuss any issues we are facing. She crafted an incredible ceremony that was warm, intimate, and completely us. The ceremony was important to us and we were more than okay with spending a lot of money; honestly, it was more than worth it. We got a self-uniting license (I’m atheist, hubs is Quaker) and while we wanted more than a basic JOP ceremony, we had absolutely no idea what we wanted. The woman we hired has continued to be a presence in our live, so I have absolutely no issue with what we spent.
Post # 56
We paid him $200 even though he volunteered to do it for free.
Post # 57
@FutureSully99: i got 600$ which is a good price for a city.
Post # 58
The #1 officiant we wanted in prime NYC is $500. I think that should be the max. We will have 2 meetings at least before the wedding. Possibly not a rehearsal, based on her writing schedule.
Post # 59
Ours was free, she’s a Rabbi at a congregation my family belongs to and just asked us to consider joining a synogog.
Post # 59
I’m getting married next year and stumbled upon this thread when looking into having a friend get ordained online to marry me and my fiance. We’re also in upstate NY and are finding the standard officiant fees to be moer than we were hoping, plus, we really like the idea of a more personalized ceremony that a friend could offer. Our biggest problem is the legality of it all. There seems to be super conflicting information out there. I’ve tried calling the Albany county courthouse. They directed me to the NYS Office of Vital Statistics which just directs you the website where the laws are listed and those have me super confused. Help!! Anyone out there who got married in NYS by a friend who was ordained online? I’d love to hear from you! Also interested in recommendations for JOPs for this area who cost $300 or less.
Post # 60
- Wedding: October 2015 - The Vineyard and Winery at Lost Creek, VA
We are in the DC area and all of the quotes have been around $625-700 for a 30 minutes ceremony and attending the rehearsal
Virginia allows any judge to do it and since my Fiance is an appellate attorney at a Court we are debating saving ourselves that money and asking one of them to do it. VA does allow you to get a ‘one time’ certificate for anyone to marry you, but its a $500 bond…