Post # 1
I was in a wedding a month ago and I spent about $500 but we didn’t even do a bridal shower or bachelorette party.
For my wedding I am also planning on not doin those things, maybe just a dinner or something and am hoping my girls will not have to spend nearly close to the $500 I spent.
Post # 3
The most my bridesmaids spent was $400.00. It was expensive for them, I decided to pay for their make-up and bought them earrings.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2005 - Westside Loft, New York
I spent a lot — over $1k — even though the bride paid for our dresses, hair, and makeup.
I paid for most of the bridal shower, bridal shower gift, bachelorette party in Vegas, and wedding present. But I was the Maid/Matron of Honor and it was totally worth it – she had the time of her life.
Post # 5
if you count the time i have spent taking off work to drive to california to throw a shower the most was probably close to 1300. the travel was the most expensive though.
Post # 6
I set a budget of $300 for each wedding i’m in. Local wedding. I don’t have a lot of money to spend, and if their main incentive is so i can throw them lavish parties beyond my means (which none of us are like that, all kinda young and starting out in our careers) then i’m not the Bridesmaid or Best Man for them. I can make $300 go a long way.
Post # 7
omgosh that is so much, with the given economy nowadays i dont know how ppl can be spending that much money… i have another upcomin wedding that i am a Bridesmaid or Best Man in, and they are planning an out of town bachelorette trip and i feel bad that I am so worried about the cost that I feel like i am being a bad friend if i dont end up going due to finanical cost
Post # 8
It has depended on the wedding – but the one I’m in this coming July will be about $700 – $800 including shower/bachelorette/wedding gift, dress, shoes, make-up, hair. It would’ve been a lot cheaper, but the bride asked we get the same (ugly, only wearing once) shoes and our make-up professionaly done. So to make her happy, which I would hope my BMs would do for me, I am without saying a peep! And we’re going to be SILs, so I want to start our life as sissys on a good note!
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2018 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
Wow Mrs. Bee, you are an awesomely generous friend! These wedding events are truly once-in-a-lifetime (hopefully), so I always try to remember that when I get grumbly about spending lots of money as a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I have been a Bridesmaid or Best Man 8 times and I guess I have spent over $1k a few times when the wedding was out of town. That included travel (by car), lodging, throwing a shower (at a restaurant), chipping in for the B-party, shower gifts, wedding gift, and a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress. Luckily, for some of the more expensive weddings, my mother was also close to the bride so we shared some expenses.
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2018 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
@AbbyM: You are smart. My SIL was a dream Bridesmaid or Best Man, helping with all sorts of tasks and always had a happy attitude. The whole family loves her for it. 🙂
Post # 11
I have also been Maid/Matron of Honor 3 times in the last 2 years! It adds up! At least one was mostly local. but we got a huge speeding ticket on the way home so it was expensive too 🙁
Post # 12
holy crap that’s an insane amount of money to spend! I’ve been a Bridesmaid or Best Man once, and I spent less than 200! i still thought that was a lot.
Post # 13
You guys have been lucky … without any travel, the last wedding I was in I spent well over 1000, 400 dollar dress, on-location hair and makeup was like 160, we all "had to have matching shoes" that were over 100, gel nails and pedicures (also insisted on), plus the bachelorette (her family chose to throw the shower thank GOD)
Post # 14
i was a Bridesmaid or Best Man about 2yrs ago and it cost me about $1300 for the dress, hair, makeup, trials, shoes, clutch purse, jewelery, wedding party hotel accomodation
i could have gone to a tropical island for a week with that money but oh well….. love her, dislike him. you can choose your friends but not your friends partners
my bride was kinda high maintence & the groom a self indulgent idiot. i even drove all the BM’s to the church in my white sedan to save money on a car for us (did i mention her idiot groom arrived in a helicopter so the 4 BMs drove themselves so he could chopper in)
not inc food/decorations/favours ect for the shower & hens party and gifts and i would hate to add in the value of my time for all the DIY invites/programs/favours i worked on
Post # 15
I have been one three times (if you count my MOH’s wedding which is in two months)
First time I spent about $600
Second time I spent about $400
Third time I am likely to spend about $500
I have been very fortunate that none of the women I have stood up for have asked me to do things too far outside my comfort zone (like spend more money than I can afford) and they have all been local weddings so no travel costs! My sister is now married and so are my very best girlfriends, so I can’t say that there is really anyone left that could ask me to be one in the future. I’ve loved being one, but I’m pretty happy to close that chapter so I can stop ear-marking money annually for someone’s wedding!
Post # 16
The one time I was a bridesmaid, I spent:
$170 on the dress, but $50 on alterations. Shoes $60.
About $60 on the bachelorette party/bridal shower.
Hair, mani/pedi were free as a gift from bride/bride’s mom.
Did own makeup.
Flight, about $300 (and a snowstorm hit, cancelling my flight. I was super lucky to get another one, but I nearly gave my bride a heart attack asking her how late could I be before the wedding!!)
Accomodation was free because I stayed at my parents’ home.
Gifts about $225. (one at the wedding, one at the batchelorette/bridal shower)
So the total was $865. Wow, that’s a lot. I didn’t really see it as that because the costs had been spread out. And I doubled the wedding with getting to see my family. I still wear the shoes, but I’m still trying to find a time/place to rewear the dress.
For my girls, I’m trying to keep it as cheap as possible: dress for less than $150, DIY own hair/makeup, wear own shoes. No obligation for a bridal shower or bachelorette party or gift. 2 of my girls are in Europe, 2 are way out of town, and 2 are local/semi-local; so I know for some of them the flight is going to be a killer. I hope they’ll let me know if the costs are a burden…